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MEMORY POEMS
These “reminders” will help your child remember some school rules of the Russian language.

Cases: Ivan Gave Birth to a Girl, Ordered to Drag the Diaper!

We don’t confuse putting on and putting on: Putting on clothes, putting on Nadezhda.

To memorize voiceless consonants (a very useful thing when parsing words phonetically): STYOPKA, KhoChesh ShcheTs? Fi! (STPKHCHSHSHCTsF)

Spelling:

Ramrod, prim and blinders,
seam, gooseberries and gluttons,
chocolate, highway, driver -
here is the whole set.
Plural

In the children's fairy tale Kolobok
could roll on the grass
without boots, without boots,
no socks and no stockings.
Six hectares of oranges,
Apples, pears and tangerines,
eggplants - five beds,
Can't pick tomatoes.

Respect the person
among the Turkmens, Tatars, Uzbeks,
among Tajiks and Armenians,
among the Mongols and Gypsies,
among the Yakuts and Tungus,
among the Bashkirs and Belarusians,
among the Kyrgyz and Georgians,
among the Buryats and Ossetians
Unstressed vowels at the root of a word

If the vowel letter is in doubt -
You put her under stress immediately!

***
In the city of Bordeaux,
on Bordovaya street,
the sunset is crimson and crimson.

***
On the veranda there is wind
On the Toys Showcase.

The troll was walking along the sidewalk, and the cat ate the egg.

The letter Y after T in the root of the word

The gypsy stood on tiptoes and pointed at the chicken.
The gypsy on tiptoe stole the chicken and said “Tsyts!”
Grammar

To correctly determine the initial form of a verb:

Don’t change the look, Don’t lose the look.

***
Questions answered by adverbs: where,
when, where, where, how, why and why.
Hyphen in indefinite pronouns

This, something, either, or – don’t forget the dash.

***
Either, something, somehow, -\
Well, don’t forget
Write with a hyphen,
As a preposition with the word from.

(from behind, from under)

***
Something, either, then, or
Don't forget the dash
But the particles would
Write it down separately.

***
Either, something, that, or another needs to be tightened with a dash!
N and NN in adjectives

Onn, enn - write two N; an, yang, in - write N one!

Adjectives with the suffix -YAN-: exceptions: look at the window to remember which adjectives are spelled double H: the window has glass panes, a wooden frame, and tin latches and handles.
Sibilant adverbs - exceptions

I can't bear to get married.
Unpronounceable consonants at the root of words

Both terrible and dangerous
There is no point in writing the letter T!
Everyone knows how lovely it is
It is appropriate to write the letter T!

***
Interesting:
Not wonderful, not wonderful,
It's terrible and dangerous
There is no point in writing the letter T.

***
Chuvilin feels that they sympathize with him.
***
What a wonderful day it is today,
The sun is shining festively in the sky,
Illuminates the area and surroundings,
And with its warmth it invigorates the heart,
But the cow lies in the pasture,
Brown eyes look sad,
Because her shepherd is harsh
"Hello!" I didn't say today.

Socks and stockings
Short socks - long word: socks,
Long stockings - short word: stocking.

Grammar is a strict science, not to say boring (I am a linguist myself, I have the right). However, the school Russian language course was doomed to a glimmer of humor; this is when the only three adverbs that ended in -zh and were included in the title were used. Of course, in the textbook they are written separated by commas, and, of course, no one except incorrigible excellent students read them except as a whole phrase, which caused an outbreak of unauthorized fun to the irritation of the teacher (especially if she herself is unmarried) and to the embarrassment of the student answering the lesson (to say this in front of the whole class - this is necessary!).

I think, however, that now the situation is radically changing. I don’t know if grammar rules are taught in school. I’m afraid not, because I read an article by a popular teacher about why you should teach rules,

when there are computers. But even if they do, for the new generation the problem of marriage seems to have been removed. According to Hegel.

“Get married, my dear!”

The fact is obvious: girls do not want to get married. There is some, so to speak, déjà vu with the opposite sign. Once upon a time, the expanses of Europe and Asia were resounding (in different languages) with a girl’s cry: “Get married, my dear!” Because this cry was ignored, poor Lisa of Karamzin drowned, whose fate thousands of people mourned for decades. Pushkin's Mermaid also drowned herself, but judging by the text of the unfinished poem, the insidious traitor finally received his harsh retribution. And now I know more than one case when an unhappy young man begs: “Well, marry me!” - and hears a cold-blooded: “Yes, please, but I don’t want to register.” Not just girls, but some kind of black hussars.

