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15.10.2023

The Commissioner for Children's Rights under the President of the Russian Federation, Pavel Astakhov, at a meeting with parents in Moscow, said that the subject “sex education” will not be taught in Russian schools, despite the position of Europe.

As it became known earlier, the appearance of “sex education” lessons in the school curriculum can be caused by a misinterpretation of the norms in the optional protocol to the Convention on the Rights of the Child, as well as the Convention for the Protection of Children from Sexual Exploitation and Sexual Abuse. Both documents were ratified by the State Duma of the Russian Federation in April. In addition, in 2011, Russia ratified the European Social Charter, which provides for sex education for children in school as part of caring for their health.

Mandatory sex education in schools in EU countries already has precedents for bringing parents to criminal liability if they object to their children attending classes where they are taught “how to have safe sex.” A year ago, the results of a Levada Center study showed that more than 40% of Russian residents consider sex education classes in school to be “rather necessary,” and another more than 20% consider sex education classes to be “definitely necessary.” In turn, many schools deliberately do not accept European legislative “recommendations” and completely exclude sex education from the program.

How to comply with international standards and avoid the appearance of a gate for juvenile justice and early sex education in Russian legislation?

EXPERT OPINIONS

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Head of the working group on the protection of families and children under the Moscow City Duma:

We had a very good curriculum, “Ethics and Psychology of Family Life,” which encouraged the younger generation to take a responsible attitude toward their parents, their family, and their future family life, and to cultivate in themselves some moral qualities and chastity. But, unfortunately, in the “shaggy” times, all these good and health-oriented programs began to break down under the wild pressure of the West. In 1994, representatives of foreign funds broke directly, deposited money to the directors and asked them to teach valueology lessons. In 1997, they even tried to introduce a special course through the Ministry of Education. Then in 2004 there were attempts. All these conventions have now been ratified. And every time this causes a very harsh reaction from the public.
From a legal point of view, all international treaties should not contradict the Constitution, and we have a thesis in it about the protection of motherhood and childhood, and there is a recent ruling of the Constitutional Court on the inadmissibility of a contradiction between an international treaty and national legislation.

OPINIONS OF RADIO LISTENERS

My mother worked as a high school math teacher all her life. She started teaching at a girls' school. There were girls' and boys' schools then. So, The unification of girls' and boys' schools took place in order for people to develop harmoniously, because in high school boys began to fall in love with boys, and girls began to fall in love with girls. The merger led to people realizing that they need a family and need to live in society.
Now is a different time, both gynecologists and teachers say that sexual communication begins at school much earlier, there is much more information around. The most interesting thing is how to present it all. Without proper information, there will be a misconception. This is always of interest to the child; children from an early age begin to be interested in gender differences, and this is normal. The system of human development itself involves communication between the sexes. I am sure that there are enough talented scientists in our country; there is no need to always look to the West. One of the psychologists at the Alekseev hospital said that after working for a very long time, he can confidently say that homosexuality causes enormous damage to society, and it is implanted by society, and people are not born that way. And if we tell a 13-year-old child that this is normal, then we will ruin life and the person will never understand what he has lost.

If you compare Europe and the Muslim world, you will notice that in Europe there are sex education classes, but at the same time there is a low birth rate. And in the Muslim world there is no sex education, but the birth rate is high. In Russia, too, the birth rate is increasing due to Muslim families. I am for separate education, boys distract from school, everything has its time.

Sex education is necessary or not. The main question is, who will teach it? I myself taught “Fundamentals of ethics and psychology of family life,” and I am a literature teacher. Taught by just anyone. If this subject is introduced now, who will teach it? It is most important. If very competent specialists could be found, then maybe it would be necessary. To simply raise this issue is premature; illiterate teaching will only do harm.
I taught in the late 80s, early. 90s, when they introduced this new item. And it was very difficult. I was terrified to undergo special training, and yet I did not feel like an expert in this field.

I am 75 years old, I studied at a girls’ school, we had classes of 42 people. When I was 14 years old, we went to a ball at a boys' school. I am against “sex education”. We started anatomy in the 8th grade, and physiology starting the next year. The teachers told everything perfectly. Boys learned from boys, girls from girls, and no one gave birth at the age of 15. And these lessons are childish depravity. They will be carried away by animal passion and career. There will be neither tenderness nor subtlety of love, what Turgenev, Bunin, Tolstoy, our magnificent Russian writers brought up. And our children will have nothing, they just “happened like a bitch and a dog.” Why do we need to copy everything from Europe? We have to be smart about what's there. Our country is very original, it is better than other countries. If we educate in the spirit of literature that great writers left us, then we will have a very good state.

