Too strange and too mysterious . A woman is supposed to have some kind of mystery and zest in her. But when there are too many raisins, and the mystery becomes spontaneous, then the man collects things and draws conclusions - the male brain is simply not adapted for such things.
What should be understood by "Too mysterious and too strange"?
Does not deny men, and seeks to create a couple. She always tries to keep herself in shape, is very sociable, attractive and sexy. When she is invited on a date, she comes up with a thousand pretexts so as not to give a specific answer for as long as possible and thereby torment the man.
When the boyfriend calls at the time appointed by her, he simply does not answer the phone. Rarely makes the right decision.
Strive to complicate relationships, make them the same as in Mexican TV series or romance novels.
Plays games invented by her and understood only by her. In this case, the man is in a state of constant shock or tension.
So sooner or later, the man's psyche can't stand it, and he goes to the one who can quickly make a decision and answers the phone.
Selfish woman. Such a woman is beautiful, ambitious, sexy and very spoiled. She is well aware of her appearance and uses her charms to get things done.
Men fly on such as on fire. But sooner or later, they get burned and scattered, as they notice that such women communicate and flirt with those who can help make their dreams and ideas come true.
Or maybe not only flirt?
Wealth hunter . And this type of women strive for a luxurious life, but do not want to earn money themselves - therefore, they can easily marry an 86-year-old millionaire only so that he provides for their whole life. By the way, most wealthy people perfectly calculate this type of women.(men of age do not count) and try to stay away from them, so as not to say goodbye to half of their fortune later.
Women with too high expectations. Such a lady in a relationship is guided by two things: her expectations and her negative experience. This means that she will always make excessive demands on the candidate, which, of course, he will not justify. Moreover, you will always transfer the experience of your past relationships to new ones, thereby sometimes even sabotaging them, since you will always think badly about your companion.
Such a woman would rather accuse a man of all mortal and not so sins than admit her own mistake. She will slowly harass the man until he escapes. And as per the scenario - she will be an innocent sheep, and he will be a malicious deceiver.
Too changeable nature. This type of woman changes her mind every 2 minutes - she cannot make a definite decision, her mood changes at lightning speed. You never know what will happen next.
What is most interesting, such a woman is well aware of her shortcomings and in a moment of calm she realizes that she was wrong and apologizes, apologizes and apologizes. But sooner or later a man will get tired of such unpredictable weather conditions - after all, sometimes you want peace.
know-it-all . You know everything in the world, just a walking encyclopedia. It's great that there are people who are interested in everything, but such ladies are not limited to encyclopedic knowledge. They try to impose their opinion on a man, they try to prove their eternal rightness.
It just infuriates men when they think out and establish a dictatorship for them, and such women do just that.
bitches . Despite the huge number of manuals on how to become a bitch, men are not at all eager to marry such. You can be a shark at work, but at home you need to become more friendly, or something.
Bitchy natures only attract attention, but they quickly get tired of them.. Such women do not appreciate men, and believe that all men are bastards.
Feminists . This is already a diagnosis. Although, perhaps, among them there are few who want to get married. And even if there are, they will drive a man crazy with their ideology.
In general, men next to such a woman have nothing to do. She knows how to do everything herself, and men are just an application.
Women who constantly complain. They have a bad job, their shoes are tight, they can't meet Mr. Perfect. Such ladies always whine, everything is always wrong for them. They are the most miserable.
The most helpless. And men do not like the unfortunate and helpless.
A woman who organizes total control. She controls every aspect of a man's life, from underpants to his friends. A normal, adequate man will immediately run away.
Women who don't know how to behave. This means that they drink, swear, rage, fight. Why does a man need such a woman if he has such friends!?
The woman who flatters . It is not so difficult to recognize her - she will always tell a man only what he wants to hear. And this will continue until the wedding.
Probably, I will not reveal any secret if I say that most women want to get married and have their own family. Even in our emancipated age, the age of the sexual revolution and freedom of morals, these feminine aspirations remain unchanged. Of course, you can object to me that some of the women, they say, do not need this at all, you can give examples from the life of your acquaintances and girlfriends. I will not argue on every occasion, because I am not writing in order to convince absolutely everyone and everything that I am presenting.
