No one is immune from mistakes, especially from small ones, when by chance, instead of a familiar name, another one suddenly pops up and is pronounced out loud. Of course, such confusion can be unpleasant, but, nevertheless, even such a banality can hide a rather serious reason, which, as it turns out, should not be ignored, because a name accidentally spoken out loud can mean a lot.
Psychological aspects
According to psychologists, there may be several reasons for the sudden confusion of names. For example, a person in a conversation with several people is capable of simply mixing up names, accidentally calling one of the interlocutors by someone else’s name. This also happens when a person is thinking about someone and suddenly someone turns to him. Accordingly, without yet moving away from thoughts about another person, it is also possible to make a mistake.
It is possible to call a person by a different name by accident, especially if he looks like an acquaintance from afar. Similar confusion can occur with those people who really miss their deceased or departed relatives, because in such a situation, longing for loved ones can also result in a reservation.
Signs
A reservation in a name does not always have psychological roots; some cases can be attributed to mysticism, since often a reasonable explanation, even taking into account scientific justification, simply does not exist. Let’s say there is a sign that if you call someone you don’t know much by someone else’s name, then soon there will be a visit from the person whose name was pronounced.
They also say that if someone constantly makes a mistake and calls the same person by a different name, and by accident, there is a possibility that the fate of this person will soon change, because it is no coincidence that he is seen in a different guise. Of course, for those who are afraid of such changes, it is best to limit communication with the person who made the reservation, but for those who love adventure, you should expect surprises in the near future.
There is one more sign. They say that the person whose name was pronounced by mistake is most likely at that very moment remembering the one who misspoke. Accordingly, to avoid such mistakes in the future, it is best to meet and just chat, because there is a possibility that the reason lies precisely in mutual longing for each other.
In ancient times, a person's name was taken very seriously, because changing the name could lead to a change in fate and even death. That is why the real name received at baptism, as a rule, was always hidden in order to limit both evil thoughts and banal slips that could lead to serious consequences.
Good day, Olya!
You write: “But I am convinced that they don’t just call someone else by someone else’s name.” How justified is this belief of yours? Do you deny randomness, do you think that everything that happens is natural? In this case, I agree with the opinion of my respected colleague Shupenyuk - such a belief makes you potentially vulnerable (since accidents exist OBJECTIVELY, and attempts to ignore objective reality always increase a person’s vulnerability). By the way, if you are REALLY CONVINCED of this, then why are you asking (“is it possible to name a loved one after his friend/girlfriend, is it just an accident?”)?
In addition to this belief that does not quite correspond to reality, you have others - for example, your belief that a relationship requires FULL confidence in feelings and FULL confidence that “he ONLY needs me.” But 100% confidence in this is unattainable in principle; feelings are quite unstable and almost uncontrollable. At some moments, a person may feel that he needs someone else - of course, this does not mean that a person will put these feelings into practice, valuing the existing relationship, he will not do this, but it is 100% guaranteed that that such feelings, even episodic, will NEVER happen, no one can. And considering the possibility of such feelings and thoughts (we are talking ONLY about feelings and thoughts, but not about specific ACTIONS) as an obstacle to a serious relationship is laying the foundation for future problems.
Finally, pay attention to “double standards” in your relationships. You don’t have 100% trust in the “new martyr”, because “while he was waiting for me, he talked with others” - but you yourself haven’t yet fully decided whether to “finally leave your previous boyfriend for him (while there is chance to return) or not.” In other words, you leave yourself a backup option, room for maneuver, and demand final and irrevocable decisions from the “new martyr”. Are you sure that this style of behavior promotes trust in relationships and that it will not negatively affect them?
And now you can return to your original question: “is it possible to name a loved one after his friend/girlfriend, who means nothing, is it just an accident?” The answer is POSSIBLE. This MAY BE just a coincidence. But it is also impossible to COMPLETELY exclude the fact that this is NOT an accident. And this is just one of those cases that life is full of, when you CANNOT get a 100% correct and unambiguous answer, COMPLETELY eliminate risk and be COMPLETELY confident. Whether we like it or not, there is ALWAYS room for risk. Another thing is that the risk must be reasonable and justified, and if there is an opportunity to reduce it, then you need to take advantage of it (in this case - without attaching importance to the reservation, which may well be just an accident, observe the behavior of the young man, analyze your relationship - whether it suits you, whether there are any fundamental differences in views, how successfully you interact with him, resolve differences that arise, etc.). All this affects the stability of your relationship no less (if not more) than the “strength of feelings” to which you attach such exceptional importance (in fact, NOT EVERYTHING is determined only by the intensity of emotions).
Understanding and love to you, and greater flexibility and realism of your views and beliefs!
PS. Please also pay attention, Olya, to the fact that you write and think a lot about the young man’s feelings FOR YOU, but do not write about YOUR feelings that he evokes in you. Do you take YOUR feelings into account when making a decision, or ignore them, considering that the most important thing is the young man’s feelings for you, so that they are “so strong”?
Girls are generally scrupulous about their names. The real nightmare begins when you, lying on Masha, called her Katya.