SEX EDUCATION ABROAD

Great Britain:

Sex and relationship education is compulsory in the UK for children from 11 years of age and includes the biological aspects of sexual behavior. This discipline is included in the lesson schedule in accordance with the national curriculum. After sex education lessons, children are asked to “consolidate the material they have learned” in closed rooms; adults are not present.

Earlier this year, a survey of British teenagers by the Institute of Public Policy Research (IPPR) found that the vast majority of boys and girls complained that such lessons often normalized debauchery and put pressure on them to began to be sexually active even before they were capable of it.

British schoolgirl raped after sex education lesson

In the UK, a thirteen-year-old girl was raped after a sex education lesson. A 13-year-old boy has admitted in court that he raped a girl of the same age after they both attended a compulsory sex education lesson at a school in Gwynedd, North Wales.

He told the court that after a sex education lesson at school they went to a secluded area where they discussed what they had just learned about intercourse.

The boy asked the girl if she wanted to try? Despite the fact that the girl said “no” several times, the student raped her. Then he said to the girl: “You can go now.”

In the UK, they have developed a guide for schools explaining to children that sex at 13 is normal.

The manual, in particular, states that for teenagers from 13 to 17 years old it is quite normal to “use profanity within the framework of the current cultural norm”, “to be in sexual or non-sexual relationships with members of the opposite or the same sex.”

Once the benefit arrived in schools, it was criticized by teachers, parents and community organizations. The scandal reached the House of Commons, where they recognized that such recommendations were simply criminal. Indeed, in accordance with UK law, the age of consent for sexual relations is 16 years.

However, officials did not abandon their initiative, noting that the booklet is not intended for school lessons, but can only be an auxiliary material for teachers.

SWITZERLAND

Swiss parents fighting sex education in kindergarten and first grade have finally failed

The Federal Court has upheld a decision by the cantonal Basel-Stadt Court of Appeal, rejecting the request of Basel parents demanding that their children be exempted from sex education classes until the second grade of primary school.

According to the judges, this education “does not conflict with fundamental rights.” The Supreme Court emphasizes the importance and purpose of preventive sex education. He recalled that they are intended “to protect children from the risk of abuse and raise awareness of aspects related to health and sexuality.” In addition, these school lessons "complement the education provided by parents."

Sex education in schools has caused a stir in Basel-Stadt after a teacher's "teaching suitcase" with a wooden penis and a plush vagina was publicly displayed. A parent committee was created to launch a federal people's initiative to ban the "sexualization of school."

Poland, Italy, and Spain also have sex education classes. In many countries they are mandatory, and only certain documents stating that the family is very religious and it is unacceptable for their children to attend such lessons can exempt them from the lesson. You can’t just not come to such lessons; doing so can result in a fine and even imprisonment.

Germany

Scandal over sex education lessons erupts in Germany

Eugen went to jail because his daughter Melita missed two lessons in so-called “sex education.” The girl's parents received a notice to pay a fine. Because they pay
refused, the case went to the district court. The girl's father was sentenced to one day in prison.

It is known that in another school, 8 students lost consciousness during a similar lesson after seeing an image of their genitals.

Recently, there has been more and more criticism of the German education system. First of all, it concerns sex education lessons. These classes appear in the compulsory school curriculum from the fourth grade. With the help of colorful illustrations, educational video programs and visual aids, students are taught about the secrets of the Kama Sutra, and about same-sex love, and surrogacy.

In some schools in Berlin, sex lessons can be taught to the little ones. Pupils in the first and second grades, with the help of textbooks whose contents in some places are suitable only for adult magazines, learn about various methods of sexual gratification. Embarrassed children often simply refuse to go to class after this.

USA

Chicago schools teach fifth-graders about safe anal sex

The educational presentation included slides that were clearly not suitable for children, as well as a “demonstration” of the use of male and female condoms.

In this program, fifth and sixth grade students are assured that “birth control pills taken the day after intercourse” are “NOT abortion pills,” and children are also told that “youth twelve years of age and older can use sexual services.” health without parental consent."

Female condoms are of particular importance in the presentation, since a significant number of slides are devoted to this type of contraception.

According to the presentation, female condoms are great for “women, men and transgender people” and can also be used if you are “gay” or have a straight sexual orientation.