Women's problems associated with the creation of a family can, in fact, be reduced to one thing - "why exactly I can't do it." Yes, of course, you can take another psychological position - they say, "all men are bastards", and they cannot appreciate me - all so tender and airy, harmonious and loving. It is easier with the first ones, because they recognize and accept the fact that something does not work out for them or they do something wrong, and therefore - something needs to be done about it. With the latter, it is somewhat more difficult, because first a person must recognize for himself the presence of something obvious and important in himself and in life, which does not satisfy or does not suit, and only then is a correction possible.
Without a doubt, if a woman asks questions why she is not married, this indicates a clear misunderstanding of herself, her behavior, and, of course, the psychology of men. Quite often, I encounter women's bewilderment about the fact that men are immediately ready to marry some unattractive and plain, from their point of view, women, and some meet 2-3 times - and that's it! The eternal female maxim: "How difficult it has become to please modern men!" - just clearly reflects the very female misunderstanding of the psychology of the stronger sex.
On the other hand, the existence of a fairly large number of male sites and groups on the Web shows the presence of a large number of prejudices and stereotypes among men themselves, which, in turn, often shows a complete misunderstanding of the thoughts, words, deeds and actions of the weaker sex.
There you can read a lot of interesting things, where men share their advice and their bitter experience about which ladies should be feared and avoided, which women are better not even to meet. And in such groups and on such sites, in my opinion, not only is born, but also fixed in the behavior of men's misconceptions about women, and vice versa. Only very naive people still believe that they can understand themselves and the psychology of the opposite sex by reading the opinions of 10-50 dilettantes like themselves in interpersonal relationships.
Well, let's try to somehow classify the prejudices and stereotypes created by men about women and about which women should be married.
Entertaining stervology
Whoever says that bitchy women especially appeal to men, but in practice, men themselves rarely seek to marry such women. However, there is a fairly significant number of benefits for the so-called. "stervology" with typical names - "How to become a bitch", "I want to be a bitch", etc. Some psychologists even open courses in which they teach this very stervology.
What it is? Tribute to fashion? Any special trend in the development of modern interpersonal relations in Russia? In general, this is not entirely true. Bitchy women have often met before, they still exist now, and are unlikely to disappear in the future. This is a certain psychotype of women, formed for certain reasons.
Some men like bitches. Among men there have always been and are such lovers of spicy. I noticed that such men often lack thrills in life and at work. When they start a relationship with this type of woman, they find new adventures, new feelings, new emotions. The presence of this phenomenon can also be explained by the fact that bitchy women tickle a man's nerves, create piquancy in relationships; they seem to balance on the verge of what is permitted and what is not permitted in a relationship. Nevertheless, such relationships for me, as a consultant, are very reminiscent of walking on a tightrope over an abyss - you don’t pass all your life, sooner or later you will break and fall.
Bitchy natures attract attention well, but they quickly get tired of them, they tire, in the end there is an ever-increasing desire to take a break from them over time. Life itself, analysis of family relationships confirms this. Well, men do not aspire to marry such ladies, although they can willingly enter into short-term relationships, because they quite rightly believe in advance that such women, deep down, do not appreciate and do not love men. And such women, in turn, intuitively understand this and begin to consider in retaliation that, on the contrary, all men are bastards.
The most intelligent and advanced ladies from the studied breed quite clearly distinguish between two hypostases: "I'm at home" and "I'm at work." At work, she can be a shark, any kind of bitchy boss, but at home she becomes a more friendly, soft, weak, kind, and even gentle cat. But if a woman does not accept such a division of her role, then this is fraught with the creation of conflict situations in the family and big problems with her husband, up to the breakup of the family.
So, despite various trends, fashion, modern advanced relationships, the majority of the male population in our country still prefers not to start a family with bitchy women and tries not to live with them for a long time, preferring all the same normal or ordinary ones.
Man's wallet hunter
Unfortunately, this type of modern women from year to year began to meet in Moscow and large Russian cities more and more often. There are several reasons for this: an all-consuming desire to live well, eat deliciously and drink sweetly, the desire to escape from the provinces at any cost, the desire to quickly make a “good” career, and an all-encompassing passion for banal consumption, etc.
Women of this type most often strive only for a luxurious life, so they are not at all interested in ordinary men, their goal is to find someone who would provide or - even better - provide her all her life in the future. Most often, the victims of such hunters are elderly, well-to-do men. The selection criterion is as simple as 5 kopecks: the main thing is that a man has money, and the more money, the better. Among other things, such women often do not want to earn money themselves. Most often, such women are quite beautiful, tall and slender, they are well aware of the price of their external data, their charms.
