Pregnancy does not always end with the birth of a healthy baby. In some cases, a woman experiences severe psychological and physical trauma: it happens. Missed miscarriage or arrested development of the fetus in utero - is this dangerous for the woman, can the fetus come out on its own, and what procedures are carried out after the diagnosis is made?
A non-developing pregnancy is a stoppage of the development of the zygote or embryo inside the body of the uterus. Depending on the classification of the failed miscarriage, the complex in the future also differs.
Thus, according to the results of an ultrasound examination, based on the analysis of ACE proteins, doctors divide two types of frozen pregnancy:
- anembryonia (types 1 and 2);
- death of the embryo.
As practice shows, in 85% of cases, fetal development stops before the 10th week of gestation. Up to the 6th week, the fertilized cell (zygote) is located in the fertilized egg, which has already attached to the wall of the placenta in the uterus. If freezing occurs, then we are most likely talking about anembryony of the first or second type.
In the first type, the embryo is not visualized, the fertilized egg is no more than 2.5 cm, and the size of the uterine body corresponds to the 6th week of pregnancy. With this type, the development of both the fetus and the fertilized egg stops.
With the second type of anembryonia, the fertilized egg develops while the child no longer exists. The remains of the embryo are not visualized, and the size of the ovum corresponds to pregnancy (approximately 4.5 cm).
A frozen pregnancy can come out on its own in the case of anembryonia in the early stages of pregnancy (), and then only additional medicinal hormonal simulation is prescribed to contract the uterus. In case of embryo death, cleaning is always prescribed.
Doctors today try not to experiment with prescribing medication for a frozen pregnancy after 7 weeks, preferring to prescribe a curettage procedure.
Termination of pregnancy due to pathology
Fetal fading is considered polyetiological in every tenth pregnancy if the woman is at risk (age 35+, infectious or hereditary diseases, anomalies of the uterus). If a deviation in the development of the fertilized egg or embryo is detected by echographic method, the doctor prescribes a blood donation to analyze the level of hCG and the concentration of ACE protein, as well as a repeat study, which is carried out a few days later.
During a frozen pregnancy at 3–4 weeks, about 15% of women report malaise, dizziness, and drowsiness. There is a disappearance of nausea and vomiting, which are characteristic signs of the death of the fertilized egg. At later stages, the cessation of fetal movement means its death.
If all the studies carried out showed the presence of problems (fading, discrepancy with the timing of the fertilized egg, lack of visualization of the embryo), then a decision is made. The doctor will tell you how to remove the dead fetus.
Depending on the gestation period, the methods of influence will differ. Thus, in the early stages, it is advisable to prescribe medication, and in case of a complete or incomplete miscarriage at a period later than 7 weeks, it is important to undergo a gynecological curettage and cleaning procedure.
With the help of medications
After stopping the development of pregnancy in the early stages, it is recommended to use a gentle option for evacuation of the fertilized egg from the body of the uterus using medication. The principle of the effects of medications is similar to the stimulation of labor, during which cramping contractions of the uterus occur, everything that is inside is pushed out.
The procedure involves swallowing one tablet under the supervision of a gynecologist in the Department of Pathology and Gynecology. The patient is under observation for 8-12 hours.
As practice shows, in the absence of professional treatment after a missed pregnancy, there is a risk of the formation of an inflammatory process, endometritis, which results in infertility and miscarriage in the future.
Surgical curettage
Surgical curettage is prescribed for women who are diagnosed with a frozen pregnancy after 9 weeks of gestation. There is an old practice in which curettage was not recommended for periods up to 12 weeks. However, against the background of tissue remains in the uterine cavity, there is a risk of developing an inflammatory process.
Depending on the stage of pregnancy, curettage, removal or cleaning of the uterine body is prescribed.
Removing a frozen fetus
In cases of frozen, failed pregnancy up to 16 weeks, the fetus is evacuated simultaneously with instrumental evacuation. The doctor invites an anesthesiologist, who administers general painkillers to the patient.