Nebraska has urged teachers not to use “gender terms” like “boys and girls” or “ladies and gentlemen.”

Instead, you should use general terms: “readers”, “athletes” or, say, “purple penguins”. This approach will supposedly help reduce the severity of the gender issue.

The “handout” distributed at school is called “Twelve Easy Steps to Gender Identity.” Several pages of text explain to school teachers how they can avoid separating students by gender. One of the proposed options is to distinguish children by birth dates. Another option is based on preference. Some of the students like to ride a skateboard, and some like to ride a bicycle. Some people like to drink milk, while others like juice. One loves dogs, the other cannot live without cats. Some people prefer summer, others like winter. So much for the differences.

The gloomy American prediction was made by an Internet user under the nickname SMD. “I think,” he wrote, “hospitals will be next. The time will come when doctors will not be able to tell you whether your newborn is a boy or a girl...”

There is voluntary registration on "LAW". It's convenient: You only need to log in once to leave a comment. If you have already registered, please log in. Or log in via social network Posted by Svetlana Rybochkina (Svetlana Rybochkina) 08.12.2014 15:31

I am of the opinion that a child who has received early sexual development begins to lag sharply behind in GENERAL development. I am the father of a 14-year-old son, and he learned and will still learn what he needs to know about sex from us, his parents. And the so-called “experts” in such intimate topics only spoil everything and reduce it to consumer goods.

I would very much like to introduce separate education for boys and girls, for the reason described above in a long article (girls under 18 years of age are ahead of boys in biological development, and dominate them in the class, laying crooked stereotypes and deep mental traumas at this tender age, which is why weak-willed men and drunkards and drug addicts grow up). But for this it is necessary to do the impossible at the state level. We need to make the job of a teacher PRESTIGIOUS FOR the MEN who will teach and raise these boys. Now we are ALL raised by female teachers, of whom the overwhelming majority are. And without wishing harm to anyone, solely out of good intentions, they raise future men NOT THIS WAY.

And also on the topic of “sex education”. Search Yandex-Google for information about this in Germany, Sweden, Norway. You will shudder! Primary school children are shown real pornography. Discuss poses with them. They teach you how to masturbate. In these countries (and, by the way, in France, but less there), an attitude towards gender has recently been implanted at the highest level as something that a person chooses himself, of his own free will. The pronoun “it” is being introduced instead of “he” or “she”, used to address children. From my point of view, this is a madhouse." But "civilized Europe" apparently considers these "freedoms."
All these conventions have now been ratified. And every time this causes a very harsh reaction from the public.

In 1997, I remember an incident in Moscow. They launched a “tram of love”, drove children there from colleges and schools, and tried to teach the basics of contraception and sex education there. The grandmothers almost overturned this bus, and the children almost broke all the windows. We are monitoring all these attempts, but there are a lot of secondary issues. For example, additional education as part of literature lessons for 5th grade. There is the novel “The House Without Walls” by Francoise Sagan, a purely tabloid writer. The main character of the novel smokes, drinks and dreams of incest with her father. Children are forced to read all this. If we take the sphere as a whole, in educational book houses in Moscow about 5 years ago they sold sexual encyclopedias for children of primary school age in the “educational games” section. 2 years ago they called me to Pskov. There, in bookstores, the book “Boys, for You” was discovered, in which they generally corrupt children, showing varieties of perversions and deviations. Unfortunately, tens of thousands of these books were published, including with funding from international foundations.

All this is deeply contrary to our traditional moral values. So far we have managed to thwart all attempts each time. And the bill banning the promotion of homosexuality introduced administrative liability, it’s probably time to introduce a criminal article, considering how they interfere with schools and try to organize their pickets near libraries. In my opinion, it would be nice to introduce separate education for boys and girls, so that there is no unisex of all kinds, which is demoralizing. Another factor: look how many girls have such violent conflicts over their boyfriends. In Moscow, in the western district, the situation was different; the boys started a shootout over a young prostitute. Disinhibition of the sexual sphere at a young age leads to very serious consequences. As many psychologists testify, the very discussion of this topic for the psyche corresponds to physical rape. Children are born innocent, immature, chaste. And this state must be maintained as long as possible, and not be led by all sorts of conventions, behind which are often the donkey ears of all these corporations who want to sell their contraceptive products.
Written by Anastasia Zavyalova 04.12.2014 22:19

In some countries, no one will be surprised by sex education lessons in schools, where issues of sexual relations are covered in detail. From attraction to sexual intercourse itself. All possible options are considered, in some places it is even suggested that you choose your gender roles and try different forms of relationships in practice. They promote homosexuality to children using the example of fairy tales about the happiness of two princes - instead of the traditional lovers of a prince and princess.

