There is very little left until the New Year, but there is a lot to do. Feng Shui expert Natalya Pravdina recommends entering the New Year 2015 with new strength and pure intentions, and for this you need to take several important actions that will help you free yourself from everything bad and joyfully celebrate the New Year 2015.
Clear the space
Natalya Pravdina recommends starting with this. If you want to free yourself from negativity and bad memories, then change your space! This could be a general cleaning with the removal of unnecessary trash from the house, minor repairs, interior decoration, or simply rearranging the furniture.
Pay back your debts
You should not drag old debts with you into the New Year, otherwise your financial situation in 2015 will remain at the same level. Also, we are talking not only about material debts, but also about promises made. Keep all the promises you make, this will free you from the burden on your soul.
Forgive offenses and ask for forgiveness yourself
You should not take with you into the New Year the bitterness of resentment, bad thoughts about someone, disappointment and guilt. If someone holds a grudge against you, apologize. If they hurt you, forgive this person, since nothing poisons a person’s soul more than resentment and the desire for revenge.
Leave everything bad in the old year
Take a piece of paper with a pen and write down what you would not like to see in your life in the New Year 2015. These could be bad habits, activities that don’t benefit you, people you don’t like to communicate with, etc. Natalya Pravdina advises making a list of the most unnecessary things in your life and burning it in a candle flame. This ritual will help you get rid of past negativity and unnecessary things.
Treat yourself
New Year is a time of miracles! Be your own Santa Claus and make your wish come true. Treat yourself to a gift you've been dreaming of for a long time. Do not spare money on yourself, then the Universe will see how you rejoice at your new acquisitions, and in the New Year it will send you even more wealth and prospects.
Buy gifts for loved ones
Don't leave this matter for later. Natalya Pravdina advises taking care of gifts in advance. Make a list of gifts in advance and make sure that your loved ones will like them. By giving desired gifts, you will attract a lot of positive energy, which will undoubtedly be useful to you in the New Year 2015.
Do a good deed
Do a good deed for a person you don't know well or don't know at all. Take care of animals that need help. Good always comes back, remember this.
Send a card or letter to your old friend
In our age of the Internet, mail is already going out of fashion. But how nice it will be for your old friend, who lives thousands of kilometers away from you, to receive New Year’s greetings!
Sum up the year
Natalya Pravdina advises not to be disingenuous in front of yourself and to honestly admit to yourself the mistakes you have made and the failures of the past year. Celebrate your achievements too! Ask yourself what useful things you have done this year, what bad things have happened in your life and what good things have happened. Thank the Universe for its gifts.
Make a wish
Of course, one of the most important things to do before the New Year is the ritual of making a wish. Write on a piece of paper what you want to achieve in the New Year 2015 and keep this piece of paper for the whole year. After a year, you will be surprised how many items on your list have come true!
Natalya Pravdina advises, before the onset of New Year 2015, to complete all unfinished business and draw up an action plan for the New Year. Everything bad needs to be forgotten, burned in a fire, thrown out of the house along with old things in order to celebrate the holiday with new strength and positive emotions! We wish you good luck and don't forget to press the buttons and
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“Let all the bad things remain in the old year” - this wish is heard on December 31 more often than the usual “happiness, health.” At first glance, these words seem banal and “just to say,” but if you think about it, you understand: how great it would actually be to leave all the negativity in the outgoing year.
And we will tell you how to do this.
Of course, you won’t be able to get rid of serious emotional wounds in a couple of days. But nothing stops you from at least starting. We have collected several psychological techniques that will help you free yourself from old grievances and unpleasant emotions and enter the New Year 2017 with a light heart.
1. DIRECT CONVERSATION
Do you know what half of the grievances stuck in your head are based on? On understatement. A carelessly thrown word, an unasked question “what did you mean?”, and that’s it - you can no longer get rid of the unpleasant feeling that arises every time you think about your offender.Why not find out everything right now - before the New Year? Meet, call or write - it doesn’t matter how exactly, but most importantly, talk to the one with whom you harbor a grudge. Talk about your experiences, ask “why?”, listen calmly and try to accept everything the other person says. You'll see, half of your worries aren't worth a damn. It is not without reason that they say that sometimes only one conversation separates a person from happiness.