After the anesthetic medications take effect, the gynecologist opens the woman’s cervix (dilation of the cervical canal) and performs vacuum aspiration or a full-fledged abortion.
In all types of surgical intervention, hysteroscopic control is required, in which doctors assess the location of the fetus and the condition of the endometrium of the uterus.
Scraping
– this is a full-fledged process of abortion (extraction) of the fetus and the place of the fertilized egg from the body of the uterus. This technique is used in cases where the gestation period is more than 10 weeks, and the fetus is already sufficiently formed. The procedure is also carried out under the influence of anesthetics intravenously or using a mask.
After mask anesthesia, women more often experience headaches and increased blood pressure, so most doctors use the injection of an anesthetic into a vein using a catheter.
Cleaning
Cleaning is a procedure for removing the remains of a fetus or a resolved fertilized egg. It is prescribed in the case when the fetus has been partially aborted, and there are particles left in the body of the uterus that still need to be removed.
After surgical removal of the fetus from the body of the uterus, the woman applies ice to the lower abdomen to enhance contractions. Therefore, the woman feels an unpleasant aching sensation for some time, which is eliminated with the help of antispasmodics intravenously or orally.
The phenomenon of frozen pregnancy can occur in women of any age. The emergence of this pathology is facilitated by a combination of many factors and circumstances. To prevent fetal freezing, you must strictly follow the recommendations and advice of your gynecologist, and also carefully take care of your own health even at the stage of planning the birth of a child.
Fortunately, this pathology is quite rare in women: out of 176 normally developing pregnancies, one is a frozen pregnancy. A frozen pregnancy is understood as a pathology of pregnancy development, in which the development and growth of the fetus ceases, as a result of which it dies. This phenomenon occurs at all stages of pregnancy, but most often in the first three months of pregnancy (up to 13 weeks). A frozen pregnancy can trigger the occurrence of inflammatory processes in the female body, as well as lead to other undesirable consequences. In particular, it poses some threat to future offspring. Symptoms of frozen pregnancy can be observed in the early and late stages of gestation, while the symptoms in the second trimester will differ from those in the early stages.
How to detect a frozen pregnancy in time?
As a rule, the symptoms of fetal freezing are very accurate, and medical diagnosis is not difficult at all. The most important sign of cessation of embryo growth and development is the disappearance of signs of a developing pregnancy. When the first suspicions arise, you should consult a doctor, who, based on the results of an ultrasound examination, will identify the presence or absence of symptoms of a frozen embryo.
To date, doctors have calculated the periods of fetal development at which the risk of fetal death is very high: the first 3-4 weeks, from 8 to 11 weeks and from 16 to 18 weeks of pregnancy. The likelihood of developing a frozen pregnancy is especially high in the eighth week, when changes are observed in the mother’s body and the formation of the most important organs of the unborn child occurs.
Causes of frozen pregnancy.
This phenomenon can be provoked by anything, from a hormonal imbalance in the mother and genetic disorders in the fetus, to acute infectious diseases and bad habits. The most common causes of frozen pregnancy are the woman’s consumption of alcohol in large quantities, drugs and cigarettes, as well as diseases such as herpes, chlamydia, toxoplasmosis, etc. Of course, if a woman really wants to have a healthy baby, then she should eliminate all these dangerous factors in the early stages of pregnancy.
Genetic abnormalities of embryonic development are the most common factor causing fetal death (70% of cases) for up to eight weeks. In this case, nature itself does not give life to the initially “sick” fetus. In the future, if both parents are absolutely healthy, there is a very high probability that this situation will not happen again. If the second, third and subsequent pregnancies in a row end in the death of the embryo, this indicates the fault of genetic factors.
Hormonal imbalances in a woman’s body also often provoke the development of frozen pregnancy. This is mainly due to a lack of progesterone or pregnancy hormone in the female body, without which successful attachment of the embryo to the uterus cannot occur.