Why this is so - we can talk about this at length and insightfully, but we will limit ourselves to the fact that along with the universal reason - the loss of the Christian foundations of life - we will indicate only one more, certainly connected with it, but much less often mentioned: the influence of mothers, victims of the victorious, developing , very, very developed, mature and, ultimately, overripe socialism, who have crippled their lives and simply do not want to see another possibility. At one time, I almost had to tear a highly intelligent and religious woman away from her son-in-law, whom she sought to erase from the face of the earth, with almost my teeth, claiming that her daughter no longer needed him: she had been married, she had a stamp in her passport, she had a child, so why else would she be such a burden? , as a husband (by the way, very decent, very educated and makes good money)? Let me note by the way, although this seems to have nothing to do with this topic, that the “Fundamentals of the Social Concept of the Russian Orthodox Church” states that if a husband forces his wife to have an abortion, then she has the right to divorce him. There is nothing said about mothers, and their instigation is much more common.

But it is much more interesting to try to answer the question: why, in fact, get married?

Counterarguments and their exposure (according to Bulgakov)

There is a widespread belief that a husband is a burden, slavery, and a lot of extra work. The first place in the examples is occupied by cooking soup and washing socks. However, soup is an extremely healthy and inexpensive food, so cooking it is always harmless, and washing anything in the washing machine is not a problem. So this, as one of Bulgakov’s characters said, is a case of so-called lies. Actually, that's not the point, it's just too lazy to love. For for a lover, not only soups and socks, but also much more complex “tests” turn into nothing and even in some way into additional entertainment, into one of the small joys of family life. And laziness begins to act already on the distant approaches to marriage, and a girl who does not know how to love and, out of laziness, does not want to learn it at all, is either completely unable to find her other half, or out of laziness agrees to a completely worthless option. With intelligence and diligence, however, it could also be made bearable, but laziness...

The main flaw of the classic novel is that it usually ends with a wedding. Meanwhile, it is after the wedding that the most interesting thing begins - normal human life, which is not built according to advertising clips. Yes, you need to create a family, and this is a great work, but it is a grace-filled work, and its fruit is the development of the individual. That’s right, and the stories about how family interferes with personal development are again a lie. The family “gets in the way” of laziness, irresponsibility, whims, and a meaningless momentary existence. And a woman’s personality blossoms in the family, which is the first necessary condition for family life.

Wife as a phenomenon

Since I am a linguist, I will give an interesting analogy. In grammar, it is believed that the head of a sentence is the subject, everything is built on it, but the quintessence of the meaning is in the predicate. So, the head of the family is, of course, the husband, without him there is no family (the term “incomplete family” was not created from a good life and is somewhat reminiscent of the headless horseman and other equally viable constructions). But the heart of the family is the wife.

There is such a fairy tale in Ossetian folklore. The youth started a discussion about who is more important in the family, and got so excited that it was decided to conduct an experiment: the smartest girl in the village married the stupidest guy, and the smartest young man married the stupidest girl. An intelligent wife, with all her respect for her husband, little by little, “smartly,” helped him make smart decisions, and over time he became a respected member of society. And the stupid wife had such a destructive influence on her husband that he quickly became stupid and turned into a complete nonentity. And when young wives desperately complain that they got a scoundrel husband, firstly, I think where she was looking before, and secondly, I remember this fairy tale.

A fairy tale is a wise thing, but still it is nothing more than a fairy tale. But one bishop (obviously no less wise) said that when a candidate for ordination comes to him with his wife, he looks more at the future mother: “If she is an A, and the husband is a C, then I ordain, but if he’s an A, and she’s a C, or even worse, then no.” And so, without special declarations, many bishops act.

What does “A” mean? The memoirs of one venerable priest say that when he was going to look for a wife, his confessor said: “It is necessary that either a Christian woman be like flint, or that her family be made of pearl.” Let us note that firmness in faith comes first here: this means that a true Christian woman, by her faith, will be able to become a good wife. Three times “alas” for church activists who allegedly neglect their family out of piety.

Further counterarguments

For some reason, there is a widespread opinion that if a woman is not a pilot, not a sea captain, not a banker, or at worst not a civil engineer, then her life has been lived in vain. In short, if a woman is not a man, then she seems not to be a person. The funny thing is that this idea is ardently supported by feminists, who seem to be more suited to asserting the independent value of a woman as such. But no, it doesn’t work, and it’s obvious that this is because the main idea was not chosen from the best.

Among supporters of celibacy, science (no matter what) and creativity are in fashion, for the sake of which it is supposedly worth giving up family. And here there is a lie; There are many women scientists, artists, writers who live full family lives. And hundreds of thousands of eternal laboratory assistants, petty officials, employees, etc., who hate their jobs and are deprived of the consolation of home comfort and family warmth. It is still unknown what the young opponent of marriage will turn out to be, a cashier or a top manager, but it is known that cashiers statistically predominate.

Meanwhile, a woman is a woman, with all her properties and qualities. You just need to understand that these properties are not only physiological, but also mental and even (scary to say!) spiritual. They are the ones who must develop and reach their maximum, and this happens in the family.