In Russia, the promotion of homosexuality is prohibited, but every now and then the issue of choosing gender identity and, in a larger sense, sex education itself and sex education for adolescents is raised. The reasons are obvious: early sexual intercourse, early pregnancies. At what age should we talk about this, if today is early, and tomorrow will be too late? Is it necessary and how to tell children about homosexuality? After all, they watch foreign films, and questions inevitably arise.

If a child is completely prohibited from everything related to sexuality, the opposite effect is possible - a premature increase in the child’s interest in these issues.

To understand how traumatic mistakes in sex education and the propaganda of homosexuality among children are, you need to imagine the entire coordinate system in which this problem arises for the still developing child’s psyche. Let's consider all the components of the issue, using the knowledge of the training “System-vector psychology” by Yuri Burlan.

Sexual education of children: infantile sexuality

We often think that children “understand everything.” Of course, from an early age they see their parents’ relationships and scenes from adult films do not pass them by. Even in fairy tales they often write about love. But we must not forget one decisive fact: child sexuality is infantile, the child has no need for the sexual act itself. Therefore, sex education should be aimed exclusively at the development of the sensory-emotional component without an emphasis on physiology.

The child does not understand the word “sex”; for him it is sensual, emotional intimacy. Even while masturbating, a child is just exploring his body, discovering that different parts of the body have different sensitivity. From the desire to masturbate it does not at all follow that the boy is ready to associate this action with a girl. Children's games “doctor” also have as their goal only the study of differences, and, in fact, also oneself - how am I different? These are a kind of first sex education lessons, where adults are not allowed.

At the mental level, a child does not have an “understanding” of the physiology of the process, even when he completely distinguishes the gender of those around him and has long seen differences in the genital organs of his peers. Yes, he has a guess how everything happens, but there is no physical NEED and DESIRE. Nature has taken care of this mechanism for all living beings.

If, nevertheless, the child receives it, then it becomes a huge stress for his psyche. To the point of stopping his psychosexual development. This is especially dangerous when parents become the source of information about sex. The basic natural prohibition against incest is violated. This is where shame and rejection arise. Subconsciously, the child feels that it is impossible to talk about these topics with his parents, and his psyche is protected by the thought: “My parents never do such things.”

Sex education for boys and girls

Even the first guess about THIS causes strong emotional experiences. For example, when a child hears a swear word for the first time. (Swear words are words about sexuality.) In the wake of these children’s emotions, it is very important for parents not to disrupt the child’s formation of the idea of adult relationships as a natural, purely intimate continuation of love between a man and a woman. A mistake in this inevitable point of sex education will significantly affect the child’s entire subsequent life and his idea of sex - either as a sacred act of love, or as something vulgar, animalistic.

And in an understandable form, parents don’t have to worry about this; the child will receive the necessary information about the physiology of sexual relations from “more advanced” boys at school, in the yard or in kindergarten. This is precisely the most correct, natural option for obtaining information “where children come from.” It is a mistake to think: “We’d better tell you ourselves before the neighbor’s bully Kolka tells you.”

It is also a big mistake that sex education for boys and girls should be different, or that classes with detailed visual diagrams are needed at school. Human sexuality, unlike animal mating, is a purely intimate process. When any relationship is exposed, it becomes devalued. Sex education lessons should deal with the education of feelings, but not the mechanics of the process.

From the age of three, a child (except for skin-visual boys and girls) begins to feel the shame of uncovered genitals. If this shame is “destroyed” by showing how grown-up men and women are engaged in “this simple matter,” then there will be no room left for the development of sensuality, real human sexuality as it is. After all, human sexuality is, first of all, prohibitions, which we will talk about in more detail later.

Development of human sexuality

More than one thousand years have passed since human sexuality separated from the animal process of reproduction and ceased to be exclusively procreation. Sexuality is much more than a mechanical process and a variety of positions. First of all, human sexuality is feelings and, strange as it may seem at first glance, limitations. These fundamental laws are built into the human psyche and regulate not only sexual relations themselves, but also all behavior in society. So that society itself survives and reproduces itself in the future.