Hyperandrogenism is also one of the causes of fetal death. In approximately twenty percent of women, while carrying a child, the level of male sex hormones (androgens) increases, as a result of which the woman begins to develop masculine characteristics (excessive hair, changes in the properties of the skin, voice, physique, etc.). Therefore, if you have previously had a frozen pregnancy, miscarriage, frequent delays in menstruation and male-type hair growth, it is important before planning a pregnancy to take tests to determine your hormonal status and, if necessary, undergo a course of treatment, thereby you will prevent or significantly reduce the likelihood of fetal fading in the future .
Various infections can cause fetal death not only in the early, but also in later stages of gestation (about 30% of cases). While carrying a child, a woman’s immunity is completely suppressed, because then the body would simply begin to fight the foreign body that appears, which is the embryo. As a result, the mother's body becomes very vulnerable to various infections. In pregnant women, all infectious diseases begin to worsen. Non-hazardous flora begins to multiply rapidly, the vaginal microflora is activated, creating a threat of intrauterine infection of the fetus. But infection of the expectant mother during pregnancy, and not the exacerbation of existing infectious diseases, poses a particular danger. In particular, infection with chickenpox or rubella, in addition to frozen pregnancy, can cause an abnormality in the development of the fetus. In this situation, the question of artificial termination of pregnancy already arises. Irreversible changes can result from infection with cytomegalovirus (CMV), which causes multiple malformations of the embryo.
A serious danger to the fetus is the common flu, which a pregnant woman can “catch.” Due to weakened immunity, even ordinary ARVI is very difficult to tolerate. It is worth noting that the danger is not the virus itself, but rather its manifestations: intoxication, fever, which, in turn, disrupts the blood flow from mother to fetus. As a result of lack of oxygen and essential nutrients, the fetus may die.
An unhealthy lifestyle, including an unbalanced diet and bad habits, frequent stress and overexertion can also cause fetal death. In addition, insufficient walks in the fresh air, drinking coffee and other harmful drinks can cause complications in the form of early placental abruption and increased uterine tone. All this leads to disruption of blood flow, as a result of which the fetus does not receive oxygen and necessary substances.
It should be noted that very often pregnancy as a result of in vitro fertilization ends in embryonic death or spontaneous miscarriage.
The cause of a frozen pregnancy can also be the use of medications by a woman (who is not aware of her pregnancy), the use of which is contraindicated during pregnancy. You should know that several months before a planned pregnancy, as well as during it, it is not recommended to use any medications without a doctor’s prescription. However, taking medications in the early stages (7-10 days) cannot cause a frozen pregnancy, since at this time there is no close connection between the embryo and its mother. After 8-10 weeks of pregnancy, the placenta protects from the effects of drugs, so the likelihood of frozen pregnancies in later stages is slightly reduced. If the expectant mother works in hazardous work, then the risk of developing a frozen pregnancy is very high.
After fetal death, the body needs six months to restore the endometrium and hormonal status to prepare for the next pregnancy. During this period, you can carry out all the necessary medical procedures that will allow you to conceive and normally carry a full-fledged and healthy baby.
Symptoms of frozen pregnancy and its diagnosis.
Unfortunately, in the early stages, a frozen pregnancy may not manifest itself in any way. The first signal indicating the presence of a problem is the sudden cessation of attacks of toxicosis, if any existed previously. At the same time, other obvious symptoms indicating the presence of pregnancy disappear: a decrease in basal temperature, pain in the mammary glands. In the early stages, a woman may not pay attention to such signs. At a later stage of gestation, a frozen pregnancy may manifest itself in the form of pain in the lower abdomen or bloody discharge from the vagina. These symptoms may indicate detachment of the fertilized egg during an incipient miscarriage. Another main symptom in the later stages is the cessation of fetal movement. Unfortunately, it is very difficult to determine a frozen pregnancy at home. The belly may still grow, and blood tests may indicate pregnancy. However, in this case, it is not the fetus that may develop, but the empty membrane inside.
