What to do if you don’t want anything. Way out of the deadlock: What to do when you no longer want anything and nothing makes you happy If nothing makes you happy

• Desires- the desire to possess something;
• Motivations- willingness to do anything to achieve what you want.

This condition can be short-term, or it can drag on for many months, which is quite dangerous.

Causes of apathy and what to do if you don’t want anything

Before you challenge apathy, you need to find out what causes it and then take action. Common culprits for lack of desire and motivation are the following:

	Causes of apathy
1	Common lack of energy
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3	Laziness
4	Not accepted by society
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8	Doing something you don't like
9	Distress
10	Physical reasons
11	Asthenia, neurasthenia
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15	Depression

1. Common lack of energy

Everyday routine, problems of relatives, running around at work, streams of endless information and news are exhausting, taking all the energy without a trace.

What do we do when we feel tired? Let's take a mug of warm tea and wrap ourselves in a cozy blanket? No. We go back to work, take care of the children and the household. We think about anyone or anything, just not our loved ones. It is not surprising that there is no strength left at all.

How to deal with this?

• After work, don’t turn on the TV, don’t surf the Internet, don’t read anything. Stop the flow of any information. Such rest will only take away your strength. Better take a walk around the city, take a bath, do something pleasant. The main thing is that you are left alone with your thoughts at least for 30 minutes.
• Think about your past desires. Even children's. Perhaps you wanted to buy something, eat ice cream, go somewhere, but still haven’t done it. In psychology there is such a direction as “Gestaltherapy”. Gestalt is something unfinished that takes energy. Complete your past affairs, fulfill your childhood dreams, and you will release the energy that is holding you back.
• Learn to forgive. If you hold a grudge against someone, you get upset when you think about someone. Stop doing this, you don't need this negativity at all. Let him go. Forgive both that person and yourself. Think about how it will be easier for you if you let go of this problem.
• Hobbies are really cool! Better than psychologists. While doing what we love, we are distracted and receive positive emotions, and some even note that while doing what we love, solutions to some current issues come to them. Remember your childhood hobbies: knitting, embroidery. Maybe you liked making bracelets from beads? Or you liked to glue something - create a family album by hand, make paper garlands for the holiday or a decorative element. Do what you love. You will feel how you began to think about your desires, and not about the desires imposed by others.
• Remember that everything is cyclical. Let's draw an analogy with the change of seasons in a year. Spring is the beginning of something new, beautiful, in the summer we are full of strength and energy, in the fall we reap the fruits of our labors, in winter there is emptiness. So it is with us. The old is gone, but the new has not yet appeared. Winter for nature is a time of rest. During such periods, we force ourselves to work even harder. The onset of this period suggests that you need to gain strength for the next breakthrough, and not waste what little is left. Take a break and take care of yourself. And remember about cyclicality - everything passes, and this will pass.

Everyone has probably watched the old American film Groundhog Day, where the main character has to relive the same day over and over again. This happens in life too. Every day the same work, the same tasks, calls. Sooner or later it gets boring. Any job, even the lightest one, puts a heavy burden on your shoulders. You can't squeeze out a single idea or line. How then can you increase productivity?

What to do?

• Jogging. Even if you're not into running, just give it a try. Take a run around the house at least once. You'll see, you'll come running home charged with energy and full of new ideas.
• Change of work environment. If you work from home, move your workspace to another room or kitchen. If in the office, then try to find a place in the next office, for example. Create an unusual environment for yourself and inspiration will not take long to arrive.
• Changing working tools . Turn off the computer and pick up a notebook or notepad. Make plans and diagrams necessary to work on paper. A letter will help launch the thought process and get you out of your stupor.
• Try to start from the end . While working on a project, change the order of tasks. Choose the tasks that are most attractive to you and start completing them. So gradually you will do everything that is required.
• Change your daily routine . For example, do in the evening what you usually do in the morning and vice versa. Add some variety to your daily plan. For example, if you clean your house after work, then at least try vacuuming in the morning.
• Take a rest . If nothing helps at all, agree with yourself that after a couple of hours of rest and pleasant activities, you will devote yourself to work. This way you motivate yourself with “idleness” and will happily take on any work after a two or three hour break.

Yana. Story-woman editor . Due to the nature of my work, I constantly read a lot of information on the Internet in search of inspiration and new trends in the women's industry. But sometimes, passing by Rospechat, I still buy a magazine to read it in the evening, feel the smell of freshly printed paper and take a break from the monitor.

1. Laziness

Banal laziness is one of the simplest and most harmless reasons for not wanting to do anything. But is she so harmless?

Let's say, in order to become healthy and slim, you decide to run in the morning. In the evening you are full of enthusiasm to start right in the morning. But when you wake up the next morning, you find that running in the morning doesn't seem so rewarding. Healthy sleep is the key to health, you think. You wake up during the allotted time for a run, and in the evening you already regret that you couldn’t get up and blame your laziness for everything. The next morning, history repeats itself... Days, weeks, years pass. So laziness has become a serious obstacle to health and slimness. And now there are extra pounds on the sides, a sore back and other “charms”.

And so it is in everything. Laziness does not allow you to complete your tasks, achieve your goals, or live a full life.

How to fight laziness?

• Dream. It's part of human nature. Close your eyes and let your thoughts fly free. Pleasant pictures, thoughts and desires will begin to appear in your head... You still want something, you always wanted it. There is no point in resisting this.
• Listen to good music. Favorite music can be a great motivator.
• Write wish lists. The main thing is to do it right. When you are alone with yourself, take a pencil and a blank sheet of paper and write down all the desires that can come to your mind. We need to score at least a hundred. According to psychologists, the first 50 desires are not yours, but imposed by society. After about 50 desires, consciousness will begin to reveal the truth to you.
• Use visualization. Think about what you want. Attach a vision board in a prominent place and place on it images of everything you dream about. This way you will see in which direction you need to move.
• Learn to break big things into small ones. It's the same with big dreams. As soon as some goal seems unattainable, think about what you can do to get what you want, think through all the small steps on the way to your dream. You will not even notice how you have achieved what seemed impossible to you just a week, month or year ago.
• Leave your comfort zone. Do what you were afraid to do before. Let changes into your life and it will sparkle with new colors.
• Track your progress. Every day or every month, write down all your successes and achievements and re-read this list from time to time. This will inspire you to further exploits.
• Reflect on your past successes. You graduated from school or college with honors and got a good job. This will help you cope with despondency and lack of faith in your strength. You succeeded once and of course you can again!
• Sometimes it's good to do nothing. At all. Turn off the TV, computer, phone, tablet, sit on a chair and fold your hands. Let's see how long you can stand it. Absolute inaction will force you to do even the least favorite job.