2. OUT OF SIGHT
In many countries, before the New Year, it is customary to get rid of old trash. No “what if it comes in handy.” In Italy, for example, people simply throw unnecessary dishes, interior elements and even small-sized furniture out of windows. Have you ever thought that this is a great way to free up not only space in your apartment, but also your head from bad thoughts? We're not suggesting you throw chairs out of a high-rise window, but why not finally get rid of the things that remind you of your ex and your difficult breakup? If we are talking about something expensive, post an advertisement for sale. If it's old T-shirts or stupid cards, just throw them in the trash. You will see, the unpleasant emotions that you experienced when bumping into this or that thing will instantly disappear.3. BURN THE NEGATIVE
Psychologists say that this method perfectly helps to free oneself from negativity. Take a piece of paper, pen or pencil and write down all your grievances, fears and doubts. Don't hesitate for words, let your thoughts flow freely. Write everything that comes to mind. Offended by a colleague? Are you angry with your husband? Do you blame yourself for rarely calling your mom? Are you afraid that you will lose your job? Write everything.
Ready? Now take matches or a lighter and burn all the negativity written on the piece of paper. Shake the remaining ashes out the window. Some people are sure that it’s a matter of self-hypnosis. Others say that in this way we actually get rid of the negativity that has been accumulating in us for years. Be that as it may, such a ritual really helps. Not always right the first time. Sometimes you have to repeat it over and over again, but you have to start somewhere. The main thing is to follow fire safety precautions so as not to add problems to yourself before the New Year.
4. EMPTY CHAIR TECHNIQUE
You know that it is very important not to hush up grievances, but what to do if for some reason it is impossible to talk to the person who hurt you? Then the empty chair technique comes to the rescue. It’s very simple: you need to stay alone in a room (or better yet, in an apartment), put a chair in front of you and imagine that your offender is sitting on it. Sit opposite, choose a comfortable position and start a monologue. Talk about your feelings, cry, scream, throw pillows at the chair, you can even kick it if you want - throw out all the negative emotions that are lodged inside. You'll see, at some point you will feel tired and empty. This will be a signal that the “session” was not in vain. You may want to repeat the “talk to an empty chair” more than once or twice, you yourself will feel when enough is enough. The main thing is to allow yourself to release the negativity, do not keep destructive emotions inside.Despite the fact that the days before the New Year will be filled with work, buying gifts and hectic preparations for the holiday, try to devote at least a couple of hours to yourself. Let this time the wish to “leave all the bad things in the old year” turn out to be not an empty phrase for you. With a little effort, you can enter 2017 a little happier than you were before.
P.S. My dear friends! Happy New Year 2017!
I wish you good health, family well-being.
Thank you for being with me! Be happy! Good luck!
My dear and wonderful friends, I congratulate you on the Old New Year. Let all the bad things remain in the past, let all the good and magical things happen to you in the new year. I wish everyone peace and happiness, strong love and good luck, good miracles and great hopes, great success and excellent health.
My dear friends, I congratulate you on the Old New Year. I wish you to leave everything bad and unnecessary in the past, step into the new year with great luck and a great mood. I wish you goodness and happiness, great success and wonderful desires, amazing ideas and great happiness.
Dear friends, I congratulate you on the Old New Year. I wish you to leave all the bad things behind, and take your inner strength, confidence and determination into the new year. And let there be a bag of good luck, health and perseverance under the tree, then you, dear ones, will certainly be able to achieve everything you want in the coming year. Good luck, friends, love and prosperity!
Friends, I congratulate you on the Old New Year and I would like to wish everyone to get rid of sad memories and all sorts of mistakes, as if from a heavy and unnecessary burden. I wish everyone to start a new path to their successes and victories, and may everyone, in pursuit of their dreams, not forget about happiness, joy, friendship and love in the new year.
My beloved, good and faithful friends, I congratulate you on the Old New Year. Let all the bad weather and sorrows remain in the past, may incredible love and good joy, great happiness and great success, great luck and gallant fun await you ahead.
My dear and dear friends, may the Old New Year step on the threshold in a big way, may everything of the past become cunning, may this year bring us good luck and happiness. Let our hearts become kinder, let there be no limit and end to joy. I wish everyone bright smiles and great miracles.
The Old New Year is a wonderful occasion to congratulate you, my beloved friends, on the holiday again! I would like to wish our company to be as friendly and cheerful for decades to come! I wish us all to love and be loved passionately, I wish you a romantic personal life and great success in our hard work! Let the sun rise and set, let it rain, snow, hail, and let our friendship not weaken, but only grow stronger and grow!
“The bad will remain in the old year, but the good will come in the new!” Such a toast is often heard at a set table on the most important night of the year. Easy to say, but not so easy to implement.
We often carry a heavy burden of conflicts and quarrels with us from year to year. But you can still leave the past in the past. We have selected 9 useful techniques that will help you say goodbye to absolutely all grievances.
In a relationship
Comfort in a woman’s personal life is the key to success in everything else. But how difficult it is not to be offended by a man, to treat his words and actions more simply and to forget everything that hurt the soul. “Keeping” complaints to yourself is also harmful. What can be done?