A man is taboo in his attraction to children and his own gender. A woman is limited in her behavior by modesty - so that men do not kill each other, like animals in the fight for a female. The final stage in the development of human sexuality in general and the sexual education of adolescents in each specific case can be considered a cultural limitation. Culture limits not only actions that can lead to death, but also provides an additional opportunity for pleasure - sensuality.

Only the development of sensuality, as the basis of sexual education, guarantees the development of full sexuality. Developed sensuality gives a person immunity from vulgarity and helps create truly strong, trusting relationships. Relationships based on emotional and intellectual closeness, spiritual kinship, empathy. And attraction itself becomes the basis on which love is built.

Classical literature is most suitable for developing sensuality from an early age. But a child needs to be taught it from childhood. This is an ideal tool for sexual education of children and adolescents, development of good taste and imagination. Classic literature, appropriate for age, gives the first idea of love, selflessness, fidelity, tenderness, and other high feelings, without which love loses its meaning. For a child, this is a much stronger emotional experience than possible sexual contacts.

This is especially important if an emotional connection with parents is not built and the child does not receive life in the family. Or the environment leaves much to be desired. In this case, books can become the only source of the right direction for sex education, environment and, to a large extent, protection from bad fate. But normally, the feeling of security and safety that the mother initially gives to the child is the basis on which the development of properties given by nature occurs. Only in this way does sexual development, as a natural process of human maturation, occur naturally without delays.

The cost of mistakes in sex education for boys

Perhaps a child will one day ask his parents why uncles kiss. To answer correctly, parents themselves must understand the mechanism of formation of this attraction. To do this, it is necessary to distinguish the preconditions for choosing such relationships. This knowledge will also be needed in order to avoid critical mistakes in the sexual education of boys.

There are many opinions, but the reason for homosexual relationships is explained with mathematical precision only at Yuri Burlan’s training “System-vector psychology.” Looking ahead, let's say that only two types of men enter into homosexual relationships:

Owners of the cutaneous-visual ligament vectors

Only the latter, with certain characteristics of development and sexual education, which we will discuss in detail later, experience a real attraction to boys. The first ones are deprived of the animal component in the psyche. This is what allows skin-visual boys to “unlimitedly” use sexuality to preserve their own lives. But the choice of homosexual relationships, whether for some or for others, is not a given norm, but the result of frustrations in the anal vector or fears in.

At the same time, homosexuality is more a social pathology than an individual one. The child is not free to choose the environment for his development, and cannot significantly influence the process of his own sexual education and the teenager. Even in adulthood, without realizing your real desires, it is impossible to make an independent choice of destiny. Therefore, it makes no sense to consider men who choose such relationships to be guilty of their choice.

Sex education lessons: propaganda or education?

It must be said that sex education lessons in themselves are already propaganda of sex among children and adolescents. They are basically not needed. At school, feelings should be cultivated - in literature and language lessons, through the general atmosphere at school, a gallant attitude towards girls, etc. When an adult tells and shows children films about the physiology of sex, the child experiences a strong internal experience - shame. It is not for nothing that Freud pointed out the traumatic effect of a child watching his parents during sexual intercourse.

Returning to the essence of sex education, let us emphasize the most important points:

The sexuality of a child before full mental and puberty is infantile, that is, it is directed towards himself and does not need a partner.
Before puberty, the child is not yet ready for this action, not only physically, but, above all, mentally. Premature information about the physiology of sexual intercourse is perceived by the child’s psyche as something disgusting, shameful and even unacceptable.
Excessive zeal in attempts to diversify and “deepen” sex education can seriously negatively affect the natural psychosexual development of the child.
Development of sensuality, timely development of cultural restrictions - natural, propaganda of homosexuality and other negative influences.

PERVUSHKIN BORIS NIKOLAEVICH

Private educational institution "St. Petersburg School "Tete-a-Tete"

Mathematics Teacher of the Highest Category

Deputy Director for HR

The unstable situation in Russian society, normative and value uncertainty, greater autonomy of adolescents and young men from their parents than before, and greater availability of information on gender issues contributed to an earlier onset of sexual activity. At the same time, the duration of a person’s social maturation has increased, and the moral and psychological problems of building intergender relationships fall on people who are less mature in personal and social terms. Insufficient and incorrect education in the psychosexual sphere, unfavorable sexual experiences, acceptance of false or archaic stereotypes of masculinity or femininity can negatively affect moral, somatic and mental health. All this actualizes the issue of reforming sex education and enlightenment in modern Russia.