For most ordinary men who, in the opinion of these women, do not earn enough money, these huntresses do not pose a danger for one single financial reason.
Surprisingly enough, most young wealthy people are great at identifying this type of woman and try to stay away from them. But aged men, perhaps, are easily caught in such arranged female traps. For some reason, neither the experience of the past years, nor the knowledge of people, nor worldly wisdom helps them. So I think, or maybe this is happening to confirm the well-known truth: when God wants to punish someone, he deprives him of his mind.
Greedy selfish woman
Usually such a female type looks something like this: bright, beautiful, sexy, purposeful, ambitious. She knows how to dress beautifully, carefully looks after herself, although she is very spoiled. She is not only well aware of the power of her female charms, of her external data, but also skillfully uses them to achieve her goals.
Men always like these, they flock to such as moths to fire. It is easy to communicate with these young ladies, brag to friends, flirt, have a good time, but only as long as she needs something. Once they achieve their goals, they easily end all relationships and move on over the heads of their fans without regretting anything or anyone.
Most men sooner or later get burned about them. When something is noticed in the behavior and actions of such women, or when they begin to understand that they were simply used and then thrown away as a used and unnecessary thing. For some men, women of this type break their hearts, for others they break their wallets, for others they break both.
How can you recognize these women? How to save yourself? Alas, any advice and wishes are powerless and quickly forgotten. Men, getting into the circle of such ladies, for some reason completely forget about their logical thinking, about their mind, about their life experience. It seems to them that they themselves are so interesting as a person that they fall for such a simple bait. Although every man knows a famous anecdote:
Girl I can teach you the art of love...
"And how much are you going to spend on my education?"
Unlike the purse hunters described above, this category of women is most often smarter. They are more intellectually developed, more well-read, they can carry on a conversation, they can admire, they can get into character and perfectly play the role they need. They like to make money, make a career and manipulate people, but everything is subordinated to one thing - money, money, money and everything that this money represents. They have some kind of almost pathological passion for money, which they always have little, no matter how much they have.
Strange as it may seem, but often the same thing always betrays them with the head: you can’t always play and pretend. There comes a time when they come out of the image they have created. It is enough for them to relax a little internally, lose concentration, and then for a second or even a minute they become themselves. Often this moment is enough to look into their inner essence and understand what kind of bird it is.
Too strange and too mysterious
There is a common opinion in society that a woman should have some kind of mystery, a zest or something. For men, women themselves, their logic, their behavior sometimes seem so alien, incomprehensible and unpredictable that this gave rise to a lot of anecdotes, parables, stories. Many men struggle unsuccessfully with this kind of clue for years. Although why puzzle your whole life over something that even the women themselves do not know?
In addition, it gives intergender relations a special charm and piquancy. These female actions, deeds, thoughts, feelings, unpredictable for men, are best viewed not as something alien and dangerous, but as decorations of our life. It is they who give flavor to relationships, help to make life not so monotonous and monotonous. They are like toys on a Christmas tree, however, and the New Year does not last the whole year.
Nevertheless, when there are too many such raisins and mysteries, or a woman makes the relationship so overly sharp or sweet, then everyone can already like it, such spontaneous and chaotic relationships turn out. Life turns into a nightmare, "brain removal". And the male brain is simply not designed for such things. A man can endure a lot for a long time, but when such a woman literally “eats away” his brain every day with a teaspoon, it is unbearable and always ends in a scandal. Sooner or later, a moment comes when a man runs out of patience, he draws conclusions, collects his things and leaves.
Thus, we get at the output that the presence of a riddle and zest in a woman is good, pleasant and necessary. And any excess and excess, whether it is too hot, sweet, spicy, sour, is no longer good. So, probably, it happens with a good cook: he put as much spices as needed - the dish was a success, shifted or did not report - he ruined everything. It is precisely this that some of the females simply do not understand. On the other hand, probably not every woman can be a good "cook" in a relationship with a man.
What does the psychotype of this kind of women look like, what is typical for them, what drives them? Let's try to figure it out calmly and without haste. These women can be quite outgoing, attractive and sexy. They try to always keep themselves in shape. They do not ignore men, they strive to build relationships with them and eventually get married.