1. Make up first. A good technique for those who quarreled right before the holiday. On the one hand, it’s terribly stupid to put up just to celebrate the New Year together, on the other hand, it’s more stupid than waiting for him to meet you halfway – you can’t imagine.
How it works. Being at a distance from the offender, losing ourselves in emotions and plunging into sadness, we fall into the power of fantasies, fears, pride and speculation. In reality, anything can happen. He didn’t want to offend you, he meant something completely different, he didn’t understand you or doesn’t realize that your feelings were hurt. In addition, often men do not know how to reconcile, do not know how to approach, but will gladly accept forgiveness. To forgive, it is important to know that the other person is also experiencing conflict.
2. Speak up. We are more afraid of ruining our relationship with our loved one than with others. Therefore, in many cases we don’t even voice unpleasant feelings. Such resentment does not seem strong, but it is precisely this that is very difficult to eradicate.
How it works. According to the principle of “lightening the soul.” It is important not to receive an answer, not to retaliate, and not to take revenge by evoking similar emotions in defiance of the offender. The main thing is to talk about your feelings. Talk about what you are experiencing: pain, bitterness, disappointment, sadness. The effect is paradoxical: your attitude towards the person changes for the better.
3. Regret. No matter how a man hurts you - criticism, inattention or ridicule - in the end, all this has nothing to do with you personally, but with his habitual reactions to habitual irritants. We know that all this comes from childhood.
How it works. In this case, a technique will help, during which you imagine your man not as an adult and strong, as now, but as a small child. In your imagination, you need to take this baby in your arms, comfort and calm him down. The formidable figure of the offender, against which you are powerless, decreases and ceases to cause anger and anger.
In friendship
In many cases, our close environment influences us more than our family. We choose our friends ourselves, so they often understand us better, but also know our weaknesses better. The betrayal of a friend is perceived more sharply; it can deprive us of normal communication for a long time and even change our attitude towards ourselves. You shouldn't leave such things to chance.
1. Wish you happiness. It sounds outrageous if we are talking about the person you think has benefited from the situation when you have lost. Why on earth, for example, should you be happy for your friend who stole your man? But if you look at it from a distance, a person decides to do such actions only by feeling deprived.
How it works. Louise Hay, a writer and author of best-selling psychological books on self-help, advises with this exercise to imagine the offender on stage and mentally gift him with a happy situation and joys. After this, you need to “get up” on stage yourself and also recharge with happiness. Happy people do not harm each other; for them there is no point in being offended.
2. Mentally take revenge. This is similar to the famous exercise of Japanese clerks with an outburst of anger on a stuffed boss. Conditional “punishment” of the offender provides relief. By imagining what exactly you wish for the “traitor,” you can calm down.
How it works. When resentment exists in the form of sad thoughts, it is blurred, elusive, and difficult to destroy. Anger is a more specific feeling, this meaning is conveyed by the sayings “it is better to be angry than offended” and “they carry water on the offended.” In addition, we often feel guilty for wishing evil. Having tried to “deal” with the enemy mentally, we can make sure that we are not so angry with him.
3. Conquer pain. Resentment sits in us like a thorn; it is almost invisible, but still not part of a healthy organism. And every time we accidentally touch an injured area, we suffer and run away from these sensations. What to do? Remove carefully.
How it works. Try to restore to the smallest detail all your experiences about this. Having felt all the most unpleasant things, literally imagine how, overcoming the fear of pain, you take out the offense, like a foreign object, and throw it away. It is important to catch the relief immediately after you get rid of these feelings. You are healthy and this sadness will not return again.
In family
Connections with parents and older adults who are authoritative for us are not so consciously realized. Therefore, children's grievances go away more slowly, but saying goodbye to them is very important. New Year is a family holiday, but the celebration is often overshadowed by echoes of old conflicts and dissatisfaction with each other.
1. Change the script. Including the holiday script. Any complaints or other behavior of parents offends us due to the inability to solve everything on our own. This is a memory of childhood relationships when we didn’t really have this right. Now there is, so we are offended by ourselves.
How it works. Write two behavior plans. Plan A how everything usually happens, how the participants in quarrels behave (you, your parents, brothers and sisters), plan B how you would like. This will help you break the pattern and begin to change your role. The roles of other heroes will change after the fact. There will be no room for grievances here.
2. Find your benefit. Family relationships are associated with trust, but life corrects these beliefs. It is difficult for us to allow ourselves to bargain with our family, to make a deal with them, although we easily do this in love or at work. We expect understanding from the family a priori. At the same time, taking your interests into account is normal for any relationship.