A frozen pregnancy is diagnosed by a gynecological examination, an ultrasound examination of the pelvis and a blood test for hCG. When examined by a gynecologist, pathology is determined by the size of the uterus, which should correspond to the norm for the current stage of pregnancy. An ultrasound shows the absence of a fetal heartbeat, as well as anembryony (a disorder in which the fertilized egg is completely empty). On a hormonal blood test (hCG), a similar problem is characterized by a deviation in the level of the pregnancy hormone from the indicators characteristic of a normal pregnancy.
As a rule, a frozen pregnancy ends with curettage (cleaning) of the uterine cavity in a hospital setting using vacuum aspiration (in the early stages) or under the supervision of a doctor, a miscarriage is induced using special medications. Sometimes it happens that a woman’s frozen pregnancy without medical intervention ends in spontaneous miscarriage. If this does not happen within a certain time, and according to ultrasound, there are remains of the fertilized egg in the uterus, then they resort to the measures described above, after which antibacterial therapy is carried out. Two weeks later, an ultrasound is performed to assess the recovery of the body.
Consequences of a frozen pregnancy.
If there was a frozen pregnancy, this does not mean that the woman will not be able to have children in the future. Very often, doctors cannot fully identify the cause of this phenomenon, but in the vast majority of cases, women become pregnant and carry the child normally. If cases of frozen pregnancy occur repeatedly, it is necessary to undergo a full medical examination of both partners, since repeated cases may indicate the woman’s inability to bear a child.
It is a fact that a frozen pregnancy has a serious impact on a woman’s physical health. But the psychological problems associated with it are more serious. A woman experiences fear in planning her next pregnancy due to unsuccessful past experiences. Over time, all fears go away, especially if a woman hears the stories of women who have been in the same situation, who then conceived, carried and gave birth to a baby normally.
Recovery and treatment after a frozen pregnancy.
Before prescribing treatment, both partners undergo a full course of examination: tests for sex hormones and thyroid hormones, smears for various sexually transmitted infections using the PCR method (to identify hidden sexually transmitted infections), undergo an ultrasound examination, determine group compatibility and etc., which will make it possible to identify and eliminate the causes that caused the development of pathology.
After doctors have identified the causes of a missed abortion and carried out appropriate treatment, if necessary, the woman must regain her strength before planning her next pregnancy. This will take her about six months. During this period, it is important to take all possible preventive measures to prevent the situation from recurring (lead a healthy lifestyle, take vitamins, use contraception). The woman herself needs to see a psychologist who will help overcome her fears and worries about planning her next pregnancy.
A woman who has experienced a similar situation, with normal tests, may not require treatment, because, as I have already said, most often a frozen pregnancy develops due to a genetic malfunction, the repetition of which is unlikely to be observed in the future. However, in case of repeated cases of fetal freezing, treatment is mandatory.
Prevention of frozen pregnancy.
To prevent a recurrence of such a situation, it is necessary to follow preventive measures even before planning a pregnancy. Prevention will help reduce the risk of a recurrence of the tragedy.
So, if you have a sexually transmitted infection, you need to get rid of them at least three months before the planned conception. If you did not have diseases such as rubella or chickenpox as a child, you should get vaccinated, especially if you have frequent contact with children (for example, you work in a kindergarten).
To prevent frozen pregnancy and other complications, all women need to eat a rational and balanced diet, including more fresh vegetables and fruits in their diet. In addition, it is necessary to give up all bad habits, as they sharply increase the risk of frozen pregnancy. Spend more time outdoors.
Who is at risk for a repeat pregnancy that does not develop?
- Women who have had abortions, and the more abortions, the higher the likelihood of encountering such a complication.
- Women who have had an ectopic pregnancy, as well as those whose fetal heart has stopped beating in the last weeks of pregnancy.
- Women with infectious and viral diseases of the genital organs.
- Women over thirty years of age. It is desirable for every woman to give birth to her first child before the age of thirty.
- Women who have some anatomical features of the reproductive system (bicornuate and saddle uterus).
- Women with uterine fibroids. It leads to deformation of the uterine cavity and prevents the fertilized egg from attaching.
- Suffering from endocrine disorders (diabetes mellitus, decreased thyroid function, cycle disorders, impaired progesterone production).