Along with such generally positive and pleasant character traits, they are characterized by some oddities that men either do not understand well or do not understand at all. For some reason, they want to constantly complicate relationships, even make these relationships the way they are in romance novels or Latin American TV shows. To do this, they may not take the phone when the boyfriend calls at the time appointed by her. Or when he asks her on a date, she comes up with a thousand excuses to avoid giving a specific answer for as long as possible. A man has a misconception that his woman is playing some kind of games invented by her and understandable only to her.
Most often, behind this lies the desire to test the feelings of a man, torturing him in this way. At the same time, a woman often forgets that her man will be in a state of constant shock or tension. How long can he remain in this state? Every man has his own limit of patience. And sooner or later, a man's psyche may simply not stand up, and he goes to another, to one that can quickly make a decision and answers the phone.
Too changeable nature
There are women in the world who do not know what they need. In general, this is present to one degree or another in many ladies, but here in this section we are talking about extreme forms of such uncertainty and volatility. Some ladies can change their desires, their opinions almost every 2 minutes - they cannot make any definite decision, while their mood also changes at lightning speed.
Some understand this as female mystery, female unpredictability, which are allegedly characteristic of all the fair sex. This is, however, an overgeneralization. For such women, who are described in this group, their behavior in life is often perceived even by them as a punishment. They want to do everything as best as possible, but they are not sure of themselves and that they are right. That is why they often make mistakes: they try to do everything as best as possible, but the result is the same as always.
Such women are often quite smart and well aware of their shortcomings. They understand that they made a mistake, or even a mistake, and begin to apologize for a long time and stubbornly, the more they drop themselves both in their own eyes and in the eyes of a man, thereby lowering their personal self-esteem even more.
Next to such a woman, a man never knows what will happen next, what else she will do or do. This keeps the psyche in a state of excessive tension and anxiety, at times it may begin to seem to him that he himself is doing something wrong.
And, as a natural result, a man will get tired of such unpredictable weather conditions, of such frills in relationships and behavior. He still at least sometimes wants peace, stability and predictability from his woman. Few people enjoy living on a volcano.
With high expectations
Probably every woman always expects something from her man. And it is right. After all, it was not without reason that for the sake of their beloved women, men performed both feats and stupidities, created masterpieces of literature and art, literally worked miracles. It is not without reason that the expression "to get the Moon from the sky for her" has been preserved among the people.
But in this section we are talking about women with too high expectations. Therefore, when such a woman begins to build relationships, she is guided by what she has. And she has, most often, only her expectations and her negative experience. And since her previous experience was negative, it seems to her that she underestimated her requirements for the gentleman the previous time. And if so, you need to make them quite high, let him suffer, let him fulfill them. And even if he copes with such requirements, instead of encouraging him, new, even more complex and difficult ones will be put forward. However, most likely, the candidate simply will not be able to fulfill them, will not justify her hopes and expectations.
Humanly, it can be understood: there was once the bitterness of disappointments, the fear of a new failure and negative past experience prevail over it. Based on this, such a woman initially begins to think badly about her new gentleman, to suspect him of everything unseemly and bad. Any of his oversights, even accidental ones, will be built almost into a crime, hidden malicious intent will be sought out in everything.
This means that such a woman will always make excessive demands on the candidate, which, of course, he will not justify. Will she be able to admit she was wrong? Most often, no. After all, how much easier it is to accuse a man of all mortal and not so sins than to admit his own mistake.
In addition, next to such an unfortunate woman are her friends. And since like attracts like, it should be expected that her environment is most often the same as her. Paradoxical as it may seem, but often these "closest friends" are the last thing they want her to do well. There are many reasons for this: she will get married, and she will no longer need her friends who are losers, but the next failure of her friend in life, on the contrary, confirms in practice that there is no happiness in life, that all men are bastards, etc.
And how long is even a loving man inclined to endure his chosen one, if she slowly and methodically harasses the gentleman every day? I don't think it's very long. If she doesn't stop it, he will run away. And she will remain so pure and romantic, a kind of innocent lamb alone and abandoned, and he will remain forever in her eyes and the eyes of all her friends as a malicious deceiver. Fiasco in relationships and weak negative moral satisfaction.
know-it-all
There are people who know everything about everything. Apparently, everyone has come across these people at least once in their life. Indeed, it is very pleasant and useful to talk with a person who knows a lot. And it's just wonderful that there are people who are interested in everything, who know a lot, who can simply and intelligibly explain complex things. I wish there were more people like this.