How to overcome laziness: soft, hard and super hard way

1. Not accepted by society

Do you feel lonely and unwanted? Do your colleagues refuse to do business with you and ignore you in every possible way? Are they whispering behind your back? Doesn't anyone appreciate your efforts? Without will you give up, you lose motivation and your self-esteem falls.

According to research, people who are rejected by society, over time, cease to adapt to social norms and monitor their appearance. The process of self-destruction begins. A craving for alcohol and smoking appears, eating behavior is disrupted, for example, an outcast begins to abuse sweets. You lose control over yourself and your life.

What to do?

Talk to people around you, ask about the reasons for such a negative attitude. If you cannot establish contact in a team or in a society in which you have to be for a long time, then it is better to completely change your environment.

1. Neglect of physical needs

You often wake up for work because you go to bed late. You fast for half a day, and in the evening you try to finish what you haven’t eaten all day due to lack of time for a normal lunch break. You often snack on the run. You don't have breakfast. You work so much and so hard that you completely forget about rest. Situations familiar? Neglecting your physical needs can be a serious cause of bad mood. After all, fasting causes a lack of sugar in the body, which makes you irritable and tired. Lack of sleep and rest negatively affects the nervous system. With such a schedule, sooner or later you will simply “break down”.

What to do?

No matter how trite it sounds, take care of yourself. Be more attentive to your body. Eat regularly, walk in the fresh air, relax and your mood will improve in an instant.

You are about to take a big step in life, but you are not sure of any of the possible decisions. Or vice versa, you just need to go to the store, but you don’t know what exactly to buy. The more decision-making situations happen to you, the more energy you lose. You begin to feel tired, but not physically, but psychologically.

What to do?

Keep a notebook where you make a schedule for making decisions. This way you will know roughly when and what you need to decide and won’t get away with it. Because then, . Over time, you will get used to it and it will not seem so difficult to you. Don't forget to include rest hours in your schedule.

Let's say you decide to lose weight. Started to actively exercise and eat healthy. The weight has begun to come off little by little, but you are still far from ideal. You were inspired to see the results and began to practice even more intensely. At some point, weight loss slows down and stops completely. It seems to you that all the effort you expend, the restrictions you endure, are in vain. Instead of waiting out this period, calmly continuing to train and stick to your diet, you get upset and give up everything. You are tired of everything and the best solution for you is to buy fatty and unhealthy food and start eating, eating and eating, sitting in front of the TV. And so in everything: in work, in sports, in self-development.

What to do?

It is necessary to realize that everything does not always go straight into your hands. To get what you want, you need to spend a lot of energy and a lot of time. See the higher meaning in this. Perhaps what you didn’t get, you simply don’t need, or obstacles on the way to what you want will give you the necessary experience. What you got with difficulty will be valued much more.

1. Doing something you don't like

You hate your job, but every day you get out of bed to do what you hate. Why? Because you need money, you have a family, or perhaps, someday, you were promised a good promotion.

Sooner or later you will burn out. You will be overtaken by a state of fatigue, overwork, and inner emptiness. You will begin to blame everyone around you for your misfortune. And you also ask: “why don’t you want to do anything?” Yes, because you are doing the wrong thing!

What to do?

Listen to yourself, what would you really like to do. It seems to you that life or society requires the right things from you, and you obey people and circumstances, drowning out the cries of your own self. Stop doing this and look for your true self. Try new things so you don’t regret missed opportunities later.

1. Distress

Stress can sometimes be good. In stressful situations, the body mobilizes its entire reserve to combat the unpleasant factors that caused stress. Improves performance, attention and memory. But if a stressful situation drags on too long, our body begins to get tired of such stress. There appears complete indifference to what was important. A state comes when you don’t want anything, nothing makes you happy. This kind of long-term stress is called distress. You begin to imagine your future and see little good in it.

Why is this happening?

This is due to the development of the frontal cortex of the brain, which is responsible for our imagination.

• The brain can fill in the blanks. If we didn’t hear something or missed a word in the text, our brain fills in the blanks to get the full picture. Sometimes we don’t even realize that something was missing somewhere. So it is with our thoughts about the future. The brain fills in the blanks regarding your current state.
• We perceive our future in relation to the present. If the current situation causes only negative thoughts, then it becomes more difficult to see a “rosy” future.
• We cannot always guess our feelings in relation to upcoming events. It seems to us that we will be happy when we get married, our team wins, we win the competition. But in fact, when this happens, the surge of positive emotions is not as violent as we expected. But if we suffer now, it is difficult to imagine happiness in the future.

What to do?

• If some events in your life make you wonder how you will feel in the future, it is worth talking to someone who has already encountered this situation. For example, you lost a prestigious job and it haunts you. Talk to a person who has already been fired from a good position, find out how his life turned out.
• Stop trying to control the future. We can imagine, but we cannot predict.
• Do not limit your vision to the future with subjective sensations. Circumstances always happen that can dramatically change your life. Don't look at your feet, look around so you don't miss anything.
• Don't delve into the past. You will not be able to remember past sensations, determine what you liked and what you didn’t. The brain erases all memories of feelings. You will look at the past from the point of view of your condition in the present.
• Not imagining what it will feel like in the future. If you are unable to remember the sensations you experienced, then there is no point in trying to predict future ones.
• Live here and now. If something serious happens, do not engage in deep analysis of the situation. React and act immediately. This will help you cope with difficulties 100% more effectively.

1. Physical reasons.

Often, the state of apathy can be associated with any physical diseases, disturbances in the functioning of internal organs, or the use of certain medications.