The fetus froze - these are perhaps one of the most terrible words from a doctor for a couple dreaming of children. You can hear them for various reasons at the very beginning of the development of a new life (the most dangerous are considered to be from 3 to 4, from 8 to 11 and from 16 to 18 weeks from conception). Sometimes the diagnosis is made at a later date, but the likelihood of hearing it is significantly lower. An analogue is the development of an empty fertilized egg: in this case, fertilization has occurred, but the embryo does not develop. The pathology occurs spontaneously, maybe several times in a row throughout a woman’s life. Unfortunately, no one is safe from it. However, it is better to know the causes and signs of frozen pregnancy in the early stages in order to take timely measures and consult a doctor, as well as prevent the development of pathology before conception. Anything can influence the development of a little life. And the worst thing about this is that it is not so easy to notice changes.
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Reasons why pregnancy does not develop
Why does frozen pregnancy occur in the early stages? This question worries and frightens young mothers. There are actually quite a lot of reasons:
- Genetic deviations occupy a leading place. They are detected in 70% of cases for up to 8 weeks. They are associated with many factors, including hereditary diseases, as well as the result of drug use by one of the partners. That is why it is important not to refuse screenings and other examinations suggested by a geneticist and gynecologist.
- Excessive consumption can also cause developmental arrest. It is especially dangerous if the mother cannot give up bad habits after conception.
- Medicines can also provoke the development of abnormalities. That is why doctors themselves strongly recommend that you stop taking any medications. The only exceptions can be severe diseases, the treatment of which with folk remedies is simply impossible. It is worth noting that for up to 10 days and after 8-10 weeks, when the fetus becomes partially protected by the placenta, the effect of the drugs is not so significant. As for herbs, they also need to be taken only under the supervision of a doctor, because some of them can provoke a breakdown or arrest in the development of the embryo.
- The reasons for frozen pregnancy in the early stages may lie in both the mother and the child. If a woman has had abortions before, then the chances of a happy development are not so great. Antibodies produced by the mother's body towards the baby accumulate over time. And after several abortions, it is very difficult for a conceived baby to resist such an attack.
- Infections, both genital organs and viral (flu), are a serious threat at the very beginning of life. The mother's body is already weakened by the new position, so it is not at all difficult to get sick. But the consequences of a high temperature or a viral attack can be very serious. Rubella is a formidable enemy, in the event of which the pregnancy not only stops, but the fetus may develop severe anomalies. And in this case, the mother will have to decide whether she can raise a special child or whether it is better to terminate the pregnancy.
Consequences of congenital rubella for a child - Hormonal disorders. Moreover, a non-developing pregnancy in the early stages, the reasons for which lie precisely in this factor, can freeze due to both a lack of prolactin and an excess of testosterone. If a woman has regular irregularities in her menstrual cycle, then it is imperative to undergo examinations during planning, as well as regularly check the status of the hormones after conception.
- Harmful factors at work, diabetes, heavy lifting, stress - all these factors can also cause the development of pathology.
Women who are at higher risk of developing pathology
But this is not the only answer to the question of why pregnancy falters in the early stages. Doctors identify a certain risk group, which includes:
- old-time mothers or expectant mothers over 35 years of age;
- if you have had multiple abortions in the past;
- if your previous pregnancy was ectopic;
- in the presence of a congenital anomaly of the uterus.
If one or all factors are present, the woman will be under constant medical supervision.
Expectant mothers who do not want to visit a gynecologist in the early stages are also at risk. There may be many reasons for such a decision, but the result will be a serious threat to the health of not only the woman, but also the child.
What signs indicate a frozen pregnancy?
The saddest thing is that the symptoms of a frozen pregnancy in the early stages are not clearly expressed. Therefore, the expectant mother may not even be aware of the change in the condition of the fetus. Only a qualified doctor, after examining and ordering additional examinations, can determine the absence of embryo development.
You shouldn’t look for symptoms of an undeveloped pregnancy in the early stages, and even less so, ask for advice from friends or on forums. In each case, everything is purely individual and depends on many factors.