However, unfortunately, most often there are only know-it-alls - people who have only a superficial idea of \u200b\u200bmany things. They do not have the depth of knowledge, but they are ready to literally talk about everything and judge like experts. And this personality trait in men often causes bewilderment, if only because it is impossible to know everything, to understand everything at the professional level.
In our country, I have to deal with a strange phenomenon every day: in our country, almost everyone understands thoroughly and professionally in politics, psychology, education, and medicine. So "good and deep" that it's easy to give advice like "professionals".
This is a special type of people who simply cannot live, so as not to tell everyone and everyone how to do something correctly, how to act correctly in this or that situation, how to properly educate, etc. And if this is in relation to men to some extent still somehow acceptable, then when women know-it-alls try to impose their opinion or when they try to prove their eternal rightness to a man, this literally infuriates Russian men.
After all, we must understand that we live in a country in which for many years a certain idea has developed about what a man and a woman should do, how they distribute roles in the family, what a man should do in a family, and what a woman should do. These roles may be somewhat different and different in each family, but women should not forget that these ideas are extremely stable and cannot be easily discarded or ignored. And according to these ideas, most men are pissed off when women think for them, when they decide and establish a dictatorship for them. Unfortunately, this is exactly what women often do, often sincerely not understanding what they are doing.
Provides total control
A certain kind of the above category of ladies is a woman who wants to control all aspects of her man's life, whether it be her boyfriend, her husband or son. And such control can include literally everything from his buddies and colleagues to his underpants.
These are endless and frequent phone calls, maybe even surveillance, this is the control of all correspondence and calls, the contents of pockets and notebooks. All, probably, and not to list. And does it make sense?
It is one thing when such behavior of a woman is observed in a family, when spouses live for a long time, when certain relationships and stereotypes of behavior have already developed. Then it kind of "entertains" the spouses in their daily affairs and worries, gives some piquancy to relationships and feelings. But it is completely unacceptable when a normal, adequate man faces such total control. The likelihood that he will immediately run away is incredibly high.
Women of this type are characterized by a rather high level of anxiety and anxiety, often against the background of a depressive state. They often have a low level of personal self-esteem against the background of an overwhelming level of anxiety. The reasons for the formation of such a personality lie in the upbringing received in the family, the presence of non-adaptive stereotypes of behavior, distrust of everyone and everything in the world.
It may seem strange, but a properly conducted course of psychotherapy allows literally everyone to become adaptive and successful, to get rid of such complexes. And as soon as anxiety decreases to the norm and excessive anxiety disappears, a woman becomes a completely different person - adaptive and successful in interpersonal relationships.
Women who don't know how to behave
It is a pleasure for every man to show his relatives, acquaintances, friends, and any significant people to him his girlfriend, his woman. It is important for him what impression she will make, how she will be appreciated from all sides.
And if a woman does not know how to behave correctly in society, with her man in some specific situations? If a woman drinks, rages, fights? In other words, with all her behavior she shows that she is modern, relaxed, independent, just like a man. Even with the same manners as his.
Probably, it is customary to spend time with her in a male company - a sort of shirt-guy. But sooner or later, a man will have a question: why do I need such a woman, if I already have such friends, have someone to drink and talk with, have someone to argue with and even quarrel with.
In other words, a woman, striving to be more relaxed, more modern, strives to become "her own" person in men's eyes, to gain equal positions. Hence her behavior, her manners, more reminiscent of men than women. Yes, it is easy, fun and pleasant for men with such ladies, but to take and marry such a woman is already too much.
Women who constantly complain
We live in an era of change, a period of crisis. And no sooner does one end than another sets in, and sometimes one gets the impression that the crisis is one and the same constant, only under different masks. Therefore, we often hear constant complaints around us: about the work of transport, about traffic jams, dismissals and layoffs, about bad bosses, about negligent officials, about the indifference of the authorities. Anyone can continue the list if they wish.
When constant complaints are heard from the lips of women or men - well, there is no prospect, there is no gap in life - one involuntarily wants to stay away from such people. Each of us has many of our own problems, and there is simply no desire to listen to the problems of others, and even more so to plunge into them.