Physical reasons:

1. Disruption of the endocrine system;
2. Oncological diseases;
3. Diseases of the cardiovascular system;
4. Alcoholism and drug addiction;
5. Past serious illnesses;
6. Lack of vitamins;
7. Taking hormonal drugs (Dexamethasone, Prednisolone) and oral contraceptives;
8. Taking medications that help lower blood pressure (Enalapril).

What to do?

First of all, you should contact a medical institution for a full examination. If it turns out that apathy is caused by problems in the body, it is necessary to undergo treatment.

1. Asthenia, neurasthenia.

The consequence of a serious illness (flu or pneumonia) can be asthenic syndrome. All the forces of the organism were spent on fighting the disease. Doing usual things requires more effort and time, and any nervous shock, even pleasant, can provoke hysteria and tears. Asthenia can also be caused by a chronic disease that leads to loss of strength: AIDS, hypotension, diabetes. A person experiences complete indifference to everything, powerlessness.

There is also a type of asthenia - neurasthenia, a consequence of psychological trauma. The body saves strength and recovers from the shock it has experienced. This is more likely not apathy, but irritation, frequent mood swings.

The development of neurasthenia goes through three phases:

1. Equalization. A person reacts equally violently to an everyday trifle and to a larger problem.
2. Paradoxical. A person is unable to respond to serious problems, but breaks down over trifles.
3. Ultra paradoxical . Absolute fatigue and indifference. A person does not understand what is happening around him, it is difficult for him to respond and react.

How to fight?

1. Take medications and vitamins that help improve brain activity;
2. Start using special psychological techniques. For example, during the paradoxical phase, the “Watchman” exercise will help:

We lie down on the sofa, close our eyes and try to dismiss all thoughts except one. We imagine that in our head sits a pumped-up guy in a security guard’s uniform, on his head is a cap with the inscription “Security”. He has no sense of humor, he says only one phrase: “Goodbye!”

1. Chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS)

Apathy may be a consequence of CFS. What is CFS? Here the opinions of scientists are ambiguous. Some believe that this is the same as asthenia and neurasthenia. Others call CFS immune dysfunction or encephalomyelitis.

Unlike asthenia, the syndrome affects groups of people. It is unknown why this happens. Common versions: undetected virus, intestinal disorders, immune problems, hidden food allergies.

Symptoms of CFS:

1. Insomnia;
2. Muscle weakness;
3. Body aches;
4. Exhaustion.

Scientists agree that this is the result of fatigue. You can get positive emotions from the patient, a sincere smile towards friends and family.

What to do?

Contact a specialist for a full examination.

1. Schizophrenia and organic lesions in the brain

The cause of apathy can be dementia, neuroinfections, Pick's disease, Alzheimer's, which leads to degradation, accompanied by the loss of any desires other than satisfying physical needs.

Apathy can also be a symptom of schizophrenia. It all starts with the emergence of delusional ideas and loss of interest in everything. It is difficult for the patient to “kill time”; he stops taking care of himself and the house, which is gradually turning into a garbage dump. Then hallucinations appear, a delusional idea attracts his attention and temporarily returns energy to the patient.

What to do?

As soon as possible, contact a psychiatrist who will prescribe specialized treatment.

1. Burnout syndrome (EBS)

SEW is psychological exhaustion caused by prolonged stress. The risk group for this disease includes mainly citizens who work with people. Some of the most dedicated professionals are suffering: doctors, teachers, social workers... These people face a wave of negativity every day, while putting their “soul” into their work. They do not recognize their right to fatigue and rest, trying to help not only formally. Over time, energy “leaks away” and psychosomatic diseases develop. The psyche tries to defend itself, “turns off” emotions, human activity becomes formal, specialists become irritated and indifferent towards their clients.

Symptoms:

1. Persistent fatigue;
2. Constant feeling of sadness;
3. Ennui;
4. Lack of self-confidence;
5. Inability to express any emotions;
6. Lack of desires.

CMEA develops as follows:

Stage 1 . A sudden onset of fatigue, frequent mood swings, loss of interest in previously loved work. A person tries to work through force, not paying attention to the alarming signals of his body, and stops sleeping peacefully. The feeling of anxiety increases.

Stage 2 . The person stops communicating with people. Expresses a negative attitude towards others, becoming sarcastic and irritable.

Stage 3 . A person loses all contact with society, withdraws into himself, and stops taking care of himself. Bad habits develop: drug addiction, alcoholism, smoking.

How to deal with CMEA?

But it is best to prevent the development of such a condition. If you feel that regular sleep has ceased to save you from fatigue, take the following measures:

• Get more rest, don’t miss vacations and weekends, leave your workplace on time;
• Don't fill your head with unnecessary information. Turn off the TV and read a good book;
• Do what makes you happy;
• More physical activity;
• Do not use gadgets too often and for a long time;
• Seek new experiences;
• Learn to prioritize. You can't keep up with everything at once. Important things first, the rest can wait;
• Think about your health first. Sleep at least 7 hours. Consume sweets and caffeine in moderation;
• Express your emotions. Man is imperfect. Be human;
• Don't promise too much, otherwise it will poison your life;
• Think about what you dream about and what will help make your dream come true;
• Don't neglect sedatives. They will help prevent the development of CMEA.
• Try to avoid situations that upset you.

1. Depression

Depression is one of the most dangerous causes of apathy. Depression is a psychological disorder accompanied by loss of interest in life, eating and sleeping disorders, and emotional inhibition. The bad mood does not go away within two weeks. Sometimes thoughts of suicide arise.

According to experts, a depressed person will not necessarily look depressed. Sometimes people deliberately have fun and become overly active in order to hide their condition. But everything they do brings them no joy.

Causes of depression can be:

• Predisposition to this condition;
• Death of someone close;
• Severe exhaustion;
• Mental disorders;
• Prolonged stress;
• Life changes (retirement, divorce, job loss).

How to overcome depression?

In the first six months, you can cope with depression on your own. To do this, you must adhere to the following rules:

1. Try to distract yourself. Don't be alone, do something enjoyable, find a hobby. After all, loneliness and idleness are ideal conditions for gloomy thoughts;
2. Move more, or better yet, go in for sports. Physical activity means health, slimness and endorphins. Three components of a great mood. But choose gentle activities such as yoga or Pilates, as too intense workouts can worsen the condition;
3. Don't set the bar too high. By demanding that we fulfill high goals and endless tasks, we do not allow ourselves to relax and create stressful situations ourselves;
4. Watch your diet. Don't skip meal times, eat healthy and nutritious foods. This will strengthen not only your body, but also your nervous system;
5. Try to understand the reason. Think about what triggered your condition. Rethink the situation, it may help you cope with negative thoughts.

