Asking for help is something that successful people, leaders and those who live good lives have learned to do since childhood. This is actually a sign of strength.
Why do you need help?
When you don't ask for help, you don't give others the opportunity to contribute in any way—that is, you don't allow people to show care and kindness.
You also live in this illusion of independence and actually miss the opportunity to do anything right. A person refuses to ask for a pen when he cannot find his own, but he needs to fill out a document, or ask for directions in a new city. By asking for help, you might allow your mother to give you tips on how to take care of a newborn, let a financial expert teach you how to manage your money well, and so on.
When you don't ask for help, you try to control everything yourself. But life itself finds a way to make you understand that not everything can be controlled and decided on your own. It's important to accept this in order to move on.
Asking for help is a great opportunity. Once you start doing this, you will understand how important it is to work as a team. Even if it's a hairdresser whose opinion you trust, or a self-help guru telling you the first step to take to change your habits.
It's natural that you need help, and your job is to let others help you.
This is a good way to work on your ego. Additionally, you let go of control and gain higher expectations the moment you accept the fact that you need help and ask for it.
And last but not least. Asking for help may result in you being pleasantly surprised. If you're thinking of moving to a better place or looking for a new job, for example, asking literally the first person you meet can turn into something great. You never know where the next opportunity is hiding. And you will be the one who finds her and does everything possible. But it won't appear if you don't ask and ask for help.
One of the reasons people find asking for help difficult is because they are afraid of the consequences, such as that they might need to do the same thing for others in the future. However, this is because you don't know how to do it correctly.
Here are some tips to help you do this better.
Start small
Your ego will probably not allow you to immediately ask for help, even if you really need it. So, start with simple things like:
- ask a friend for advice;
- Ask a store employee when something is unclear about a product or you can't find what you need;
- When shopping, ask the seller what he thinks.
Whether you're booking a vacation, looking to sign up for a gym membership, or looking for a new movie to watch, ask your colleagues for recommendations and try to listen to them.
Remember that it is good for the other person
Ask for help, have someone go above and beyond for you, and make sure you make that person's day better. Helping others is even mentioned as the secret to happiness.
Be direct
The easiest way is to directly ask what you need. Indeed, what is the point of veiling requests or coming from afar?
Be prepared for rejection
Yes, not everyone can or is ready to help you. And that's okay. Learning to accept rejection is another great skill to learn in life.
Look for new perspectives
Look at this as an opportunity to expand your horizons. What others share with you or do for you will completely change the way you think about a particular problem. This may lead to new ideas or ways of doing something that will solve a problem you've been struggling with. Just ask for help.
Find a mentor
Do you like the results with your first small steps and see that it helps you move forward? Then you might even consider finding a mentor or trying to provide life coaching services yourself.
Overcome the initial fear
There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Others shouldn't know about this. You may feel guilty about taking such a step, or you may be afraid that others will call you weak. But none of this matters. You want to find a way out of a situation or achieve a result, and that won't happen unless you allow someone else to step in.
Ask for help in serious matters
Sometimes, when you have problems, you need to let a consultant or specialist do their job.
If you are about to leave a relationship or even thinking about divorce, try couples therapy.
If you start to drown your sorrows in alcohol or overeating, consult a specialist and dig deeper into the problem to find a solution before it is too late.
If you want to file criminal charges, talk to an attorney from a good law firm.
In such cases, asking for help can save a life. In less serious situations, this will make your life easier.
Now you know why you should ask for help and how to do it right.
For me, my whole life has stopped and it no longer makes sense. A cry of despair and a plea for help passes by everyone. I don’t know where to write or turn. I just want to die. To be honest, I no longer believe that in our time in our world, there are honest people. , kind people who can help. I won’t cry for your health, but I can’t boast about my health, thank God, at least I’m still breathing. I haven’t asked anyone for help. But now I don’t see any other way out. I apologize and I’m ashamed to ask for help, but I don’t see a way out, I’m in great despair! How I want to believe that the world is not without good people. Maybe someone will respond and help. My name is Alexander, I’m 32 years old, I’m from Ukraine. I know many people will be scared and won’t want to help. But I’m in deep despair and I’m begging for help, whoever can. I met a girl, Ksenia, she has two children. She’s from the Russian Federation. She came to see me in Ukraine and I I went to see her in the Moscow region, not far from the city of Cheboksary. The children received me well. We decided to start a family, we knew that it would be difficult at first, but we didn’t underestimate how much, there were many difficulties, but the biggest one was housing and work. According to the laws of the Russian Federation, I didn’t had the right to work and leave the place of temporary registration, the FSB came every other day to check if I was there, this greatly depressed Ksenia and I, there was no money because I had little savings (And the children need to be fed and clothed, there is no work in her village and I need to go to the city of Cheboksary, with difficulty they temporarily registered her with friends so that they could rent an apartment and place the children in kindergarten and school, but I could not leave the place of temporary registration because she was threatened with a large fine and problems. Two states cannot divide something, and ordinary peaceful people suffer. I had to leave with pain in my heart and a stone in my soul (Since we couldn’t register me in the city of CHEBOKSARY, I had difficulty finding money for tickets and was forced to leave (08/29/2018 In the hope of earning money and returning that would like to buy an apartment in Cheboksary, register in it and draw up documents, get a job and support a family of children. Unfortunately, these problems have begun to frighten Ksenia very much and I’m afraid that we will have to separate (And I love her and the children very much, they are truly for me became family When I left, my soul and heart remained with them, the world simply collapsed for me, life stopped there, and the train took my body away (I understand that if I don’t return to them before the new year and I won’t be able to buy housing and do paperwork, then two loving people will lose each other forever (And I can’t live without them, I can’t eat, sleep or even breathe, I’m on sedatives and heart pills so that I don’t get sick at all, I’m in deep despair and depression (I don’t even want to live anymore , how not to cause trouble I don’t know what to do and where to earn money so quickly and for me it’s a lot I need 30,000 dollars for an apartment in Cheboksary In Ukraine I can’t earn that kind of money and so quickly And there’s no one to help (my mother has a hard time making ends meet, my brother will raise two children himself and can barely get by. There are no relatives who can help either, there is nothing to sell, except that he is ready to sell his life for his beloved and children. I am not able to withstand this separation, I love Ksenia and children more than their lives. I BEG YOU GOOD PEOPLE, I BEG YOU WITH ALL THE SAINTS, HELP ANYONE CAN, I AM IN DESPERATE. THANK YOU ALL IN ADVANCE GOOD HEALTH, PEACE, KINDNESS AND TRUE LOVE Forgive me for falling so low and having to ask, beg for help My phone number in Viber is +380973439851 Alexander Emeil: [email protected] PS: Yes, I really need help. But I already doubt that in our time in our world there are honest, kind people who can understand and help. Unfortunately, there are a lot of scammers around. I am in deep despair. Why don’t you take everything to the skies? I will be glad for any help, if you really help me at least then you can help. And if this is another scam, then forgive me, I don’t have anything anymore, not a ruble in my pocket, not valuables. I can only give away my tormented soul. Do you want? take her away If I accidentally offended you in some way, forgive me I am in deep despair and depression
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