Among the fair sex, you can often meet those who are not satisfied with everything in their lives and in the world around them. Everything makes them feel bad: their work is bad, and the climate has deteriorated, and there is no way to buy good shoes. Yes, and the men, they say, are completely worn out and spoiled, you won’t find a real man with fire during the day. Personally, I have always been curious: what do these kind of women mean by the definition of "real man". And, you know, oddly enough, I was not lucky enough to hear a clear definition of this concept.
And of course, such ladies always whine, complain, moan how bad they feel, that everything is always wrong for them, how they are the most helpless, how unhappy they are. Most likely, they proceed from the fact that men tend to protect the unfortunate and weak. Yes, men protect the weak, help the unfortunate, men like to be strong, powerful, protectors. But not literally everything! Not all the same life to do everything for them even for trifles! Yes, it is possible and necessary to protect, sometimes even regret it, but who would like to do only this all his life. Especially when these same men, on occasion, are convinced that their ladies quite often are not at all as weak and powerless as they position themselves. And when they get tired of it, or they understand that this is such a game, or this is a special life position of a woman, aimed at manipulating both their men and everyone around them, then they simply disappear from the lives of such ladies.
The woman is left alone, in the position of an unfortunate and abandoned by an insidious and ungrateful man.
The woman who flatters
Some ladies believe that if they constantly tell a man only what he is pleased to hear, then their relationship will be good and long. It must be admitted that men like it when women do and say so. And a lot of men fall for it.
However, such female tactics can be effective and successful only before the wedding, up to some point. When the woman's goal is achieved, and she becomes herself, her chosen one will be surprised to find a completely different creature around him, not at all that smart woman who understands everything, but a vixen with her own opinion and her own interests. Isn't this one of the serious arguments for divorce and disappointment in marriage in the early years?
And if a woman really does not have her own opinion about anything, will he like such a wife after the wedding? It's still the same question.
Feminists
I included this category of women in the review only for the reason that in recent years there has been a slight increase in representatives of this direction. We must pay tribute to these women, they themselves do not really want to get married. They have other life priorities. They have different goals in life. The most you can do for them is to respect what they believe in - the idea of feminism.
Often such women themselves can do everything, do not need anything. They are ambitious and purposeful, they make a good career, they, in my opinion, have a mindset approaching the male, and the man himself for many of them is just a nice application, the main thing is that he does not burden them too much with himself and his existence next to her .
But if there are such feminist ladies who managed to get married, then in such a marriage it is very difficult for a man to be with her, she can literally drive her crazy with her ideology. It is unlikely that a man will stand with her for a long time, most likely he will run away when he realizes that he has nothing to do next to such a woman. A number of cases of unsuccessful family therapy can be explained by this.
After all, it is not for nothing that men themselves, far from psychology, say that a feminist woman is a diagnosis, it is not treated. Even if this is so, then men should still be more respectful of the beliefs of such women. You may not love them, you may not live with them, you may not share their ideas, but you must respect their life credo.
It is believed that women themselves scare away men with their behavior. There are actions that the male sex is ready to put up with, and there are actions that scare him, which is why they divide women into categories. So, the hit parade of those ladies who, according to some men, should be bypassed and, moreover, should not be married. Too strange and too mysterious. A woman is supposed to have some kind of mystery and zest in her. But when there are too many raisins, and the mystery becomes spontaneous, then the man collects things and draws conclusions - the male brain is simply not adapted for such things. What should be understood by "Too mysterious and too strange"?
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So sooner or later, the man's psyche can't stand it, and he goes to the one who can quickly make a decision and answers the phone.
Selfish woman. Such a woman is beautiful, ambitious, sexy and very spoiled. She is well aware of her appearance and uses her charms to get things done. Men fly on such as on fire. But sooner or later, they get burned and scattered, as they notice that such women communicate and flirt with those who can help make their dreams and ideas come true. Or maybe not only flirt?
Wealth hunter. And this type of women strive for a luxurious life, but do not want to earn money themselves - therefore, they can easily marry an 86-year-old millionaire only so that he provides for their whole life. By the way, most wealthy people perfectly calculate this type of women (age men do not count) and try to stay away from them, so as not to say goodbye to half of their fortune later.
Women with too high expectations. Such a lady in a relationship is guided by two things: her expectations and her negative experience. This means that she will always make excessive demands on the candidate, which, of course, he will not justify. Moreover, you will always transfer the experience of your past relationships to new ones, thereby sometimes even sabotaging them, since you will always think badly about your companion. Such a woman would rather accuse a man of all mortal and not so sins than admit her own mistake. She will slowly harass the man until he escapes. And as per the scenario - she will be an innocent sheep, and he will be a malicious deceiver.
