(apathy, Oblomovism...) is not knowing what to strive for in life. Even a simple thing, for example, buying a new gadget (mobile phone, tablet, beech...) already gives some meaning to life - being. Is not it?
The best way to get (luck, prosperity...) is to find your goal in life and strive for it.
How to find your purpose in life
1. What do you do when you lose track of time?
Do you ever have things, hobbies, hobbies that make you lose time? We just started, and the evening has already arrived.
Sleeping, watching TV, talking on the phone, movies, and the like don’t count. These things are rather time stealers.
2. If people ask you, how are you happy to help?
Firstly, if you are asked for help. Then such help may already be your calling. And it’s more logical to develop in it. But you may not always like your skills.
Then, secondly, what kind of help from you to others most of all gives you “spouts” of joy?
3. How would you like others to feel?
How can you help them with this?
Perhaps you don't like working for yourself. Therefore, you cannot choose goals in life for yourself. Then set goals that will be yours, but will bring joy to others. And their joy is your joy too.
The circle will close: you with a purpose, people with joy... (You are our knight. It is fashionable to be an egoist, and do everything for yourself. Do not destroy the altruist in yourself, to be truly kind is just as natural as in any other case)
4. How are you unique?
What sets you apart from the rest? What makes you stand out is given to you for a reason. Your uniqueness is a clue to your purpose.
5. How to find your purpose in life. Chronometric method
6. What kind of people would you like to surround yourself with? What are these people doing?
Maybe you want to surround yourself with friends - bankers or fishermen - whalers (or the light version - crabbers). Is their “theme” perhaps your theme?
7. What would you do if you had a million?
Often, running after the green stuff distracts you from your true values and your goals in life. Try to imagine that the financial issue has been resolved for you once and for all. What would you do then?
There seems to be a goal, how can I check that this is my goal?
Take a step in her direction. And track what is happening inside and around you. Positive change is your goal.
Good luck in achieving your goals in life!
Probably all people periodically ask the question: “Where am I going, and what do I want to see at the end of the road?” But not many can give a clear answer to this, and yet a global goal will help you not to give up in difficult times, not to get lost in life and to always know what you really want. There is one way, simple and complex at the same time, with which you can find your goal and have no doubt that it is real.
Both old age and experience lead at the same time
To the last hour, when destined
To understand after much care and torment,
That in life we wandered along the path of error.
Arthur Schopenhauer
Schopenhauer describes a terrible prospect, but it becomes much more real if you don’t even know where you are going in life. There are small goals: buy a house, start a family, earn the respect of colleagues at work, get a high position, but there are no big ones.
Someone will say that it is not needed at all, that if you don’t know where you are going, you definitely won’t go wrong on the road, and this is true to some extent.
But what will this road be like - a bright and joyful path or a thorny valley with “cares and hardships”? When a person feels good, he doesn’t think about the meaning and purpose; the trash starts when he feels bad, bored, sad. Then you need some meaning or purpose, you need to find it in order to continue moving. And it’s good if a ready-made goal becomes such a beacon, so as not to rush around in the darkness of your fears and paddocks.
It seems very difficult, especially when you have never thought about it. All sorts of imposed values creep into your head, and the only reaction to them is: “This bullshit cannot be my global goal. In fact, she doesn’t mean anything to me at all.”
In order to find a goal that really means something, you don’t have to go to an oracle or live in a monastery for five years. The method will take from 20 minutes to an hour, but before you begin, you need to understand several points:
Get ready to take it all
For many people, when they hear the word “goal,” they associate it with material wealth or some kind of great achievement. Accept the idea that this may not be the case. To accept the possibility that your goal will sound and look quite prosaic and not sublime from the outside means sacrificing delusions of grandeur for the sake of a happy life.
In addition, your goal does not necessarily lie in a familiar area, where you have been looking for your purpose since your student or even school years. Just be prepared for the fact that it may be something completely unfamiliar to you.
Only what makes you feel good
The only criterion for a real goal is that it brings pleasure. A person strives for constant pleasure, and you can get it from anything - from a job well done, from the process of this work, from communication, knowledge.
You can call your global goal a global source of pleasure that will last a lifetime. This is how you can check your target after searching: if you don’t get a buzz from it, then it’s definitely not her.
The method itself
As promised, the method is simple:
- Seclude yourself
- Write on the sheet “My goal in life”
- Turn off your thoughts
- You start writing down everything that comes to mind.
The point is that when the real goal is on the sheet in front of you, it will cause a strong emotional reaction that may end in tears.
Why turn off thoughts?
Because over the years of your life, many ideas have accumulated in your head about why you should live and what to strive for. First of all, they will be on your sheet, and in order not to get confused, monitor your emotional state. If the target doesn't evoke any emotion, it's definitely not her.
For some people this may take 20 minutes, others will sit for a whole hour, everything is individual here. The main thing is not to give up. After the first 100 responses that do not evoke any emotion, you may think that this is stupid and not worth wasting your time on. If you overcome this feeling, you will learn something valuable, isn't it worth spending an extra half hour for?