Let us not talk now about, so to speak, high celibacy, about monasticism, because this is a special gift. It is not without reason that the patristic idea was expressed that tonsure is for those who have perfect love, and for those who do not, the family exists as a school of love. Meanwhile, convents are now groaning bitterly from the oncoming “novices” who came with vague and lofty goals - and, fortunately, are just as quickly running away. Fortunately for the monastery, but they themselves have a life trauma. However, mostly girls who refuse marriage do not even think about monasticism, but want to live according to their own will, according to their own will, without regard for anyone. And this is the main reason for the formation of the Amazon class.

Gifts in Marriage

But women are endowed with wonderful gifts from above. A woman is capable of being a good wife, loving and loved, regardless of age and changes in appearance. It’s disgusting to look at blooming advertising spouses who together adore crappy margarine, questionable dairy product or detergent, but there is no more wonderful sight than spouses who have lived a long life together and grown old together. On their faces there is peace of soul, based on inner peace and the deepest mutual understanding, verified over decades. They feel good, they feel very good. Their life is full of love, and they have escaped the grave curse of old age - loneliness.

Of course, one can argue that no one prevents a free woman from freely giving birth to a child, or even more than one. But one can already observe the old age of such mothers, and it is unenviable, because children don't forgive incompleteness of one’s childhood - if it occurred at the will of the mother; Moreover, if a woman is widowed or her husband abandoned her unworthily, the children understand this. And besides, they understand - and see, and feel how the mother, proud of her independence, does not soften over the years, but grows callous, does not grow wiser, but becomes an aggressive, limited woman, dooming herself to loneliness before her eyes. And these children themselves, deprived of the child’s share of family warmth, cannot be said to grow up to be very sincere people.

So why shouldn’t a free and active woman earn a lot of money (most often it’s the lack of necessary abilities that gets in the way, but who thinks about that) and use this money to ensure comfort in her old age? But here’s an example: Coco Chanel, beauty, smart, talented, the greatest of the great couturiers, who revolutionized fashion and created a style for decades. Lives in ultra-luxury apartments in an ultra-luxury hotel. She dies completely alone, like a homeless tramp in an open field: she didn’t like to be disturbed, so no one looked in. And what was in the soul of this lonely old woman, who turned her back on all people and everything human - one can only guess. Scary.

Is it just a matter of old age? Young people don’t even think about her at all. But a “fulfilled” marriage even in younger years has amazing properties that cannot be so easily described.

...Many years ago, Moscow was lucky: two legends came for a few days - the greatest director Federico Fellini and his wife, the amazing actress Giulietta Masina. There was a hastily organized reception, which was attended by about two hundred people: directors, actors, composers... And everyone wanted to say something and hear something. And so, at one end of the large hall they are literally tearing Fellini to pieces, at the other - Masina. For those gathered it was a great happiness, a unique, inimitable event. And for the “guests” it is the greatest tension. And it was noticed that they turn around completely synchronously, exchange a quick glance - and again give themselves up to be torn to pieces. This is marriage: at the same second they felt the need for support - and received it just by looking at each other.

I really love watching spouses go. After all, it’s not in an embrace, or arm in arm, and sometimes not even close, but it’s clear that they are united. Amazing words of Scripture about one flesh(see Life 2 :24; Mf 19 :5-6; Mk 10 :7-8, 1 Cor. 6 :16; Eph 5 :31), as follows from the contexts, refer not only to the physical union of spouses, but to the formation of a certain And national, etc. A unique unity, capable of completely transforming the relationship between the individual and the world, making them seem colorful and multidimensional; more precisely, it is the life of single people that seems black and white and flat when compared. No friendship, no matter how strong and faithful, and especially no “romance”, no matter how dizzying, does not provide that spiritual understanding and mutual penetration that grows in marriage and lasts for decades - and moves “increasingly.”

The Mystery of Christian Marriage

To this everyone can say: well, let’s say, marriage creates a unique relationship, but people are mortal, and not everyone manages to “die on the same day,” as the romantic Alexander Green described marital happiness. And what then - the dark horror of loneliness, even more terrible because the loss has occurred? - Yes, that’s the point, it’s not at all. For a Christian marriage there is no eternal separation, but there is eternal life, although in forms that we cannot know about. But when in “Alpha and Omega” I published the memoirs of two spouses (by the way, ideally complementing each other), one of whom had died by that time, I wrote in the afterword that I couldn’t dare call the one who was still in earthly life a widow. And she called me, thanked me and said that it was absolutely true that she didn’t feel like a widow.

This is all what makes marriage very worthwhile. And what is usually called family joys is only an external expression of the amazing mystery of marriage, but it is also full of beauty and grandeur and wondrous in the eyes of God and man.

I can't bear to get married

(exception adverbs written without a soft sign after the hissing at the end of the word)

1) about desire rather smth. do;

2) about marriage.


Live speech. Dictionary of colloquial expressions. - M.: PAIMS. V.P. Belyanin, I.A. Butenko. 1994 .

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