Too changeable nature. This type of woman changes her mind every 2 minutes - she cannot make a definite decision, her mood changes at lightning speed. You never know what will happen next. What is most interesting is that such a woman is well aware of her shortcomings and in a moment of calm she realizes that she was wrong and apologizes, apologizes and apologizes. But sooner or later a man will get tired of such unpredictable weather conditions - after all, sometimes you want peace.
know-it-all. You know everything in the world, just a walking encyclopedia. It's great that there are people who are interested in everything, but such ladies are not limited to encyclopedic knowledge. They try to impose their opinion on a man, they try to prove their eternal rightness. It just infuriates men when they think out and establish a dictatorship for them, and such women do just that.
Bitches. Despite the huge number of manuals on how to become a bitch, men are not at all eager to marry such. You can be a shark at work, but at home you need to become more friendly, or something. Bitchy natures only attract attention, but they quickly get tired of them. Such women do not appreciate men, and believe that all men are bastards.
Feminists. This is already a diagnosis. Although, perhaps, among them there are few who want to get married. And even if there are, they will drive a man crazy with their ideology. In general, men next to such a woman have nothing to do. She knows how to do everything herself, and men are just an application.
Women who constantly complain. They have a bad job, their shoes are tight, they can't meet Mr. Perfect. Such ladies always whine, everything is always wrong for them. They are the most miserable. The most helpless. And men do not like the unfortunate and helpless.
A woman who organizes total control. She controls every aspect of a man's life, from underpants to his friends. A normal, adequate man will immediately run away.
Women who don't know how to behave. This means that they drink, swear, rage, fight, etc. etc. Why does a man need such a woman if he has such friends!?
A woman who flatters. It is not so difficult to recognize her - she will always tell a man only what he wants to hear. And this will continue until the wedding.
Have you ever wondered: why do some girls have no end to guys, while others sit with nothing? By what criteria do men evaluate future life partners? We'll tell you what's on their minds...
So how to determine what the “prince” likes, how to properly evaluate both him and yourself? And you can see it at the first "acquaintance". And here “NOT” appears, the very criteria by which a girl does NOT fit a young man.
1. Beauty is a terrible force
The first "Not": a man does not want to marry a NOT beautiful girl. And when meeting "Cinderella", of course, he sees whether he likes her outwardly or not. Here, too, everyone has their own approach to the “shoe”. Some people like blondes, some brown-haired, some brunettes. Some prefer thin ones, while others pay attention to girls with round shapes. And with a glance, the young man (prince) “tryes on” the shoe of his ideal, which he has already drawn in his imagination. So how do you please him?
Any "Cinderella" knows the way out: a little makeup, stylish clothes and a fashionable hairstyle, that's what will help prevent this first "NOT" from the prince's thoughts.
2. You also need to be smart!
The second "Not": the "prince" is not looking for stupid girls. And it is already more difficult to determine whether a potential wife is stupid or smart at the first meeting, but this is also possible. The main thing for Cinderella is to behave correctly. After all, sometimes excitement fetters on a first date, and you can pretend to be completely different than you really are.
But not everything, of course, your "prince" will notice immediately. There are other “NOTs”, which, no matter how you hide them, will come up during communication.
3. Do not forget that a woman is the keeper of the hearth
And here is the third “Not”: NOT household wives are not a couple for the “prince”. Therefore, it is important, when for the first time a young man crosses the threshold of his beloved's house, to prove himself to the maximum as a housewife. This, of course, includes in all rights the ability of "Cinderella" to cook. No matter how trite it may be, but the “princes”, alas, have golden and always demanding tasty stomachs!
4. Harmony in relationships
The fourth “NOT” is much simpler: this is NOT a coincidence of opinions of lovers, in other words, “disagreements”. Girls, be smart! Let it seem to your “prince” outwardly that you are not arguing with him. But in the end, make sure that he fully agrees with you.
5. "Bed relationship"
The fifth "NOT" is divided into two flanks. According to statistics, approximately 70% of men are NOT interested in girls who set sexual restrictions. But the remaining 30% percent are willing to wait forever!