The problem of sex education is not simply explaining to children the physiology of sexual relations - it includes the formation of the correct attitude towards oneself, a representative of the opposite sex, love and marriage, it implies the assignment of certain values, regulation of a person and society towards gender issues.

Parents have a significant influence on psychological and sexual child development. Many families do a poor job with sex education, and today's schools have a big responsibility. The school psychologist can play a significant role in the implementation of the sex education program. In this paper, we propose a model of sex education and education in school, developed taking into account the characteristics of adolescence and young adulthood.

We see the main goal of sex education in school as creating conditions for the development of a healthy and moral attitude towards the problems of gender and sexuality in the younger generation. The principles of complexity and continuity are fundamental to such work.

The work of a psychologist is represented in three main areas. When working with parents, the following aspects are addressed:

* parents' awareness of their own role in the process of gender socialization of the child;
* bringing to the attention of parents the fact of the mythological nature of cultural sexual norms that reinforce gender socialization in society;
* increasing the reflection of each spouse, developing flexibility in communication and efficiency in interaction with each other.

Working with teachers. Today, teachers themselves are in dire need of qualified training to work with teenagers in this area. Such preparation cannot be reduced to a few lectures on the topic of sexual development and behavior of adolescents. It requires the removal of emotional barriers among teachers themselves, making it clear that the sexual development of adolescents can neither be stopped nor slowed down.

Based on the goals of sex education in school, we can highlight the following aspects in the work of a psychologist with teenage schoolchildren:

* study of the physiology of sex. Possible topics: changes during adolescence, physiological differences, pregnancy and childbirth, sexual intercourse and the likelihood of pregnancy, etc.

* protection from pregnancy. Formation of a healthy lifestyle through explanation;

* problems of interpersonal relationships. Within the framework of this direction, a discussion of the following topics is proposed: love and mutual obligations, sexual feelings and attractions, communication with the opposite sex, personal values, making sexual decisions, etc. Work is needed to increase the level of self-knowledge, develop self-confidence, destroy gender stereotypes, establish optimal communication attitudes between men and women.

* marriage and family relationships. When considering issues of marriage and family relationships, special attention should be paid, in our opinion, to problems of compatibility, awareness of the causes of conflicts in the family, the formation of marital roles and the development of attitudes of mutually responsible partnership.

When implementing this model, a predominantly group form of work is assumed. As the main methods of the sex education program, we have identified lecture, conversation, debate, analysis and discussion of specific problem situations, business and role-playing games, complete training programs and training elements.

Today, the school feels the need to develop new approaches to sex education and awareness. New psychological research on gender issues and real work to introduce a culture of intergender interaction are needed.

In mid-November last year, the majority of Russians (60%) expressed support for... the introduction of sex education classes in schools. This is evidenced by the results of a survey conducted by the All-Russian Center for the Study of Public Opinion (VTsIOM). But what are the consequences of introducing sex education classes in schools?

Puberty is a period of maturation, not maturity.

– It is not difficult to calculate the consequences of sex education in schools, fortunately we have Western experience for this. In the West, almost everywhere, such education is mandatory from about 9–10 years old, and in some places from 6 (!). And not for the first decade. What are the consequences? Our child psychologists report about them, who literally “sound the alarm”: a catastrophic drop in the birth rate, an increase in the incidence of impotence, prosperity and the increasing legalization of same-sex love, incest - these are the immediate consequences of school “sex education”.

Early sex education has a detrimental effect on the vulnerable child psyche

In addition to the global social consequences, early sex education has an extremely detrimental effect on the very vulnerable child’s psyche, and this never remains without personal consequences for the child. Here's what the psychologists we've already quoted say:

“Our observations have shown that in the overwhelming majority of cases, when parents are carried away by innovations in the field of sexual education of children, this leads already in childhood to a wide variety of neuropsychic disorders.”

As a specific example, they talk about a woman who “was very thoughtful about the issues of sexual education of children” and read the “Children’s Sexual Encyclopedia” to her sons, 7 and 4 (!) years old. As a result, her eldest son began to suffer from enuresis, and “the younger one engaged in masturbation, and did it in public, in front of strangers, and all attempts to distract him from this unseemly activity ... ended in hysterical breakdowns.”

Do we want to see this in our society and in the lives of our children? If not, what kind of sex education can we talk about at school?