How it works. If it is to your advantage not to be offended, don't be offended. Does resentment torment you? What will you get if you decide to forgive? Freedom, joy of communication, closeness with family. The benefit can be both material and moral. Forgive to get help, praise and attention? Why not.
3. Forgive just like that. The idea of forgiveness as such is inherent in the nature of any living creature, so animals and children do not hold anger in their souls for long and quickly return to pure feelings of love and affection. This is how religious feeling also helps to forgive - simply by letting go of the past.
How it works. Dealing with old troubles is painful, difficult and energy-intensive. In any case, in reality this no longer exists. By letting go of the situation, you start from scratch and a clean slate. Even if the offender remains at the mercy of his emotions, your mood can inspire him too.
Even if you are an ultra-decent person who is not prone to hoarding, before the New Year it won’t hurt to conduct an audit so as not to drag anything unnecessary into a bright future, be it things, thoughts or emotions.
1. If, then perhaps they couldn’t resist and remembered not only the good things. If not, now is the perfect time. Remember what mistakes you made, what ridiculous situations happened to you.
If the situation has already been worked out, it will not bring you unpleasant emotions. And if not, it’s time to work it out and not drag these mistakes and failures into the future.
So, write it down on paper (this is important!) list of mistakes and failures, problems and troubles. Analyze each situation: how it could have been prevented, what you personally could have done to make the situation turn out more favorable.
Replace the image of an unpleasant moment with a positive one and play it in your head several times until you believe that it happened. This way you will remove the emotional charge and get a fixed algorithm of actions for the next time if this happens to you.
Thank the situation for the lesson learned and let it go. For symbolic closure, burn the list, scatter it in the wind, or flush it down the toilet. As a last resort, give it to the office “crocodile” to be eaten, or send it to the electronic trash can if you are too lazy to pick up a pen.
2. Look what remains undone on the list of tasks for the current year. What else can you do? It is common for Russian people to overthrow mountains in limited time. Use the moment to explode your productivity.
3. Review your task list for long-term tails. Those things that are rewritten from year to year, but are not done, require special attention. It’s useful to look through them and figure out exactly why they don’t become done (you can use my mini-book). Perhaps they can be crossed out and forgotten without harm. Or do it in the near future, having sorted out the reasons for the downtime.
4. I think that most of my readers have long understood piles of things, if there were any . However, even the most decent people may not notice how outdated something is in the whirlwind of things. Look at your material possessions with fresh eyes. It's time to get rid of:
- broken (for example, repair);
- irrelevant and unnecessary: old-fashioned dresses, obscenely worn linen, gathering dust;
- unclaimed (new trousers that you have not worn even once in 4 years);
- unloved: something that wastes space, despite the fact that it does not give you joy (of course, you shouldn’t throw away what you don’t like and need).
- Disassemble books, magazines, documents, guides, instructions and warranty cards from non-existent equipment.
- Place broken pens, dried-out refills, used batteries, lonely keys, etc. in the trash or other appropriate places.
- If possible, get rid of anything that has unpleasant memories.
5. Take yours apart electronic treasures:
- Unsubscribe from mailings that you never read. If it’s a pity, make a list of “good unsubscribed mailings” so that you can return to them when you have time and the mood to read (in fact, never, but let’s pretend).
- Delete temporary files on the desktop and in downloads.
- Organize your photos:
- remove duplicates and similar images;
- send poor quality footage to trash;
- say goodbye to photos that evoke negative emotions in you;
- wave your pen at the pictures where they didn’t come out well;
- structure the rest for convenient use.
- Tear down the programs that you never use. Clean the archives of outdated boot files.
6. Scan your relationships. Make a list of your moral hooks with other people: grievances, omissions, moral and material debts, unfulfilled promises. Try to complete what you promised (or at least confirm your obligations and return dates), resolve any misunderstandings, apologize for the insults you caused and forgive for what you received.
If a conversation with a real person is impossible, pour out your emotions on paper/in electronic text. You can only send this to the recipient if it will improve the relationship. In most cases, it is enough to write a letter of grievance, throwing out all your negative emotions, thoughts and expectations, burn it and close this topic. You can put an end to it by washing away the remnants of resentment in your soul and rewarding yourself with something pleasant.
7. Review your automatisms, obsolete installations. What actions of yours do not bring you benefit, joy, or results? What do you do simply because it is accepted or used to? These can be destructive actions, such as drinking alcohol, smoking and the habit of shouting at loved ones. Or simply unnecessary movements that do not affect the result, like how to remove strawberries from jam during the cooking process so that they do not fall apart.
What do you want to leave behind this year? Fold it and send it to the archives.
Thank you, ..., thank you for your service and lessons taught! Goodbye!