Here, in general, are the very five “NOTs” that can be easily overcome. And now, you see, Cinderella's ring is already on her finger... It remains only to continue the fairy tale. Something like "And they lived happily ever after." But beware girls! Some try on "shoes" with a double bottom. As soon as the prince puts his beloved on a white horse and takes her to their joint family kingdom, new, more pretentious, “shoes” may appear here. Only then the prince does not try to try them on for several girls at once, but already puts them on the fragile leg of his beloved, even if she does not fit her. Well, that happens!
In any case, good luck to you, dear Cinderellas, in trying on glass slippers!
5 types of girls who never get married. Don't make other people's mistakes! was last modified: September 5th, 2017 by Zzavtra
Why are some women not married? The truth from a psychologist
The mass of women cannot arrange their personal lives in any way. Representatives of the stronger sex either do not pay attention to these ladies, or they are abandoned, or they come across only "bad" men. Why is this happening?
There are many myths about the causes of female loneliness, says psychologist Olga Mshanskaya, but the true reasons are completely different ...
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Myth one. Lack of attraction.
It would seem that everything is obvious: a person who is ugly or poorly dressed has little chance of being liked by men.
This is partly true, says the expert. But it's not just about looks. Take a look: there are as many beautiful, well-groomed, well-dressed women around, but not all of them are married or at least have partners. After all, a man is looking for not just a beauty, but a woman with whom he will be fine. If you act like the "Snow Queen" and wait for some man to melt your ice, then you may not wait until retirement.
In addition, such "superwomen" often simply do not know how to communicate with the opposite sex. All their energy is spent on maintaining their own appearance, and there is no more energy left to build relationships with a man. Relationships are hard work! Rather, a man will stay with an ugly woman who has a "zest" and who will treat him warmly and give him what he wants than with an icy beauty.
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Myth two. Mismanagement.
Many of us hear from childhood: "You'll be a slut, no one will marry you!"
Mothers and grandmothers inspire us that in order to attract a man, a woman must certainly be able to cook, do laundry, clean and do other household chores. If this is not done, then the man will leave you.
Men are also different, says Olga Mshanskaya. - And, believe me, the thriftiness of a woman is not a panacea for a failed personal life. There are so many cases when a man abandons such a "cook" and "needlewoman" for the sake of a person who does not shine with any household talents. Simply because he is not interested in a woman-"hostess". If you know how to cook, sew, knit, are not afraid of household chores - that's great. But if at the same time you do not read anything but ladies' magazines, then not every man will be satisfied with such a life partner.
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Myth three. Bad character.
Why does a man need a bitch who will constantly nag him? Therefore, if your character is not sugar, there is a chance to remain an old maid.
In fact, says the psychologist, bitch bitch strife. If a woman is distinguished by an absurd disposition, but at the same time she still takes care of a man, attentive to his needs, then next to such a woman he can live his whole life. If she thinks only of herself, and looks at men as a tool for self-affirmation and obtaining some benefits, then such relationships are likely to not last long.
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Myth four. The woman is a bad mistress.
The opinion that men primarily look for sexual virtues in women is quite common.
Sex is not important for all men, says Olga Mshanskaya. - Then, in the sexual life, couples get used to each other and gain experience. If a man left you just because you disappointed him in bed, and went to look for a new lover, then you should think: what kind of life partner will come out of a man who puts sex in the first place?
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Myth five. The woman does not love herself.
We often hear: "Love yourself - and others will love you!"
Not everything is so simple, - Olga Mshanskaya believes. - Of course, you need to love yourself, but if at the same time a woman behaves selfishly, does not take into account the needs of other people, this can repel the opposite sex from her. After all, if a woman is fixated on her own well-being, then how can she love someone else? - so men argue and stay away from such ladies.
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Myth six. There are no free men.
This is a fairly common excuse that one hears from single women. All the men I know are already busy or for some reason are not suitable for marriage and relationships ...
But after all, those who are now married were once free! However, they chose other women, not you, the psychologist objects. - In addition, there are women who can easily find men at the age of 50, and there are those for whom this is a problem even at 25. So, look for the problem in yourself, and not in the men around you.
If you are constantly alone or relationships with men do not stick, then you should not talk about: “Why am I so good, but nobody needs me ?, or:“ Why are all men bad? ”, Olga Mshanskaya advises. - The problem is definitely in you Try to change yourself - and personal life, perhaps, will improve.