Symptoms of an approaching disaster
At later stages, it is easier for a woman to navigate, because she can already feel the baby moving. This is very difficult to do in the early stages. A frozen pregnancy, the symptoms of which in the first trimester may be similar to less serious abnormalities, manifests itself as follows:
- passes ;
- no more ;
- reduced;
- cramping pain began to appear;
- spotting appeared (discharge during a frozen pregnancy in the early stages has exactly the same consistency and red-brown color);
- general body temperature increased.
If any of the listed symptoms are detected, a woman should urgently consult a doctor! If the signs of pregnancy disappear, this should also alert the mother and become a reason to visit a specialist!
How does a pregnant woman feel when pathology develops?
Women experience very different sensations during a frozen pregnancy. They are even influenced by the fact whether this is the first time this has happened or whether a similar situation has happened before. Fatigue, apathy, fever - all this in any case should alert the expectant mother.
It is worth noting that all symptoms that indicate the development of pathology may turn out to be false! There is no need to immediately prepare yourself for the approaching disaster. Quite often they turn out to be similar to less serious ones, or the body is simply undergoing a reconfiguration.
Diagnosis of the fact of fetal freezing
Only a doctor knows exactly how to recognize a frozen pregnancy in the early stages. To do this he will do the following:
- , will assess the condition of the mucus secreted, and will ask you to measure your basal temperature.
- If there is any suspicion of a deviation from the norm, the doctor will send the pregnant woman for a test. However, it is worth noting that hCG during a frozen pregnancy in the early stages can be completely within normal limits for several weeks after the death of the fetus. And yet, more often than not, a urine test will show a low level of the hormone, which is not typical for the first trimester.
- The last stage of examination will be an ultrasound. With the help of an ultrasound examination, it will become clear whether the embryo’s heart is beating or not.
Typically, a test for a frozen pregnancy in the early stages may show the same two lines. This is again related to the level of hCG in the urine.
After the specialist confirms the diagnosis, he will select the necessary set of procedures for the mother, and will also further help her prepare for a new pregnancy.
What do doctors do if the fetus is frozen?
Depending on how a frozen pregnancy manifests itself in the early stages, as well as directly on the number of days from the moment of conception, the doctor will choose the most alternative method of treatment. After all, when establishing such a diagnosis, we are talking about preserving the life and health of the mother. There are two main treatment methods:
- With the help of medications that provoke. Can be used for up to 8 weeks.
- (vacuum aspiration). Under anesthesia, the woman's uterine cavity is cleaned using vacuum suction.
In any case, professional help will definitely be required, since in order to avoid adverse consequences, it is necessary to clean the uterine cavity (remnants of the amniotic sac, which will be indicated by ultrasound).
There is a third option, in which even the woman herself does not have time to realize that she was pregnant. This is a spontaneous abortion. If the fetus froze almost from the first days of life, then the body can reject it as a foreign body. In this case, the woman will simply notice a delay in her periods. Sometimes doctors prefer to observe the patient’s condition, waiting for a spontaneous abortion, so as not to interfere with the body again.
Why is it so scary not to see a doctor on time?
Sometimes a woman does not fully realize how severe the consequences of a missed early pregnancy can be for her. But the body does not always reject the fetus itself. If an embryo that has stopped developing remains in the womb for a long time, then intoxication is likely to develop. In this case, not only does the temperature rise, the woman begins to suffer from acute pain and weakness, and it is quite possible to delay the time until the blood becomes infected with elements of fetal decay.
If the pregnancy is more than 6 weeks, then in this case the woman has every chance of developing disseminated intravascular coagulation (DIC syndrome). The danger is that the blood loses its ability to clot. As a result, the woman may die from bleeding.
How to prevent fetal death during pregnancy
The couple, regardless of whether they are preparing to become parents for the first time or have children, must undergo an examination. It is he who will be able to reduce the risks and give an answer on how to avoid a frozen pregnancy in the early stages in their case. The doctor will suggest taking several tests: hormones, genetic examinations, ultrasound of the pelvic organs, blood for infections and other additional ones, which will be prescribed taking into account the parents’ medical history. It is also recommended to refrain from conceiving for up to six months after diseases such as acute respiratory viral infections, influenza, and chicken pox.