It is very important to comprehend those natural periods of maturation that are embedded in us by the Wise Creator. Puberty is precisely a period of maturation, not maturity! Do not pick the fruit until it is ripe, otherwise it is bitter and harmful to digestion. So why push children to have sex when they have only just begun to grow up, or perhaps have not yet started? And the lessons of such “enlightenment” are precisely provocative in nature.

The lessons of such “enlightenment” are precisely provocative in nature

We should not be deceived by stories that the purpose of such lessons is to educate and thus protect. Their real goal is to encourage early sexual activity. Children are very inquisitive. As soon as something is clearly shown to them and told in an interesting way, they will immediately “Google” ten times more visual aids and stand right at the edge of the abyss! And then it’s just a matter of technology and time: in our country, like in Switzerland, they will distribute free “children’s condoms” to schoolchildren to fight AIDS!

May God's mercy lead us away from this!

Imagine how this “object” will be called in slang among teenagers

– I will answer this question not only as a priest, but also as the father and grandfather of two little schoolgirls. Comparing the time of my youth with the days of today, I am horrified at how easy it is for today’s teenagers to gain access to what is completely undesirable and even harmful for them to see. The Internet in this regard is an inexhaustible storehouse. There is no doubt that you need to talk to your children about “this”. I’m only afraid that for many teenagers it makes sense not so much to educate, but to rehabilitate them morally.

None of my parents talked to me about “this.” But I remember how doctors from the regional dermatovenerological clinic came to our class and simply talked about their work. Girls and boys were taken to different audiences and introduced to situations. We listened, and what was told made our hair stand on end. We were instilled with the very correct idea that we would have to pay for everything. I am still grateful to those doctors who were not lazy to visit schools.

It is clear that there are many fewer medical specialists than the classes in which our children study. But such meetings with smart people need to be held. Maybe it’s worth making a series of videos warning about the consequences of ill-considered relationships between girls and boys, and including these videos in the same life safety program specifically for high school students. Only viewings must be organized separately.

I would not introduce a special subject into a high school course. Introducing such a course at school means legitimizing its content in the eyes of children. Since they teach it, it means it’s normal. The question is - if you teach, who will teach? In theory, they are doctors, but where can you get so many doctors if even medical offices have been abolished in schools?

And lastly: imagine what this “object” will be called in slang among teenagers?

The initiators of the program are actually capitulating to premarital affairs among teenagers

– The fact is that studying at school involves the student’s personal involvement in the subject. That is, the principle applies: “We gave you the Pythagorean theorem, solve it at home. We taught you how to work with literary text, look at “The Captain’s Daughter” at home.” For all normal lessons, this is great. But what will a student do with the knowledge gained in lessons about intimate communication, the use of contraceptives, etc.? He is already guided by the principle: “In life you have to try everything,” but here they also told him how to try correctly. If teachers talk about it, then students no longer see anything forbidden in it.

Of course, the introduction of sex education classes is a completely new experience for Russia, largely incomprehensible and unpredictable in its consequences.

Let's take a brief look at the logic of the supporters of this program. Proponents state that teenagers begin to become sexually active early. Without being educated in this area, teenagers are not protected, which leads to early pregnancy, and this leads to abortion. Statistics are added to the argument. In particular, it is noted that our country leads the world in the number of abortions. Moreover, every fifth abortion in our country is performed by a teenager. In addition, Russia has taken the lead in the rate of AIDS spread, even surpassing South Africa. And so, in order to avoid unwanted pregnancies, abortions and AIDS, schoolchildren must be taught the use of contraceptives and other intricacies of sexual life.

Let them fornicate, but at least protect themselves” - this is the main logic of the initiators of the program

Thus, the argument of the program’s supporters comes down to the thesis - and this thesis is constantly repeated - “to give teenagers knowledge about a safe sex life.” That is, the initiators of the program actually capitulate to premarital relationships among teenagers. “Let them fornicate, but at least protect themselves” - this is the main logic of the initiators of the program. This is similar to how, instead of fighting drug addiction, talking about less dangerous drugs, how to use a syringe correctly so as not to get an infection, etc.

The available texts for sex education lessons are provocative. When in a lesson they talk about the natural attraction to intimate communication, when this process is described, and then it is added: “Attention, children, do not forget about the means of protection,” then the students will naturally answer: “We will not forget, Maria Ivanovna, we will not forget.” . These lessons contribute to the corruption of teenagers; they are simply trying to cultivate debauchery with the help of contraceptives.