Even while writing, several options may appear that cause you an emotional upsurge, but not a strong one. Mark such answers, perhaps they are parts of the global goal, and it will be easier for you to find it.
I hope you succeed.
In life and understand what to do, congratulations: you have embarked on the path of finding the main harmony in your life - harmony with yourself.
This path is always accompanied by difficulties and worries: is it too late, will it work out?
We hope that Life Reactor will help you clear your doubts and achieve your goal.
5+ ways to find yourself and your calling
The theme of searching for one’s own essence pops up every now and then in works of world culture, and in a wide variety of them.
Analyze your immediate environment.
Of course, you love all these people very much - otherwise why are you friends or work with them?
But step back for an hour from attachments and look at everyone from the outside. Would you like to add or remove someone from your social circle?
Giorgio Armani might not have become a famous designerImagine your ideal environment: what kind of people make it up?
Perhaps you would like to hang out in a glamorous party or be a regular at scientific conferences, be surrounded by businessmen or communicate with simple, handy and hardworking farmers?
These ideas will help you understand what qualities you want to see in the people around you.
This means what qualities should be developed in oneself. This is an important part of finding yourself in life and understanding what to do.
The simplest test that you can take is completely free and without registration, because all you need is yourself, a little free time and perseverance.
One day in a new life
Imagine your ideal day: from beginning to end, in the smallest detail, from breakfast to the last thought before bed.
Imagine everything - your moods, what you would do, where you would spend your time. Don't try to be realistic.
According to the terms of the task, you have all possible means, skills and talents in order to live the perfect day.
Once you've imagined everything inside and out (and, of course, written it down), divide a new sheet of paper into three columns.
In the first, write down those fantasies that you simply need - the real “blue dreams” that you embodied in your ideal day. In the second - what is not so important, but quite strongly desired.
The third column contains all the things that you added just “to have it”, but in fact you could do without them.
Study the resulting table carefully.
You have written the tips for yourself - all you have to do is figure out how to bring such an ideal to life.
Tip: separate the parts. If you imagine that on an ideal day you went to buy a car that you have long dreamed of, then think - does the thing bring you real pleasure or the fact of the purchase itself? This is the most important difference, not at all obvious at first glance.
This test for how to find yourself in life and understand what to do is well suited to their rich and detailed imaginative thinking.
But for those who are used to thinking more globally, the following exercise is suitable.
A new life... and not necessarily just one!
Take your favorite number up to ten and come up with the same number of your ideal lives.
This time you have the same “starting conditions” as in real life, and the same means - but thousands of new possible roads.
Knowing that you have more than one life, you can devote each of them to one thing: family, career, science, travel...
Go into detail and think carefully about what you would do along each path.
Now rank them in order of attractiveness.
The first one will show your main one, while the rest can be added as a hobby or outside interests.
It's never too late to find yourselfAdvice: remember that it is not at all necessary to decide and settle on one thing - you just need to correctly distribute all the desired options.
Life's priorities are the elephants on which the world rests
In search of an answer to the question of how to find yourself in life, to understand what is worth doing, pay attention to the following test, which is equally suitable for both men and women.
Imagine that you are alone in your apartment with a small child who suddenly starts crying.
Meanwhile, it begins to rain heavily outside the window, and freshly washed laundry is hung outside your balcony.
The characteristic splash of water in the kitchen reminds you that you haven’t turned on the tap, and water from the sink is about to pour onto the floor, flooding your neighbors.
And, as luck would have it, at that very moment there is a knock on the door and the landline phone rings.
Which problem will you solve first - calm the child down, take off the underwear, turn on the faucet, open the door or answer the phone?
See what life priorities lie behind each option:
- The child symbolizes the family
- Lingerie means your priority is love, romance and sex
- Crane is financial issues
- For those who choose the door, the most important thing in life is friends
- If you reach for your phone, your priority is work.
This is how you can easily determine what you should focus your aspirations around.
After all, if your activity does not serve the main priority, you will not find happiness, and happiness is the main aspiration of every person.
We hope our advice helped you decide how to find yourself in life and understand what to do.
Finally, we present to your attention a video on this topic:
If your inner world is still a mystery to you, I suggest you take a short test and finally decide on your life priorities. Answer honestly and don’t look at the results in advance. Agreed?
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Imagine this: You were left at home alone, and suddenly AT THE SAME TIME:
1. The phone rings.
2. A child is crying in the room.
3. It started to rain outside, and you have your laundry drying there.
4. Someone is knocking on the door.
5. You forgot to turn off the tap in the bathroom, and water flows onto the ground.
What business will you take on first? What problem will you solve next, and what will you leave for later? Place things in order: from the most important to the least important for you.
What does the test mean?
Each of these points is responsible for certain facets of your life.
1. Phone means study, work, career.
2. Child - relatives, family hearth.
3. Lingerie is love.
4. Guest - friends.
5. Crane - health, money, well-being.
I wonder, in what order did you arrange the described processes?