If a woman works in a children's team, she will be offered preventive vaccinations. Additional hormonal levels will need to be adjusted. Don't ignore visiting a geneticist. A healthy lifestyle will only increase your chances of becoming parents. In the first months, it is recommended to refrain from flying, sudden climate changes and prolonged exposure to the sun.
If your previous pregnancy ended in stopping the development of the embryo, don’t give up! With proper planning, the chance of a normal pregnancy and birth is 80%-90%. A gynecologist who cares for a couple will tell you how to prevent a frozen pregnancy in the early stages.
Pregnancy after fetal growth arrest
Doctors predict good chances of conceiving only if the couple does not ignore visiting specialized specialists, undergoes a course of treatment, and also gives up the idea of having a child for the next six months after an unsuccessful experience. On average, this period is necessary not only for a detailed examination and finding out the reason for the fading of pregnancy, but also for the physical restoration of the mother’s body.
As sad as it may be, it is quite rare to say with 100% certainty about the reasons for pregnancy termination. However, parents do not need to despair! Try to avoid stress, harmful factors, and don’t forget to get examined - and may everything work out for you and the baby will be born healthy and happy!
I already wrote a story about my frozen pregnancy a long time ago, for those who haven’t read it, you can see it here: . In this post I want to talk about the SAVING process itself...
In general, they put me in storage, and at 8 weeks I began to bleed. The doctors immediately reassured me and said that this often happens and there is no miscarriage, there is only a threat. They gave me IVs and injections for three days - they completely preserved my “pregnancy”. I immediately asked why I didn’t have an ultrasound? After all, the testimony is serious, suddenly there is nothing left to save, and the doctors answered with complete confidence: “don’t worry, everything is fine with your child,” although the child was dead and I spent all these three days walking with the dead baby, stroking his tummy and talking to him. ..or with her...
As soon as I remember, I get goosebumps and tears. I hoped...in vain...
After the embryo was removed, I was not myself and at that moment I saw a crying girl near the operating room. I immediately realized that she, too, had lost her child and was waiting for her turn to be cleaned. I approached her and began to calm her down. Through sobs, I realized that she was already 13 weeks pregnant!!! and then it hit me like an electric shock, she says that the child is ALIVE and she came for a voluntary ABORTION (I apologize for bringing up this topic). At that moment the ground almost ran away from under my feet... It’s clear that I’m so stressed about losing my baby, and then some crazy woman came to kill the child...
In short, I started reading morals to her... It’s clear that now it seems stupid, every person has their own problems, their own views and such actions are difficult and difficult to discuss, but at that moment I could not be stopped... She said that she is 17 years old, she is in college and has a boyfriend. They dated for 3 months, then because of his jealousy, she broke up with him, and only then found out that she was pregnant. I didn’t tell my mother, I just silently saved up money for 3 months and then came for an abortion. I realized that she WANTS a child, but she is afraid of her mother and is not sure that she will become a good mother herself, since she is still young...
I tried to explain to her that she could become the best mother, that she shouldn’t be afraid of anyone, neither her mother nor her boyfriend. This is her child and only she can decide the fate of the baby. I showed her pictures of the baby at 12 weeks, she was surprised to see the baby, she didn’t think that a full-fledged child was already living in her belly. This girl immediately ran to take off her surgical shirt... She thanked me from the bottom of her heart and promised to visit me the next day.
And this next day she came with her MOM. This mother was all show-off (a real bitch lady) and was pushing the doctors to give her daughter an abortion. And this girl again, all teary-eyed, ran to my room and asked for help... We talked for a long time with her mother, it turns out that this mother herself gave birth to her daughter at the age of 17. In general, after the conversation, her mother began to cry and allowed her daughter to give birth... And the next day this girl went to my room for safekeeping.
I couldn’t save my child, but I saved someone else’s...