If you can't cope with depression on your own:

1. Contact a specialist who will prescribe antidepressants and prescribe psychotherapy;
2. Strictly follow all doctor's instructions;
3. Be attentive to your condition, notify your doctor of any changes;
4. Make a plan for the next day, take up every hour of your time;
5. Set yourself achievable goals;
6. Keep records;
7. Leave bed immediately after waking up;
8. Discuss measures to combat a possible relapse with your doctor.

Unfortunately, our children can also be susceptible to apathy. Since they spend most of their time at school and at home, the cause of apathy should be sought there.

The most likely causes of apathy in children

1. Lack of parental attention;
2. Incorrect approach to the child on the part of teachers;
3. Problems communicating with peers.

How to deal with childhood apathy?

More attention from parents is needed. Joint trips, games, and activities will be beneficial. You should talk and have conversations with your baby more often. In the case of peers, organizing events and games will help the child find a common language with other children and communicate more often outside of school hours.

And finally, some advice from the famous coach Leonid Krol on what to do when you don’t feel like doing anything:

• You need any desires, especially forbidden ones;
• A tired person will not be able to care for others, because he does not know what these “others” really need. Find out from your loved ones what they want. Once your care becomes precise, it will become much easier;
• If you decide to save the whole world, start with yourself;
• Express emotions, even anger;
• Outline your territory, everyone should have one;
• Do your exercises every day, which should include exercises to develop plasticity and somersaults. Keep your back straight and your shoulders back;
• Remember your debts, but don’t forget about time for yourself;
• Make new acquaintances, do not hesitate to communicate;
• How tired are you? Start doing more work than planned and you will understand what fatigue it is like.

Down with gloom! Apathy and laziness

Many people experience periods in their lives when they lose all interest in it. People begin to remember the years of their youth, when they were interested in any events, they strived for something, achieved something. We rejoiced at every little thing and every evening, going to bed, we dreamed that a new day would come faster. Where do all these feelings disappear over the years, how to deal with it? How to regain interest in life?

Reasons why life becomes boring

In fact, it’s easy to understand why you lose interest in life. People begin to close themselves off from the world around them, they do not want to see and hear everything that is happening. In a similar way, a person exhibits a defensive reaction, which helps to hide from the pain encountered on his life's path.

Everyone can remember how often he utters such phrases: I don’t want to see this, I don’t want to hear this, I have no desire to experience this again. When pronouncing such phrases, people trigger certain mechanisms:

• Destruction program.
• Completely block out any feelings.
• The real world in all its manifestations is no longer perceived.

Regardless of whether a person understands that with such thoughts he is giving an order to launch a program of destruction, he acts. There are several channels of perception on which the understanding of the surrounding reality depends. How to regain interest in life? You need to learn to correctly perceive the world around you.

Signs of Depression

If you have no interest in life, what should you do? How can you tell if a person is depressed? Psychologists define it according to the following characteristics:

• A person ceases to be pleased with any events that previously caused positive emotions. Apathy, sadness, guilt and despondency appear.
• The person no longer sees a way out of the current situation.
• Interest in sexual life is lost and physical activity decreases. Sleep became short, and interest in food was lost.
• Self-confidence completely disappears, and the person begins to avoid other people. In some cases, suicidal thoughts appear.
• People can no longer control their feelings and emotions.

It is quite difficult to get out of such a state, but it is possible, and in such a situation it would be useful to seek help from a psychologist.

Vision - visual channel of perception

Thanks to vision, people have the ability to see, distinguish a large number of shades, and notice everything that happens around them. As people age, their vision deteriorates, but not because they lose the ability to see. Scientists conducted many experiments and were able to prove that it can be 100% even in old age.

Visual perception of the surrounding reality depends on how ready a person is to notice and accept everything that surrounds him. Any offense, manifestation of anger and irritation “closes people’s eyes.” Diseases associated with vision loss or deterioration occur because people do not like everything they see in their lives. In children, such diseases arise because they do not want to see what is happening in their families.

Hearing is the auditory channel of perception

Hearing is the most important channel for perceiving the world around us. It also affects the ability to speak. The vibrations emitted by sound are perceived not only by the hearing organs, but by the whole body. Therefore, when a person’s ability to perceive information through the organs of hearing is closed, he is fenced off from life and the surrounding reality.

People often repeat what was said, mostly because their attention is very distracted. The auditory perception is also closed in cases when the interlocutor screams loudly, especially if it is something unpleasant. Children often have hearing problems due to loud scandals in the family, they do not want to accept it, and as a result various diseases arise.

Sensory channel of perception: sensations and feelings

A person receives most of the information thanks to his feelings, and he closes them, if something goes wrong, instantly. This often happens when he is faced with insurmountable obstacles, such as fear, resentment, love suffering. Life becomes uninteresting because its taste is lost. It has a direct connection with the perception of any smells, tastes, and tactile sensations are also of great importance.

People often resort to the simplest way to turn off such a channel of perception - smoking. You can also dull your feelings by closing yourself off; computer games and the Internet allow you to escape from reality into another world. Today, when technology has developed to a high level, this happens very often.

If you lose interest in life, what should you do? There are some rules for those who have lost interest in life, they will help regain it.

You need to completely change your schedule. This could be a change in the route a person takes to work. Perhaps it is worth abandoning the transport he is following, or getting off a little earlier than his stop and then continuing on foot. Many people find it helpful to listen to their favorite music while traveling and on their way to work. This helps strengthen the nervous system.

How to regain interest in life? Advice from a psychologist: you need to start experimenting and stop being afraid of new things in your life. It is also important to stop eating the same foods. Change your hairstyle if it hasn’t changed for a long time, update your wardrobe. You need to start enjoying all kinds of innovations.

It would be a good idea to update the interior of your home; you may even have to throw away some old things and buy new ones. Adding new colors to the interior of the apartment also helps.