The life experience of many people (and the priestly experience of confession) shows how easily we give in to temptation. At first, the person thought to simply study, get to know the theory of intimate life more deeply, and become knowledgeable in order to implement this in marital relationships. But immersion in theory unexpectedly touches hitherto unknown weaknesses in his soul, breaks the constipation of the desires of the flesh, and the person falls into various types of carnal sin. He did not even imagine that this would happen to him, but he fell into sin because he showed interest in a dangerous topic.

Since ancient times, for Russian people there have been taboo topics that are indecent to speak about in public. Among these topics are intimate marital relationships. The ban on discussing such topics has never led to problems in childbirth or family life. On the contrary, countries where they talk about this publicly, where cinema and the Internet have long torn off all veils of secrecy, are distinguished by a rare drop in demographics. People stop having children, get divorced easily, but they have a whole range of ideas about intimate things.

Chastity presupposes the secrecy of sexual life. A secret is something that is not spoken about out loud, that is reverently kept in silence. Thanks to this secret, each family has its own life, not subject to the gaze of others. Thanks to this secret, married life is not mediocrity, not vulgar satisfaction of the flesh, but reverent mutual love of spouses and sacred participation in God’s Providence for the birth of children.

There is only one way out for us - to talk in schools about the beauty of virginity and chastity, about what happiness it is to find your only chosen one or chosen one, to give birth to children in your unique family, without first being tainted by walking around the hands of partners. And, of course, set a positive example.

Immoral relationships end up being joyless

A woman I know once admitted: “If I had known that I would meet my husband, then for his sake I would have kept myself clean.” Not trusting God to give you the best leads to the worst. The woman in question lived for her own pleasure, had abortions, after which she found herself infertile and could no longer give birth to a child from her beloved husband.

Sooner or later, every fornicator regrets his falls, regrets that he did not save himself in time. Immoral relationships ultimately turn out to be joyless. This is what we would like to protect our dear teenagers from.

These are lessons of temptation, not enlightenment

– I think that such lessons greatly corrupt children and adolescents and traumatize their psyche. Unfortunately, there is already a lot of so-called technical information about physical relations between the sexes on the Internet, but nothing is said at all about how to build and preserve a family, and about what a great virtue chastity is, and how many troubles it can protect , especially later, in family life.

Practice shows that the field of so-called sexual education is very quickly taken over by depraved people, whose goal is to immerse young people in the world of debauchery as early as possible. I think that's the real goal of people pushing projects like this into schools. And we see that in those countries where these projects operate, their family situation is not only no better, but also much worse than ours. We have a catastrophe with our families, just a national catastrophe, but there it’s a complete nightmare. The value of family there is almost completely lost.

In general, the more depraved a person is, the less he needs a family

In general, the more depraved a person is, the less he needs a family. Therefore, such “enlightenment” will have what results? – Such that our Russian family will fall apart even more. As a Christian, I cannot call this enlightenment at all. These are lessons of temptation, but no enlightenment.

Need "Chastity Lessons"

It would be nice if we named such a subject accordingly, for example, “Lessons in Chastity.” Because chastity is a deep concept, the essence of which is the Orthodox teaching about the integrity of a person’s spiritual, mental and carnal life in accordance with the Holy Spirit. Only such a life can serve as the basis for a good and creative life - here on earth - and bliss in eternity. This is what we can and should talk about.

And the “Lessons of Sexual Education” being imposed on us is part of the implementation of a program for the spiritual captivity and corruption of our people, subordinating us to a liberal-godless worldview that is alien to us, with its “self-extortion,” according to the apt remark of St. Andrew of Crete. When the old, carnal man, with all his passions and lusts, seems to be the only basis for building a prosperous private and public life. We need to jointly resist this captivity, wisely and firmly. This, I think, is our task: to consistently and patiently return to the good path of the Orthodox State, remembering and putting into practice all the good that we have acquired along our centuries-old path, and, if possible, freeing ourselves from everything erroneous and harmful. Be bolder in speaking and acting Orthodoxy, establishing a good way of life in our common Fatherland, promoting a speedy and clear understanding among young people of what this way of life should be, what a person’s vocation is in the eyes of God.

Parents have a significant influence on psychological and sexual. Many families do a poor job with sex education, and today's schools have a big responsibility. The school psychologist can play a significant role in the implementation of the sex education program. In this paper, we propose a model of sex education and education in school, developed taking into account the characteristics of adolescence and young adulthood.