You thought that your worst dream was to find yourself at a school board and not know the answer to a question. The real nightmare begins when you, lying on Masha, called her Katya. The bed has stopped creaking, an oppressive silence has fallen, and you have very little time to correct the situation and stay on Masha, and not on the floor.
Girls are generally scrupulous about their names. A hundred “bunnies” and “babies” will not produce the same effect as the girl’s name spoken with tenderness. And even a simple everyday statement “Coffee without sugar, Katya” can cause a storm of emotions in Masha. After all, we believe Freud, and he said that there are no accidental slips of the tongue. I decided to ask the girls I know: what do they think a guy should say or do for them to believe him and forgive him.
"The best defense is attack"
flylebed: “- What kind of Lena?! I'm Katya!!! What are you, so-and-so...
“It was a communication check, otherwise you’ve been paying so little attention to me lately, you almost don’t notice me!”
I’ll also feel guilty..."
You can easily disguise your crooked subconscious with arrogance. Personally, we girls do this all the time. For example, “I accidentally broke a glass today because you drank beer with friends yesterday, now I’m upset and don’t want sex.”
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"Tell the truth"
Asya: “What did I think about the other one at that moment. To forgive, it’s better to tell the truth. Lies will have to be forgiven separately.”
If your tongue fails you in an ordinary situation, then it’s really better to say that you just thought about (talked about) your friend (sister, acquaintance, boss) than to come up with stupid excuses, a la “I was thinking about what we would name our daughter.” Do you really think we will believe that right now, while sipping borscht, you indulged in dreams of children?
"Don't make excuses"
nasturs: “if he starts making excuses or trying to joke, I’ll immediately suspect something...”
A frightened look, bleating, “Oh, I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to. I thought only about you, but my tongue, my enemy,” and a bouquet of flowers on the same day will alert us even more. The logic is simple: if he makes excuses, it means the matter is not clean; if he sucks up, it means he’s definitely guilty. Why bother with our paranoia?
Behave as before, apologize and that’s enough. It's not your fault, and you have no need to make excuses. And if he is guilty, then all the more there is no need to remind him about it once again.
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"Surprise her"
Me: I'm Tanya, not Katya!
K: Katya and Tanya are such similar names.
Me: How are they similar?
K: Well, because... “Katya, take the phone, it’s him, it’s him calling...”
Surprise will not allow her to carry out the execution right away, and then, lo and behold, she will make her laugh. Well, at least you'll have time to jump away without being blown away by the sound wave.
"Be original"
If you managed to call her by a different name during sex, then simple excuses like “I was thinking about work” will not work. Any thoughts on working during sex? What's needed here is something more artsy. For advice, I turned to one insidious seducer.
Alexander: this never happened to me, but if I called her by the name of my ex, I would answer, “Understand, the soul wants new things, but the body has not yet gotten used to old habits.”
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Girls love noodles with lyrical seasoning on their ears. Just after such a phrase, do not forget to make sure that in the near future she will not be able to think about anything at all, except sex, of course. And it’s better that the girl doesn’t know the name of your ex. He might also inadvertently find her among your VKontakte friends and come up with something extra. There is no need to play mind games in our heads.
Well, quote the same Freud: “sometimes a cigar is just a cigar,” and cross your butt.
It is believed that a woman loves with her ears. She can remember some words with a smile all her life, and some, even if it’s just a slip of the tongue, become the reason for long-term worries or a serious scandal. Especially if it concerns her name. Why does a man call by someone else’s name, and how to react in this situation?
The guy called me by a different name - of course, this is extremely unpleasant, but this is not yet a reason for serious offense. It's better to watch him carefully. Has his behavior changed, has he started returning from work later or going on unplanned business trips - in general, try to find out what lies behind this clause.
Ideally, in this situation, “turn on your head”, abandoning meaningless emotions and calmly (or even better with a smile) say something like: “Darling, who are you turning to now? My name is different. Do you think we should get to know each other again?
This is extremely unpleasant, but this is not yet a reason for serious offense.
He may become embarrassed and say that he was mistaken, but still give a reasonable explanation. For example, that all day I had been solving a difficult issue with a colleague whose name was that, and at home I automatically repeated her name. It is clear that in such a situation it is definitely not worth worrying and spinning the thought in your head - “My husband called me by a different name.”
But a man can react very ambiguously to such a remark, begin to fuss and get out, say that he doesn’t know girls with this name, that it just came out, or, conversely, come up with some strange excuses.
There is something to think about here, perhaps he is hiding something, and he has a “snout in the cannon”. It is worth being vigilant and finding out whether he is carried away by another. Most likely, their relationship has not yet gone too far, otherwise he would have been more vigilant. And that means you still have a chance to regain his attention and love.
a man may react very ambiguously to such a remark... perhaps he is hiding something
Men may often slip up and call their ex by their name, especially at the beginning of a relationship. This is extremely unpleasant, but if you show wisdom and patience, it will pay off handsomely. Sobbing into my pillow because I'm worried that my boyfriend called me by his ex's name isn't particularly appropriate.