You will need to become a little selfish and get rid of those responsibilities that were familiar and took up a lot of time, but were not necessary. You need to start loving yourself and stop listening to someone, learn to believe in yourself. Enjoy any small positive events in your life.

What needs to be done to regain the desire to live

How to regain interest in life? The advice of psychologists boils down to the fact that you need to learn to accept the world around you as it is, and treat yourself in the same way, perceive yourself as real in this world and begin to respect. Be grateful for all the events that happen in your life.

When a person has lost interest in life, what to do? Everything is very simple, in fact, life responds to what a person does in it, and all events do not happen by chance. To start living and enjoying what is happening, you just need to be a person with a capital “H”, believe in yourself and not commit

In order for the desire to live to appear, a person must be completely satisfied with himself and everything that he does. Of course, it is difficult to imagine a person who will be satisfied with everything that happens, but who is not successful. But many people believe that success is money. Everything is much simpler, a successful person is one who realizes himself and loves his type of activity. There are people who do not have much wealth, but consider themselves successful and enjoy life.

Success does not mean having an expensive house, car, yacht. All these are just little things in life compared to when a person was able to realize himself. A successful person always returns home with great joy and is glad to meet people close to him. Such people know what their meaning in life is, they have clearly defined goals that they strive for.

If you have lost interest in life, what is the simplest thing you can do? Even some of the world's leading psychologists advise not to lose your sense of humor in any, even the most difficult situation. And sometimes you can laugh at yourself.

There are moments that help get rid of depression.

It is necessary, as strange as it may sound, to balance your diet. Stop making all sorts of snacks that don’t lead to anything good. It is necessary to balance your diet so correctly that you do not have to resort to additional consumption of any vitamin complexes. It is useful to eat a small amount of dark chocolate, it helps

It helps to cope with problems very well by keeping a diary, in which you need to write down any little things that happen in life, both successes and defeats. Sometimes there are cases that help to get out of depression - this is a state of shock. These are moments when a person urgently needs to act in a given situation. In this state, he forgets about all the problems that prevent him from living normally. It is important that such actions are under the supervision of a specialist, otherwise the negative consequences can be very dangerous.

Lost interest in life? You need to pay attention to such simple things as your daily and night routine. Analyze whether the sleep and rest schedule is correct. First of all, you need to normalize your sleep and be sure to find some favorite activity that will become a hobby. Thanks to this, you can completely escape from pressing problems.

If it seems that everything in life is bad, then how to find interest in life? You need to reconsider your views on it and understand that it is rich in many positive events. You need to become more optimistic. Believe that life can change in a positive way, and begin to make every effort to achieve this.

Most people tend to exaggerate events in their lives. You need to look back and analyze what is happening, and then everything will begin to fall into place. Perhaps some problems were too exaggerated or completely far-fetched. It is best in cases when depression has overcome you to look around and see how colorful the world around you is. Start enjoying life and everything will start to get better.

Taking a break from your activities as a means of combating depression

How to return a person's interest in life with the help of a pause in business? There's nothing complicated about it. You just need to relax, perhaps do meditation or go on vacation in nature. Feel how pleasant it is to meet the sunrise in some of your favorite places. Spend the evening by the fire. Watch the water flow and not think about your problems. Listen to your soul and remember some pleasant moments in life.

Remember your life purpose

How to restore joy and interest in life? To do this, a person needs to remember his innermost dreams, because everyone has had them. It is as if you need to go back to the past and find what made you happy at that time, the meaning that gave you energy and the desire to live. Then it’s good to think at what exact moment the turning point in life occurred and what exactly happened, why live. Then you need to mentally return to the place and time when this happened and rewrite the past. After such a rethinking of everything that is happening, you should begin to live in complete harmony with your soul and check everything with it. Medicine that can help overcome psychological difficulties is in everyone’s soul.

How to stop blocking feelings

There are 2 options for advice from psychologists on how to regain interest in life and stop blocking feelings.

First: you need to try to look inside yourself, to understand what kind of emotions you want to hide from others and yourself. Next, you need to accept them completely, feel them, experience them and simply let them go.

This is best done in childhood. A child can freely, without hesitation, cry if someone has offended him, and immediately forget about everything and start playing, doing his favorite thing. This way children easily let go of negative emotions.

It is much more difficult for an adult. He needs to find a place where no one will see him. Calm down and understand what emotions bother him most. When he has dealt with this, he needs to accept them, feel them completely, and in this way he can reset the negative emotions. Negative feelings will no longer be blocked, and it will become much easier.

The second option: a person needs to seek help from a psychotherapist.

Laughter is the simplest remedy to relieve depression

A person just needs to perceive everything easier. Start every morning with a smile and understand that life is beautiful, no matter what. It is very useful to watch comedy films. This simple therapy has helped many people begin to enjoy life and get rid of the negative emotions that eat them from within.

Conclusion

There is a well-known truth: any correctly posed question carries an answer. A person wondering how to regain interest in life is already on the right path.

The state of apathy and depression, when nothing makes you happy in life and you have no strength for anything, is striking people en masse, and doctors are already sounding the alarm. Previously, it was believed that apathy was a temporary phenomenon and did not require special attention. However, now, more and more often, apathy turns into severe and protracted depression, which already needs to be treated in a hospital.

What is apathy in humans, how does it appear, and why does it happen?

The main reason for apathy is a simple lack of energy. In the modern world, we must be on the move all the time, run all the time, hurry, and we don’t have a second to rest. For some time the body copes, a “second wind” may open, then a third, fourth, but the body’s resources are not limitless. At some point, our body begins to rebel and turns on a defense mechanism called “apathy.”

Apathy sets in, you don’t want to do anything, and you feel constant fatigue, when you don’t even have the strength or desire to turn your head. We know what to do when the battery in our phone runs out, but what to do when the battery in our body runs out? This is even more difficult when you don’t want to do anything.

Apathy due to emotional burnout occurs in those who take their work too seriously. These are doctors, rescuers, firefighters, police, etc. Giving all of themselves to work, saving people and not feeling the return, people burn out. Sometimes powerlessness and inability to save someone who trusted you causes disappointment in your profession or in yourself. At first this manifests itself in rudeness, and then indifference to one’s work.

Apathy is a rather serious condition. Starting with indifference and detachment, aversion to life may also appear. No one is immune from this misfortune, and apathy can overtake a woman, a man, and a child.

The state of apathy, if you don’t want to do anything, is not simply laziness, with which it is often confused. Apathy is based on psychophysiological reasons. The causes of laziness are similar to those of apathy, but they are not as dangerous. With laziness, a person is in harmony with himself, and he is consciously lazy, not wanting to do anything. A lazy person causes irritation, and an apathetic person causes anxiety. Laziness is a permanent human state that lasts continuously for years, while apathy occurs in active and cheerful people, and is of a severe nature, requiring the attention of a psychologist.

Weakness, drowsiness, apathy, fatigue, causes in women

Women are physically weaker than men; in addition, they are often more emotional and vulnerable. In this regard, the causes of apathy in women can be of various origins.

Hormones play a huge role in a woman's health. Pregnancy, menopause, PMS, cause a hormonal storm in the body, frequent mood swings, and at some point, this mood may freeze at its lowest point.

To treat certain diseases, women undergo hormonal treatment. A hormonal imbalance in the body can cause a whole chain of disruptions that lead to apathy. Appetite is disrupted, as a rule, women begin to overeat, gain weight, and when looking in the mirror, experience extreme stress. This stress is exacerbated if treatment does not have the desired effect. Lack of faith in the future and lack of strength to fight further leads to apathy and depression.

Unhappy love is a huge challenge for any person, but some women experience it more acutely. If a breakup occurs, the woman feels abandoned, unwanted, and is overcome by a wave of despair. At first, this is an understandable desire to cry, and at such moments no one is eager to interrupt this flow. It is believed that in such cases you need to let her cry, but without friendly support, the woman is exhausted from tears, and soon there is emptiness left. Then there are no more tears, but there are no other desires either.

Apathy in women can be caused by overwork. This especially often occurs after the birth of a child, when chronic lack of sleep gives way to constant fear for the child, and not very correct statements from relatives or lack of help from a spouse cause a feeling of inferiority. A woman tells herself that she is a bad mother, a bad wife, and all her efforts lead to nothing. Why then all this? Why cook, clean, take care of yourself if no one cares about you. A bad mood is combined with physical fatigue, which over time leads to apathy.

Unfulfilled dreams, shattered hopes, when everything goes wrong and a woman does not have time to comprehend what is happening around her, she withdraws into herself and does not react to the outside world at all.

In fact, there are many reasons why apathy occurs. The death of a loved one, stress, loss of a job, and when a series of unpleasant events does not stop, a certain fuse is triggered in the head, which turns off all feelings and emotions.

Causes of apathy in men

Apathy can arise against a background of dissatisfaction with oneself. Men often shoulder an unbearable burden. They clearly plan everything, but if the plan goes awry, irritation arises, they blame themselves for their inability to cope with the situation, and as a result, any desire to do something disappears.

The constant routine, repeated day after day, has already received its name: “Groundhog Day.” A person feels trapped and cannot escape from it. Every new day is similar to the previous one. A person does not see the future, he walks in circles, and there is no end to this. Everything loses its meaning, home-work, work-home, and all the colors in life have faded. The man automatically goes through all the movements, actions, and slowly loses control over himself. He doesn’t remember what day it is, whether he put on his shoes, or wears slippers to work, he is overcome by indifference to everything. One day he simply won’t get up for work in the morning and will remain lying on the bed, looking blankly at the ceiling. He ceases to recognize himself as a living person, and this is not an exaggeration. With apathetic depression, devitalization of mental alienation appears when a person loses awareness of his own “I”. The instinct of self-preservation disappears, as does the desire to exist.

If a man is too responsible, he often takes on too much. He helps everyone, of course, everyone uses it with pleasure. Chronic fatigue, lack of sleep, irregular nutrition and every second responsibility lead to chronic fatigue. The word “I want” is replaced by the word “need”, and so on endlessly. If you always follow circumstances, ignoring your own needs, over time, weakness, drowsiness along with insomnia, fatigue and apathy appear.

Often, apathy in men can be the result of prolonged stress. A job you don’t like, bad relationships in the family, all this accumulates over the years and gradually drains all your strength. For his own reasons, a man cannot or does not want to change the situation and continues to go with the flow as long as he has the strength.

Apathy does not begin suddenly, and the first signs of this disorder can be noticed long before the person simply refuses to move.

First of all, a man gives up his hobbies. If he used to go fishing or go to a bar with friends on weekends, then with the onset of apathy this becomes uninteresting to him. He moves away from his friends and spends more and more time alone, just staring at the wall.

Then there is confusion, lethargy, memory loss and drowsiness. People around him write this off as laziness, and the alarm begins to sound only when a person stops taking care of himself, washing, eating and reacting to his surroundings.

This is a severe stage of apathy, and if this condition continues for more than two weeks, it’s time to get down to business. A person will not get out of this state on his own and will simply wither away.

How to deal with fatigue and apathy

Quite rarely, a person with apathy turns to doctors for help. I want to lie down and do nothing, not even breathe or blink. Everything has lost its meaning and absolute indifference to one’s own condition does not allow a person to realize the need for treatment.

After all, many people miss the first symptoms of apathy and attribute everything to simple fatigue. They hope to sleep off, go on vacation and everything will pass. But it’s not always possible to rest on time, and at work they can be loaded with additional urgent work.

In such cases, it is important to listen to yourself and not drive yourself like a “draft horse.” Sometimes, for the sake of your own health, you can give an ultimatum to your superiors. Of course, this is not the best option, but the fact is that if apathy overtakes you, you may lose your job anyway. Only you will be sick, unhappy and useless to anyone. Yesterday's valuable employee will turn into a pale shadow of yesterday's workaholic.

Apathy is a problem in modern society, and therefore it is wiser to prevent this disorder and not bring it to a clinical state, which, according to the International Classification of Diseases, has an index of R45.3 “Demoralization and apathy.”

Treatment of apathetic depression - the right approach is important

Apathetic depression is not always easy to treat. Often an integrated approach is needed, combining psychotraining and restorative therapy of the body. By the time relatives begin to sound the alarm, the patient is already exhausted both mentally and physically, he simply does not have the strength, even for treatment. Weakness and prolonged fasting exhaust the body, and every movement is difficult.