Habit is a serious thing, and men are often quite absent-minded; they perform many actions automatically, thinking at that moment about something completely different (making grandiose plans, “deciding the fate of the world,” etc.). Therefore, finding himself in a familiar situation, in which he has been with his ex-lover more than once, he may accidentally call you by her name.
What can be done? Analyze what moments in your life together remind him of the past (he makes a reservation for a reason) and try to change them. Do everything differently so that he does not have any associations with his past life.
Men may often slip up and call their ex by their name, especially at the beginning of a relationship.
Perhaps the most serious reason for jealousy and worry arises if your husband called you by a different (someone else’s, completely unfamiliar) name in a dream. We need to sound the alarm and make every effort to find out what is hidden behind this. Especially if this is repeated more than once or to all your questions, you receive outright false answers.
Of course, there are different clauses and clauses. Someone else’s name on your man’s lips, no matter how much emotion it evokes, may just be an accident. And in most cases it really is just an accident. But sometimes it’s a clear hint that something wrong is happening behind your back. Therefore, when you hear someone else's name instead of your own, it is very important to show composure and find out what is behind it and what are the prospects for your relationship.
A name is a nickname that is given to every person at birth. Usually, for a Russian person, such factors as surname and patronymic are attached to the name. For example, a person may be called Fedor Vasilyevich Ivanov. Although there is information such as Tina Kandelaki’s story that her middle name is not written in the passport column. And this is not the first time. Americans do not have a middle name at all, only their first and last names are present in their family tree. For example, Jefferson Richard. But at the same time, every person has a name.
Even the very first person on planet Earth. His name was Adam, and his name said a lot about itself. It consisted of three Hebrew characters (letters) - aleph, dalet and mem. Which meant that he was the first who sought to fill the vessel of the inner world of all future humanity with the feeling of the Almighty. Speaking about the meaning of the name, we can also take into account the fact that, translated from Hebrew, the name Adam means “man.”
In addition to human names, there are names of trade products, names of parts of speech, names of animals, which are called nicknames. A person's name is otherwise called a personal name. The role of a name for a person is enormous. In ancient times, people were called by the way they presented themselves. This is where the name Anastasia originated in Ancient Greece. It is also considered a Russian, Orthodox name and means “resurrected, immortal.”
For some girls, it is important that their boyfriend's name is exactly what they like. But their guys' names, alas, are not the names one would like to hear. In this case, a situation may arise that the girl, under some circumstances, called her boyfriend by a different name. But what should a guy do if a girl calls him by someone else’s name?
Many people laugh it off, saying that you need to be the one whose name the girl named, then you can get what this “Vasya” gets. But, in fact, for a loving person, this joke is a sharp blow straight to the heart. The first thing to remember: you never need to panic and bring the situation to the point of separation until you are completely sure of the existence of “Vasya”. It may well be that the girl simply associates this name with the guy’s appearance. After all, if you think about it, everyone can be given another, as people think, more suitable name. The second factor associated with the fact that the girl called her by a different name is the huge presence of friends and relatives. This can really lead to a stupid and ridiculous situation with the guy's name. The third factor is the actual existence of a person with a given name, but this can only be determined with your own ears and eyes. You should never listen to anyone about this.
Many people laugh it off, saying that you need to be the one whose name the girl named, then you can get what this “Vasya” gets. But, in fact, for a loving person, this joke is a sharp blow straight to the heart. The first thing to remember: you never need to panic and bring the situation to the point of separation until you are completely sure of the existence of “Vasya”. It may well be that the girl simply associates this name with the guy’s appearance. After all, if you think about it, everyone can be given another, as people think, more suitable name. The second factor associated with the fact that the girl called her by a different name is the huge presence of friends and relatives. This can really lead to a stupid and ridiculous situation with the guy's name. The third factor is the actual existence of a person with a given name, but this can only be determined with your own ears and eyes. You should never listen to anyone about this.
Did you call your loved one a different name, but not without reason? Then it’s worth confessing everything, because if it’s love, the guy will forgive, perhaps not right away, but he will forgive. She called the guy by a different name - a serious relationship cannot begin with a lie. You can, of course, justify yourself without telling the truth by saying that it was a joke. Or say that this is some kind of role-playing game. But, if a girl chooses the role-playing option, you can expect anything from the guy. For example, he may be scared or, on the contrary, for him this girl will become both a red riding hood and a desperate nurse. Well, if we think seriously, then there is nothing better than admitting everything.
Love is a bright feeling that cannot be polluted by betrayals and lies. Otherwise it won't be love. Calling someone else by someone else's name, while having the cunning to lie, is also not an option. This is vile. To avoid this situation and remember your partner’s name forever, you need to go a short way. Study the partner’s name in all senses, that is, find out the meaning of the name and the nature of the name. After all, character really depends on the nickname. You need to find out which color corresponds to your partner's name. Knowing all these factors, you can remember the name right away, because the girl will have all the associations associated with the guy’s name. In general, girls are the most creative creatures on Earth, so a mistake in a guy’s name is just image support, a certain “PR” factor for a female being, although many men do not understand this logic. But it’s worth thinking about it and coming to the conclusion that this is not a terrible “vice”, because a mistake in choosing a husband is much more serious than the ridiculous situation with the name.