In such cases, a vitamin complex is prescribed to improve the patient’s physical condition, enhanced nutrition, and only then psychotherapy sessions are prescribed.

In cases of severe apathy, treatment often begins with hypnosis sessions. It is important to reach the patient, bring him out of his stupor and give him motivation to heal. In a state of hypnosis, a person is freed from his problems, and by exploring all corners of a person’s memory, one can find what exactly caused the disorder and how to get out of it.

Subsequently, during psychotherapy sessions, the patient, together with the psychologist, sorts out what was wrong. It is important to correctly measure your capabilities and strengths so as not to be upset by failures and unfulfilled dreams. You can get out of apathy this time, but you need to learn not to get into such situations again.

It is important to be aware of your “I”, which determines all our and not our “wants”. Being kind and sympathetic is wonderful, but we must not forget about ourselves. If the inner “I” protests, a person comes into conflict with himself, and it is important to realize this.

When psychotraining does not bring results, the doctor may prescribe psychostimulants for nervous activity. It is better not to select medications on your own, and amateur activity is not encouraged here. Most over-the-counter medications have a sedative effect of varying degrees. These drugs can only harm the patient. In addition, drug therapy must be combined with psychotherapy.

Scientists write that it is enough for an adult to sleep 6 hours a day, but they forget to add that these are average figures. Allow as much time for your sleep as your body needs. Don't forget about exercise and proper nutrition. It is not for nothing that they say that in a healthy body there is a healthy mind. The body will find the necessary resources during the next trouble, but these resources need to be protected and replenished in a timely manner.

Learn to be optimistic. It sounds strange, but optimism can be learned. There is a share of optimism in every person, and with regular training you can develop the ability to see the good and believe more in miracles. Treat everyday problems with irony and a bit of humor, because these are little things that are not worth your worries.

Most often, the people who fall under the influence of apathy are those who themselves allowed this to happen. They limited themselves only to work and responsibilities, and completely abandoned entertainment. It’s always a pity to spend time and money on entertainment, but a person needs them. Let it be a trip to the zoo, to the cinema, or riding a bike, but the human brain needs a change of scenery and emotions. Otherwise, the repeating image of “Groundhog Day” will return again.

Apathy, low performance. Causes of chronic fatigue

Every person experiences depression at least once in their life. The cause may be nervous tension, severe stress, or chronic diseases. Depression often occurs.

People with depression need qualified help, as it is not just a loss of mood, but a serious illness that can lead to serious consequences.

Causes

The causes of prolonged depression are the occurrence of abnormalities in the functioning of the nervous system, which contains a supply of neurotransmitters that control a person’s mental state.

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When their number decreases, then a mental disorder begins to develop. A person can remain in this state for many years, not realizing that this is not fatigue and is not the norm.

In this case, they talk about prolonged depression. It can affect the functioning of the cardiovascular and endocrine systems, cause bronchial asthma and disturbances in the gastrointestinal tract, and joint pain.

Under such circumstances, the consequences of depression are very often considered as the main disease, while the state of nervous disorder itself is not taken into account, and therefore ineffective treatment is prescribed.

Symptoms

• The state of depression is characterized by increased anxiety and hopelessness. A person is haunted by a feeling of approaching disaster. Patients lose self-confidence, begin to engage in self-deprecation, and an unreasonable sense of guilt grows. Loss of interest in what is happening around, the lives of loved ones.
• Typical signs are sleep disturbances, and weight loss may occur without following a special diet.
• At the same time, eating disorders may also be present, in both directions - from refusal to eat to overeating.
• Lost interest in sex life.
• During this period, people are not inclined to communicate, they prefer to be alone, and refuse to attend any entertainment events.
• Very often, addiction to alcohol or the use of psychotropic substances develops against the background of a depressive disorder.
• Patients lose the ability to concentrate and find it difficult to make any decisions.
• Difficulties arise in formulating thoughts, the thinking process slows down.
• People lose meaning in life, do not see further prospects, and are pessimistic about the future.
• In difficult situations, thoughts of suicide and attempts to make them come true often arise.
• The condition can also manifest itself as tearfulness, a feeling that no one understands the person.
• The patient stops trusting others and tends to refuse outside help. Regardless of the load, fatigue sets in quickly.

At the same time, the presence of some of these signs does not always indicate the development of a mental disorder. For some people, this may be the norm of life, which does not cause inconvenience and does not negatively affect their state of mind. People with depression exhibit at least 80% of the listed symptoms.

Treatment

Treatment of prolonged depression should be carried out in different directions. Only in this case can you count on achieving the desired result.

Treatment includes:

• additional methods.

Psychotherapy for prolonged depression is mandatory, since the likelihood of getting out of this condition on your own is minimal. For this you need the help of specialists.

If you experience most of the symptoms, it is recommended to contact one of the following specialists:

• psychotherapist;
• psychiatrist;
• psychologist;
• neurologist.

Each doctor has his own methods of influence. Medications, talking, and hypnosis can be used. But in any case, it makes sense to turn to specialists only in cases where a person himself absolutely wants to be healed. Otherwise, any therapy will not bring the desired result.

Taking medications is a mandatory part of the treatment program. They are used to calm the nervous system and reduce sensitivity to external stimuli. You need to know that medications cannot be the only treatment method. This is only a way to muffle existing symptoms so that it is easier to work with the patient’s mental disorder.

Almost all drugs of this type have a number of contraindications and side effects. Therefore, only a doctor should prescribe them. Self-selecting antidepressants can worsen the situation and cause additional health problems.

Treatment based on the first two points may be ineffective if the patient does not make independent efforts to recover.

Complete rest	To restore, the body needs a sufficient amount of energy, the reserves of which it restores during sleep. Therefore, getting enough sleep is a prerequisite for normal well-being. A good rest will help to some extent get rid of the feeling of chronic fatigue and increase concentration. People with low blood pressure should be aware that they need more time to sleep.
Proper nutrition	Eating fatty, heavy foods has a negative effect on the body, and accordingly, your health worsens. If you regularly eat healthy food, paying more attention to cereals, vegetables and fruits, then your health and mood will improve.
Using the healing properties of plants	are an excellent addition, and in some cases an analogue, to taking medications. They have a relaxing effect on the nervous system, helping to calm down and come to one’s senses.
Physical exercise	The minimum that is necessary for everyone is daily exercise. Additionally, you can choose activities to your liking: swimming, yoga, dancing or football. Working out in a group has a beneficial effect on your mental state. You can also use sports equipment and exercise daily at home. In addition to the effect it has on the nervous system, sport improves your figure, which affects self-esteem.
Attractive appearance	Not all people like their appearance, which can cause a number of problems with self-esteem and be, if not a trigger, then an important factor influencing the development of depression. Women who are not satisfied with their appearance do not have to undergo plastic surgery - on the Internet you can find a lot of video tutorials and learn how to turn yourself into a beauty with the help of cosmetics.

• Unlearn how to feel sorry for yourself. Empathy and compassion for others is a good habit that not everyone has. But many people like to feel sorry for themselves.
• Against the background of self-pity, depression will progress, leaving no chance for recovery. Therefore, only self-improvement and analysis will help.
• It is necessary to realize that to correct any situation you will have to make efforts, and pity only destroys a person, not giving him the opportunity to move forward.
• Don't be dramatic. Many people experience similar events in their lives that can cause depressive disorder. However, everyone goes through it differently.
• You should not overwhelm yourself by coming up with possible negative scenarios. As a rule, we think more about what will never happen. Spend more time on real issues and finding solutions, distracting yourself from the negative.
• Take more action. What we “feed” in ourselves, develop, grows. Therefore, it is necessary to move as much as possible, communicate, engage in self-development, and not wait, lying on the couch, for depression to go away.

Closed spaces are dangerous for a depressed person; he begins to feel worse and gets used to it. The more time you spend outdoors, the better for your well-being.

In children

Factors that can cause prolonged depression in a child include:

• long-term illnesses, prolonged stays in hospitals;
• child's psychotype, tendency to suspiciousness, anxiety, hysteria;
• development of personality in unfavorable conditions, growth in a dysfunctional family;
• the presence of mental disorders, for example, schizophrenia;
• damage to the central nervous system.

Having arisen in childhood, the disease enters a chronic stage and becomes a constant companion of a person in adulthood. In this case, treatment requires a lot of effort, and there is not always a chance to get rid of such a disorder and avoid relapses.

Consequences

The consequences of prolonged depression are becoming more obvious and dangerous every day:

Development of diseases	Depressive states are always accompanied by a passive lifestyle, indifference to the quality of nutrition and sports. But the likelihood of developing alcohol and drug addictions increases, which certainly leads to health problems.
Nervous exhaustion and breakdowns	Irritability, aggression, and apathy accumulate in the body, which can ultimately lead to disaster. A person in a state of passion does not control his actions and is capable of any action, which is dangerous not only for him, but also for those around him.
Lack of meaning in life	The most likely outcome when such thoughts worsen is an attempt to commit suicide. The person is sure that no one needs him and there is no point in his existence.
Appearance	Prolonged depression always affects a person’s appearance. Changes can be manifested by obesity or anorexia, fatigue and circles under the eyes, unkemptness, incorrect posture, unkempt clothing, etc.

You don’t want anything, everything seems gray and monotonous, what you used to really like doesn’t bring pleasure, there is melancholy or emptiness in your soul, questions creep in about the meaning of life, or thoughts about its absence. Do you know this feeling?

• Loss of loved ones, pets;
• Loss of important relationships;
• Accidents, disasters and other life-threatening situations;
• Moving to another city, changing jobs, changing social circles;
• Even seemingly positive changes in life such as marriage and the birth of a child;
• Systematic conflicts at work or at home;
• Disappointments, betrayals, collapse of hopes and plans.

Everyone probably encounters periods in life when joy disappears somewhere. Only some people can cope with and survive this period with relative ease, allowing themselves to be sad, complain to friends, get angry at others and begin to feel joy again, while others get stuck in dullness and despondency for many weeks, months and even years.

Signs of Depression

“Loss of joy” in psychological language is called depression. Signs of depression include:

• Depressed mood for more than 7-10 days;
• Decreased vital activity;
• Loss of appetite;
• Sleep disturbance;
• Poor health – lethargy, apathy, drowsiness, disturbances at the level of the gastrointestinal tract;
• Decreased sexual desire;
• Inhibition at the level of feelings and thoughts.

Such a psychological difficulty can be either mild in nature, easily amenable to psychological correction, or be a mental illness (in medical language it is called endogenous depression). Most often, depression is caused by purely psychological reasons, when help or a psychotherapist is required.

Treatment of depression

If your mood is very low, it is important not to postpone your visit to a specialist, but to seek help in a timely manner. At the first meeting, the specialist will conduct a consultation, after which he will determine the necessary methods of psychological assistance. It is very difficult, and sometimes impossible, to get rid of depression on your own, since special psychological defense mechanisms operate in the human psyche that do not allow a sober assessment of the situation, understanding the causes of the problem, or looking at the circumstances objectively. Our psyche is created in such a way that it distorts the perception of reality in a certain way, based on our upbringing, experience, habits and stereotypes.

It is important to know that traditionally in medical institutions all types of depression are treated with psychotropic drugs. In the case where depression is caused by psycho-emotional reasons (and this is the overwhelming number of requests), this approach has proven to be ineffective, because the very reason for the development of the disorder is not eliminated, but only the external manifestations of depression are artificially muffled. As a result, some time after the end of treatment, depression returns again. In addition, the use of psychotropic drugs entails side effects. Therefore, in addition to taking medications (antidepressants), qualified psychotherapy is very important.

Who helps with depression at the Ember center and how?

At the Ember Psychology Center, when working with psychological (neurotic) depression, specialists do not use medications, but use special psychological techniques to activate the body’s natural resources. Thus, during training, the very cause of the problem is eliminated, which prevents the return of depression.

The work of a psychologist is complex and sometimes invisible, but its result can change your whole life, because the result can be a new quality of life, a state when you don’t stand still and think about how to live further, but move forward, live, dream...breathe fully chest. Good luck to you on this exciting journey!